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To feel like the only woman left who doesn't shave her pubes? 😂

542 replies

phoebemakesnoise · 05/05/2020 13:47

During a group WhatsApp with friends last night, conversation (somehow!) turned to pubes. It would seem I am the only one who doesn't shave the whole lot off. I've done it a couple of times in the past but it itched when growing back and I actually feel sexier with a bit of a muff! Does anyone else not shave these days or am I a vile ogre?

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MarieQueenofScots · 07/05/2020 13:44

And those callous comments you mentioned are revolting

Of course, it works both ways thought doesn't it?

Marshmallow1102 · 07/05/2020 13:52

Appreciate the support and solidarity @TigerDater, I also trim for swimsuits out of a desire to be tidy, but just don't want anyone to be viewed negatively if they do have any little spider legs sticking out! It has taken a long time for me to become comfortable in my own skin, and I don't want anyone else to feel how I used to.

People should feel confident and comfortable with however much hair they have wherever they have it, and should only remove it if it's what they truly want, not because of how society will view them.

I think it's probably more of a young person problem, because you reach an age where you stop caring what people think, and most of the people around you mature and have better attitudes towards these kind of things anyway. But if I have daughters I don't want them to still be facing the same problems I faced. When will society start being kinder to women?

Marshmallow1102 · 07/05/2020 13:57

@MarieQueenofScots Of course it works both ways, I'm really sorry that anyone has made such insulting comments. No one should be shamed for their appearance. Like I said I suspect that the people making those comments were doing so out of self defence, but that doesn't make it right. Hair or no hair, it's all normal and natural!

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 07/05/2020 14:21

Like I said I suspect that the people making those comments were doing so out of self defence,

What do you mean self defence? The only people who were attacked here, and their partners, were people without the bush! All the nastiness here came from people with hair.

Marshmallow1102 · 07/05/2020 14:26

I recognise that this thread has seen a lot of hate from pro-pubes towards those who are pube free. It's unacceptable.
By self defence all I meant is that they might do it as armour to protect themselves because they've been shamed by people before for having hair. I know that no one on this thread has done that, but unfortunately people who have been hurt are more likely to hurt others.

Marshmallow1102 · 07/05/2020 14:32

Sorry if it sounds like I'm trying to defend their harsh words, that wasn't my intention. More to say that I hope that no one actually thinks those cruel or harsh things, and that they only did so to make themselves feel better.

natwebb79 · 07/05/2020 14:42

Kathy Burke cracked me up in her documentary when she was asked if she knew what a Hollywood was, ha!

To feel like the only woman left who doesn't shave her pubes? 😂
TigerDater · 07/05/2020 14:53

@MarieQueenofScots totally agree it works both ways. Comments against people with shaved pubes and against people who prefer their partner to have shaved pubes are also callous and uncalled for. Live and let live I say. Personally I'm equally happy with or without a bush, but I'm quite looking forward to the end of lockdown when I will see my partner again and we can do a bit of topiary together Wink.

MarieQueenofScots · 07/05/2020 15:16

Thank you Marshmallow and Tiger I really appreciate that.

Unfortunately so many people don't consider the effect of unkind words, in their quest to be internet controversial.

I've given up couching my response. Anyone who thinks "hairless = childlike" is, quite frankly, not very bright and I tend to start feeling sorry for them!

StarlightLady · 07/05/2020 17:45

Anyone who thinks pubic here is so lovely is welcome to my trimmings! Grin

ClareBlue · 07/05/2020 17:58

The answer to the OP is you are not the only one.
The wider discussion is all women choose what suits them at any specific time from bald to hairy, and anything in between. That's it really.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 07/05/2020 18:45

Also re the cleanliness. It's kind of like with showers or towels and clothes. The fact that i find something making me feel clean doesn't mean others are "dirty" or I think they are. Some people need to shower twice a day because of how they sweat. Others can go 2 days without. Neither is wrong🤷🏻 Same with the hair. Saying shaving makes me feel cleaner doesn't mean no shaving is dirty.

I think we women just really don't do each other any favours with the judging tbh. As long as they are not in our food, we seriously shouldn't care about other people's pubes

Imstillskanking · 08/05/2020 11:17

I think we women just really don't do each other any favours with the judging tbh. As long as they are not in our food, we seriously shouldn't care about other people's pubes

Well bloody said, NoPlanes. Bang on. It's absolutely fine for people to have their own preferences. It doesn't mean that anyone is dirty, ugly, brainwashed or bad, it's just people being themselves and being individual.

Hwyrynos · 08/05/2020 12:08

Sorry to ask but -
What’s a ‘landing strip’?
Is it shaving off the bush but leaving the bits between your legs?

bengalcat · 08/05/2020 13:52

Landing strip is a Brazilian ie a longitudinal midline strip 1-2cm wide

Somersetlady · 08/05/2020 14:01

@MarieQueenofScots The only way i can explain in another way is some people enjoy role play.
They know that their partner is not really a 15 year old girl. She is an adult woman dressed as a 15 year old girl and their partners imagination does the rest.

Each to their own but I would also find it uncomfortable if MY Partner wanted me to pretend to be a school girl for sexual gratification.

ByzantinePrincess · 08/05/2020 14:05

Can’t people stay in school until the age of 18?

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 08/05/2020 14:09

I will be quite frank here.
Anyone who wants to continue to talk about apparent perversity of no pubic hair can fuck off.

MarieQueenofScots · 08/05/2020 14:31

Each to their own but I would also find it uncomfortable if MY Partner wanted me to pretend to be a school girl for sexual gratification

Who on here has a partner requesting that? What a bizarre segue Confused

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 08/05/2020 14:32

@MarieQueenofScots I know😂 I had to check if i was on a right thread when i saw it😂

usernameannonymous · 10/05/2020 22:28

Would anyone feel happy to share what they did with their downstairs area when they gave birth?

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/05/2020 23:29

Since I let my pubes grow back I have had

Zero outbreaks of thrush
Zero outbreaks of Blush herpes

I can only assume that either my immune system has magically improved OR my vagina is better for some protection

Floatyboat · 11/05/2020 12:43

Is there any correlation between length of pubic hair and covid susceptibility?

Thisisworsethananticpated · 11/05/2020 22:50

Is there any correlation between length of pubic hair and covid susceptibility

Absaloutely Grin

stackthecats · 11/05/2020 23:14

Would anyone feel happy to share what they did with their downstairs area when they gave birth?

You've heard that women's hair grows longer and thicker and more luxuriant in pregnancy? Well, that didn't happen to me...except for the pubes. They were nearly reaching my knees by the end.

I had more pressing problems to think about when I gave birth to DD and none of the midwives and doctors gave a rat's arse about my pubes, either.

Did miss the long pubes a bit when they went back to normal. Grin