Disappointed in my ring and proposal.

[fungalinthejungle]

Has anyone ever felt this way? I got engaged just before lockdown.

It was at home, just the two of us. No fanfare. And the ring is not exactly what I'd dreamed of. He then had a jam packed week at work so I barely saw him and then we went into lockdown.

So we haven't been able to see any family and friends but that's just one of those things.

I sound so ungrateful but I'd always dreamed of an amazing proposal moment and feeling excited and not disappointed when I saw the ring.

Ultimately I know that it doesn't really matter because we are getting married and I hate myself for feeling this way.

Has anyone else ever felt the same?!

Hi, as we’re on one of my favourite subjects of rings, has anyone been to Boodles? That shop is the mother ship for me. Once, I was in there so long pretending to buy something, they gave me tickets to one of their events to get rid of me

My wedding band is a bit like that platinum one above, but with not such a high setting. 5 diamonds with mini diamonds in between from the Boodles Waterfall collection.

OP, if you do get a solitaire, do think if the wedding band will fit next to it.

Ask your partner WHY he wants to marry you....his answer will either make you love him even more or make you wonder what this is all about.
As others have said celebrating after lockdown is also a great idea & will make the proposal special.
Re: the ring......your the one who has to wear it so you need to be happy with it.

Haven’t RTFT but OP I think you might have fallen into the social media trap of thinking everyone else is having these incredible experiences like something in a movie, completely forgetting that all social media posts are highly edited and filtered and don’t reflect reality.

Yes there will be the odd couple where the proposal is a crazy, highly organised, fancy affair but I honestly think these are often a) overcompensating for a lack of true love in the relationship; b) done by attention-hungry couples desperate for likes (and therefore says nothing about the actual love between the couple); c) done by men in the arts/creative/events industries, where this is just part of their personality.

The biggest one I know, with actual singing, dancing, flash mob etc - it was done that way because the guy absolutely LOVES being the centre of attention. He saw it as a chance to star in his own show. I’m sure he loves his wife but I know him well and I know for a fact the showy proposal was for his benefit rather than hers!

My own proposal has been more and more embellished with each telling of it. It was perfectly nice - done on a day out in a pretty location. But each time we’ve told the story it’s become more and more dramatic and romantic so that it doesn’t reflect the reality completely honestly! We haven’t done that on purpose as a conscious thing; it’s just that people ask you about it and you want to have something good to tell them so you play up to their reactions and then certain new parts of the story become “facts” and you add them in next time you’re telling it and so on.

I would step away from the social media if I were you and if anyone asks about the story of how it happened, just say you were so happy to get engaged you can hardly remember the moment!

Yes, OP I asked way up the thread about how your friends’ proposals were videoed- did the bloke have iPhone in one hand, or ask a third party to film, or have a secret camera? Even if the proposal itself was nice, all of those ideas sound awful!

This is the man he is,this is now he thinks and does things.if he is not for you,say so now.