Disappointed in my ring and proposal.

[fungalinthejungle]

Has anyone ever felt this way? I got engaged just before lockdown.

It was at home, just the two of us. No fanfare. And the ring is not exactly what I'd dreamed of. He then had a jam packed week at work so I barely saw him and then we went into lockdown.

So we haven't been able to see any family and friends but that's just one of those things.

I sound so ungrateful but I'd always dreamed of an amazing proposal moment and feeling excited and not disappointed when I saw the ring.

Ultimately I know that it doesn't really matter because we are getting married and I hate myself for feeling this way.

Has anyone else ever felt the same?!

Who's expected to pay for that op?

@Hearhoovesthinkzebras I would be very happy and able to pay for it myself.

Are you just trying to ask questions, hoping the answer will paint me in a bad light?

I think that horse has already bolted.

@Hearhoovesthinkzebras

Please, do explain why?

Have you thought about a trilogy OP? I have one and I love it.

Strange how tastes differ: I prefer platinum!

I have a trilogy too. It’s not what I pictured myself but DH chose it from an antique jewellers and now I’m wearing it I couldn’t imagine wanting something else

I can be quite fussy so he was quite brave I think.
If I felt like OP I would definitely have had to tell him and ask to swap it

I'm struggling to imagine a 5 stone engagement ring, is it a cluster or more like eternity style? I think you'd struggle to make a 5 stone ring into a solitaire setting, you'd have to change it to the point of being a whole new ring and diamond.

I would rather someone told me if they didn't like something I'd spent a lot of money on personally. Equally I can't understand buying something so important without doing a bit of research into what the recipient might want.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks @Rebelwithallthecause

A few women a work with have trilogy rings and they are stunning! Are your 3 diamonds the same size or one big and two smaller?

@keepingbees it's 5 decent sized diamonds of equal size all across the band - it's quite chunky. If I was super glam or polished it might look amazing but day to day, something simpler and more discreet matches my more scruffy style!

Fungal - some people literally only read the title of the thread, not even the whole opening post, and respond to that, which is why so many posters get completely the wrong end of the stick, or ask questions that are answered in the opening post.

And then there are some that just looovve to stick the boot in regardless.

You've said that you just wanted a PRIVATE proposal JUST THE TWO OF YOU but in a place that meant something special to you - that's not difficult. No big show, no social meeja crap.

You've said the ring is not to your taste, it is too showy - but the fitting is too small so you cannot wear it (lucky!) - maybe some people are reading that your think the SETTING is too small and you want something bigger. Not hard to work it out if people read properly.

You haven't come out of this looking bad, honestly. It does concern me that your fiancé had a ring made for you without checking the size first though - do you not have any other rings?? That's dozy beyond belief - it's one thing to buy one off the shelf and it not be the right size, but a bespoke one - well I hope the jewellers are as accommodating as Ginsparkles' shop is!

My diamonds on either side are minutely smaller. The middle stone is a sapphire.

It would look equally stunning as 3 diamonds but I think it would have cost more money than DH could afford it was.

As a total aside - is your name meant to be Fun Gal in the jungle, or literally fungal in the jungle? Just wondering...

@ThumbWitchesAbroad sadly, fungal. I posted originally about a fungal toe nail.... gross and just didn't change it...

Mine are equally sized, and they have a cross-over setting which I love.

If you liked that style and decided to go with it could you have the other two diamonds reset as stud earrings?

My husband proposed to me while I had a towel on my head and was doing my makeup. I was at the foundation stage and hadn’t started using brushes yet so I’m sure you get the image! He was just nervous and wanted to get it done so we could be engaged, which was very much his idea.

My proposal was shocking but my husband is the best thing since sliced bread. The proposal didn’t and still doesn’t matter to me. He does though.

I’d strongly suggest you have a celebration after lockdown with people you love to get you into the spirit. Re the ring, he thought you’d like it and it’s probably smaller because they’re expensive- the comment about the size sounded a little unkind.

Why is it only the bride's idea of a proposal setting that matters though? I keep reading that this is how I wanted it to be, I told him to make sure it was like this, or in this setting etc. The op wanted it to be just them two of them - well it was. She wanted it to be in a certain type of place - well her fiancee chose in their house. Why doesn't his choice also count? Op could have had a proposal done in her perfect location, in the perfect way - by doing it herself. What's wrong with that?

If your man did his best, acted true to himself then it's great.
If you love each other, you would be honoured to have and accept each other exactly as you both are.

Ring or no ring. Accept your other half and never pretend you are they are any different

@fungalinthejungle don't listen to pious people! If its not the ring you want, use the size as an excuse to change it & make a lovely day of it, once this is all over! You'll be wearing it a long time so you have to love love love it!! ❤️❤️❤️
Also my Df knew how fussy I am so took me shopping the next day to pick one. I can't remember budget or anything but i look at it every day and still love it 20 years later. There wasn't any planning of the proposal (in bed) as he was caught up in the moment! Lol We are still happy 20 years later. Be honest but in a nice way. He would rather you loved it than put up with it I am sure. 🥂Congratulations you got your dream man, he just needs a bit of training Lol 😆🤣😹

Wtf are pious people?

In the context of this thread, I mean.

Fungal - ah well, you're welcome to use my confusion to change the pronunciation if you want!

This has made me realise I have no idea where my engagement ring is, I think I took it off 30 years ago when one of my children was a baby and never put it back on. We've moved house since then so who knows where it is. I still have a wedding ring and a husband to go with it so I suppose that is the main thing.

it's 5 decent sized diamonds of equal size all across the band - it's quite chunky. If I was super glam or polished it might look amazing but day to day, something simpler and more discreet matches my more scruffy style

It sounds lovely but for me it's not an engagement ring style (personal taste obviously.) Trilogy rings are lovely and represent past, present and future, I wonder if you could have it made into that if you like them.

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