Neighbours son with autism and all-day verbal stimming.

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I know I am being unreasonable, but I am also slightly losing my mind.

Our neighbour has a son who has autism and who screams as part of this (I believe). He spends each day from around 7am until darkness in the garden doing this, and I think he does it when he is inside as well. Unfortunately any movement (us, children, animals) seems to be a trigger.

He does also do this in the house but because of the way our houses are designed and because they are the end of terrace house we cannot hear it (and nobody else can).

I get it is really, really, really shit for her, but it is now becoming relentless. All day, every day when the weather is good - it means our home is not very peaceful at all and we cannot enjoy our garden at all (he seems to go into a much more shrill scream when there's movement in our garden). We've stopped feeding the birds and are letting the dog out the front yard when it needs to go out.

I know lockdown is tough, and the mother must be finding it very difficult, but it's having a huge impact on us and our family life - particularly not being able to enjoy our garden, being woken up and the kids struggling to sleep at night (we've now moved them into the front bedroom to try and minimise this).

WIBU to ask if her son can please be inside by seven pm and for some hours during the day so we can go into and enjoy our garden?

Young people with disabilities still have access to education @fluffiphlox my son is at a special school it's closed right now as are most schools however the decision to put a child in residential placement,s is not a decision taken lightly , and whilst I'm ultra sensitive to neighbours hearing my son,it seems my bone idle next door neighbour doesn't give a shit about disturbing us when he gets pissed and start,s arguing loudly in his backgarden every sodding week🙄

Do people really think people should be kept in institutions rather than they have to hear them. Quite apart from the horror of that as an idea, how the fuck would the country afford it for large numbers of its population to be treated in this way

How do you suggest the parents get the child to take medication then famous? My son has medication for constipation along with his other complex disabilities he also has chronic constipation, I put it in food and drink and he can taste it so refuses it ,due to his autism and learning disabilities I can't reason with him he has no concept of the need to take i have to give him suppositories ,my husband has to restrain him whilst I administer them it's distressing for all of us .

This thread has been a real eye opener
and the op sounds like a very good human.

Wishing you so much luck.

The ignorance on this thread is astounding.

"The parents are awful and openly bragged that the child refuses medication ergo they can't stop the screaming all day and night and being threatening to small children."

The parents bragged about having a child that screams all day and night. Yeah right of course they did.

I mean everyone loves living with screaming 24 hours a day. Mine doesn't scream anything like as long as that. I feel so jealous.

Yes of course it’s MUCH easier to listen to someone you love and care for in distress

Indeed Spikey my child actually sleeps ,i m so jealous of my my friends who.are up all night with their children🙄

@NewPapaGuinea how do you expect people to find out about their potential neighbours dc's SN conditions? Are they meant to stalk the neighbourhood at all hours listening for clues?

Hopefully you arent in the UK as it isnt even midday yet

When they viewed the house the child next door was probably at school all day, so even if buyers saw his toys etc in the garden or clothes on the washing line, absolutely no way to guess either his disability or noise level.

Poor OP; I hope when lockdown ends he'll go back to school, you and his parents will get some respite and you'll have chance to build a relationship with them .

Your posts make you sound like a lovely neighbour.

how do you expect people to find out about their potential neighbours dc's SN conditions?

I thought we were supposed to knock on all of the neighbours doors and apologise for existing. Maybe this applies to visitors too and we're meant to watch out for them so we can get straight in there with the sorry and the full disclosure of our child's private medical information?

Its not "autism and disabilities", autism is a disability.

Not really sweet at all.

Scaring disabled children is fucking awful behaviour.

Perhaps it’s harder than you imagine @famousforwrongreason

"The child doesn't sleep"

Some don't including those on medication.

Inconsiderate *
Yes autism is a disability meant to put /, clearly can’t multitask

SugarOrSweetenerWithTheTea so deliberately cause distress. Maybe cause the child to hit or bite himself. How lovely you are.

Well.you sound a delight Sugar ,if you scared my disabled child I would make sure you knew about it and make sure all my neighbours knew what a vile bully you were .

What do you suggest the parents do to make the child sleep.famous? Melatonin is often given to children with autism however sometimes it doesn't work at all ,and often it helps the child go to sleep it often doesn't keep them asleep though .

I’d play music in the garden, dance around, hope said child will go inside for a bit as it’ll be so noisy!

You would be deliberately frightening a disabled child with limited cognitive abilities, potentially to the point where he would harm himself and others due to his state of distress, and you think that's acceptable behaviour? Only utter pond scum would think that is a suitable response to living next door to a disabled child.