About H seeking attention during DD’s home schooling video?

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Backstory is H has a bit of form for being a performance parent (only attentive or doing any childcare when others are watching.) DD is 6 and is having twice- daily catch ups on work with her class via zoom.

H keeps getting on the screen when he can, either in the background doing something unnecessary and looking to see if he is on the screen, or coming into shot and either doing “antennae” behind DD’s Head or pretending to be a “monster,” often when the class are in the middle of something else. I can see that DD finds it annoying and a bit embarrassing. H thinks as she is quite a shy little girl it takes the attention off her.

I keep telling H off for doing this (and physically batting his hands away when they come up behind DD,) and he is very upset with me and says I “constantly stifle and dismiss” him. I don’t think that’s the case.

I appreciate this sounds like a bit of a weird thread. I don’t know if I am so jaded by H’s behaviour over the years that I am disproportionately irritated by something quite innocent

What a tool

Ask him to wear a clown suit. Suits you Sir!

YANBU.

At least it would be better to have a pet cat sitting by your daughter, than an idiot Dad prancing around, why does he not realise he is disrupting things.

He's completely out of order.

Keep him out of the room and shame him by pointing out lockdown is hard on children and the Zoom time is HER time to spend time with HER class. It is school as she knows it now so he/you/we need to back off and let her have that time without interruption or interference.

He didn't go to school with her so he doesn't need to be all over this.

Be firm.

If he really can't accept that then he's a selfish, immature prick and i think I'd looking at what I'd married tbh. Sorry, I know that's harsh but hopefully he will listen and see reason. Good luck!

Well it's unanimous OP- over 750 people think he's a complete twat.

What a prick. I'm a teacher and I would be cross at this and probably ask him to stop disrupting my class b

Show him this thread too.

751

What a dickhead.

I don’t know if I am so jaded by H’s behaviour over the years that I am disproportionately irritated by something quite innocent

It's not innocent. And going by this snippet from you, OP, I'd be getting some counselling to reflect on whether this relationship is actually working. He seems so me, me, me, and it makes me think he's guilty of a lot of twattish behaviour.

What a dick. And 100% of MN agree. That must be some sort of record.

Make him a star chart and stick it on the fridge. He can have a treat if he goes a full week without disrupting your daughter's lessons.

Yeah, show him the thread, and the poll results. 100% YANBU and nearly 800 votes.

He needs to more than stifled. What a t**t.

I'm surprised you haven't had an email from the teacher.

808 people have said YANBU - that’s 100% so far.
He needs to stop.

752 here.

He's drawing attention to her, embarrassing her and distracting her and the class from their learning.

Suggest you call the teacher and ask her to tell him to stop disrupting the class. Hopefully that will sink in

This. What a prizewinning battery farmed wanker.

What an absolute dickhead

Was he the know-nothing class clown when at school? Sounds like one. His disrespect for teachers is shining through.

I would definitely wonder whether he is trying to impress the teacher. I’m fat, ugly and middle-aged, and I’d lay money on him not trying this with me.

Is your husband's name Colin Hunt?

Hopefully your class teacher on here will recognise him and send an email telling parents to fuck off and stop doing this, sorry your H is such a twat op.

Is your husband doing any work video calls? If he is I'd be tempted to smear a bit of chocolate in his underpants then wait until he's on a call, walk in and hand them to him asking loudly to deal with his own washing until he learns to wipe his own arse.

Ask him why his need to show off should take priority over his daughter's education.

Ask him if perhaps her shyness is actually embarrassment because she is the only one with a Dad who is so desperate to show off that he interrupts her classroom time.

Ask him what the teacher must think to have a grown adult disrupting an online classroom and what it would be like if every parent did this.

Ask him if he plans to keep this up when the schools go back - is he going to schedule time out of his working day to travel to the school and invade the classroom in real life?

Would he walk into DDs classroom at school and behave like that?!! Hugely disrespectful!