To think that most people have children because it's just the done thing

[MaryMaryContrary]

AIBU to think that most people have children because it's just the done thing?

Given the massive upheaval children cause to your life and that we're living in 2020 when different lifestyles are more acceptable, surely we should all really be thinking through our reasoning for having children. Or is it just a hormonal urge?

If you don't think through the reasoning beforehand, do you think it can cause regret when the children arrive?

Everyone I knew would say they wished they had never had children don’t get pregnant, you are so lucky being childless and having your freedom but in reality they loved their children so much and would have given their life without a thought to save their child

I don't think wishing you hadn't had children means you don't love them.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX
But you say Of the parents, most have admitted to me that for various reasons they regret the choice to have children. Obviously for some it may have felt like the correct decision at the time only for later factors to cause the regret without realising that maybe their regret could also be a thought for a period of time and that if you ask them again they'd not give the same response. It all depends what's happening at that particular point in their life.
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