@Mummyoflittledragon
I think this is a good post.
What's his relationship with your daughter like?
Is she really shy, or is she shrinking because of his behaviour?
Shaming and embarrassing your children is a red flag for possible abusive behaviour of children.
I've a friend who is a teacher (very affluent school) and she told us a few years ago of a parent who was very full of himself.
The big man/big job/ loud..whenever he was collecting his daughter from school.
He had a tendency to mock his daughter, put her down, and make her the butt of his "humour". The child was very, very timid.
My pals father was a bit of a bully so she was very sensitive to this.
She took the mother aside one day and asked her was everything ok at home?
She told her that her husband's behaviour had been noted by people, and that it was sort of behaviour that could be misinterpreted, flagged and referred on!
The mother was stunned and mortified.
No further discussion was ever had, but the father was a quiet man going forward, and actively avoided teachers etc.
My pals reading of it was, he was a egotistically twat, pillar of the community, and his fragile ego was appalled at the thought that he was being gossiped about.
It was enough to shut him up in public at least.