About H seeking attention during DD’s home schooling video?

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Backstory is H has a bit of form for being a performance parent (only attentive or doing any childcare when others are watching.) DD is 6 and is having twice- daily catch ups on work with her class via zoom.

H keeps getting on the screen when he can, either in the background doing something unnecessary and looking to see if he is on the screen, or coming into shot and either doing “antennae” behind DD’s Head or pretending to be a “monster,” often when the class are in the middle of something else. I can see that DD finds it annoying and a bit embarrassing. H thinks as she is quite a shy little girl it takes the attention off her.

I keep telling H off for doing this (and physically batting his hands away when they come up behind DD,) and he is very upset with me and says I “constantly stifle and dismiss” him. I don’t think that’s the case.

I appreciate this sounds like a bit of a weird thread. I don’t know if I am so jaded by H’s behaviour over the years that I am disproportionately irritated by something quite innocent

My firmed teaches six year olds and this would distract the class and really piss her off. Teaching on Zoom is hard enough

He needs to grow up and leave her to her video calls it's just embarrassing. He wouldn't do this in an actual classroom so why do it now

The installing the background is the answer I think. And a form word with h.

My exh would do this if he were here though. It's about not feeling he is centre of attention

YANBU

Does he use zoom for his job? I think you need to do the antenna thing to him and pull faces when he's in a very important conference call.

Jesus! Tell your H that he is being pathetic and to find attention elsewhere! Your poor DD. How embarrassing.

Or, show him the answers on this thread!

He is an arsehole....I feel sorry for your DD

He's a complete dick. What a total embarrassment for you and your dd.

Not really the question asked but how on earth are some parents managing to be there for two zoom sessions a day? What about the working parents? Single parents?

Could you lock just you and daughter in the room when the school stuff is going on to stop this man who seems to have ADHD spoiling the learning of everyone else in the class? We put a lock on the inside of one living room door when the twins were little to keep them in and it has been quite useful at times - it is just a bolt very high up at the top (which toddlers cannot reach)

It beggars belief that someone would do this. If it was my lesson, an email would have been sent out to parents after the first time he did it.
His behaviour will be remembered, believe me. Your poor daughter.

I can never understand wives who put up with twattish attention seeking husbands. My old friend married one of these, he was always dicking about to draw laughter from any one gathered, twirling small children around (whether they wanted him to or not), it's making me cringe just thinking about it. A total nob. Your DH sounds the same.

I can't believe the teacher hasn't said something, poor woman, like her job isn't hard enough.
Your husband is a knob, I'm embarrassed for you.

I think lockdown is bringing out the absolute worst in people!
Your H is humiliating your poor DD, probably winding up her teacher with his pathetic schoolboy behaviour.
Attentions seeking cunt. Yet another fanny drier. So glad I'm a single parent in times like this. Couldn't bear having to deal with a manchild as well as my DC.

He's an absolute tit. Tell him to stop being a moron, as your DD will hate his behaviour, and if he carries on she'll hate him.

Send DD in to interrupt his work teleconferences? (If he has any?)

What a dick.

What a prat!

Ah OP, itll be shit getting pages of people telling you what a Wally your bloke is behaving like.

Definitely put her somewhere where he back is to the wall or sort out some sort of screen.

I think I would be tempted to show him the thread or read out some of the replies. Yes he might strop a bit but a conversation about his attention seeking definitely needs to be had no matter how you start it.

Jeez, what is wrong with him? Why would he deliberately try to embarrass his own DD like that?

Does the teacher say anything? I can't imagine he/she is very impressed by this at all.

This is exactly the type of thing exH would do! Apparently I’m the boring one for not finding these antics hilarious....one of the many reasons he’s now an ex. Tell him to FaceTime one of his mates and clown around for them instead of embarrassing your poor dd.

H thinks as she is quite a shy little girl it takes the attention off her.

I doubt he thinks that at all, he'd have to be as thick as mince to believe that.

constantly stifle and dismiss

I would have to ask in response to that why he was such a self centred and pretentious twit? If he really thinks being asked not to disrupt his DD's education and cause her embarrassment and distress is stifling and dismissing him, he has some real issues he needs help with.

he is very upset with me and says I “constantly stifle and dismiss” him

What do you reply to that gem?

dh here would be told in no uncertain terms I am fed up trying to "stifle" his attention seeking, immature, me me me behaviour which is detrimental to his dd socially and to her education. A, "I shouldn't have to protect her from your stupidity, grow the fuck up" would be thrown in for good measure.

Oh god he thinks he is "hilarious" your poor dd I would tell him the whole class and teacher can see him being a prat ! Of course you are being dismissive because he is being an arse.

Is she really a bit shy or is she just constantly dealing with a desperately insecure attention-seeking father all the time messing with her and embarrassing her?
Is he really that needy that hes trying to impress a group of 6 year olds?