About H seeking attention during DD’s home schooling video?

[10daysofrain]

Backstory is H has a bit of form for being a performance parent (only attentive or doing any childcare when others are watching.) DD is 6 and is having twice- daily catch ups on work with her class via zoom.

H keeps getting on the screen when he can, either in the background doing something unnecessary and looking to see if he is on the screen, or coming into shot and either doing “antennae” behind DD’s Head or pretending to be a “monster,” often when the class are in the middle of something else. I can see that DD finds it annoying and a bit embarrassing. H thinks as she is quite a shy little girl it takes the attention off her.

I keep telling H off for doing this (and physically batting his hands away when they come up behind DD,) and he is very upset with me and says I “constantly stifle and dismiss” him. I don’t think that’s the case.

I appreciate this sounds like a bit of a weird thread. I don’t know if I am so jaded by H’s behaviour over the years that I am disproportionately irritated by something quite innocent

If this is real (I kind of hope not!) then I think OP will have been dismayed, depressed and shocked by responses.

Shocked because people like this H do a good number on their partners - when you ask him to stop his fuckwittery, you're 'boring' or he's 'not allowed to have a laugh/help his daughter,/liven up the teacher's day/show parental involvement and support'.

People saying she would be happy to see these responses or should 'gloat' at being right have clearly been in a relationship with a massive twat. In some fucked up way, you want people to minimise and normalise their behaviour so you don't have to face up to the truth.

OP if you're reading, it's scary to admit to yourself your husband is a self-serving selfish fool who puts his own needs before his daughters. But start thinking about it, get support IRL - talk to a close friend or sibling? And think about getting a good counsellor.

Hope you are ok.

OP?

Oh god no, I cringed just reading that. I bet the teacher is thinking what a intolerable twat he is. YADNBU

Maybe the teacher can email and say that he's breaching data protection or child protection or something and that if she sees him again she'll have no choice but to let the authorities know, as he has no right or business to be involved in that zoom class.

Or maybe if the teacher noticed and said 'Yes, Mr 10daysofrain? Do you have something to add? No? Well kindly desist from interrupting my class!'

That would be fab!

I would assume (rightly or wrongly) that he may have a learning disability, so wouldn't call him out on this in front of everyone but would have to send an email around discouraging it.

Oh God, how mortifying for your daughter!
As a shy person myself, I'd have been at that, the last thing you need is your parents being uncool in front of your classmates lol
He's being a total dick.
Online lessons though? Sound like hell, what do the people without internet access do? Not everyone has it.
Mine are just doing work that has been sent to them, but do submit some online.
SO glad we don't have classes, sounds like one more stress

your DH is a complete bellend
why does he feel the need to do that kind of crap behind his daughter
so glad we dont do live catchups with our kids

Oh no!!! I accidentally voted YABU.. you are def NOT being unreasonable .What an attention seeking arse. Direct him to TikTok