Hubby has forgotten my birthday again!

[Helen0709]

Been with my OH for 3 of my birthdays and its never remembered or acknowledged!! We live together and have a toddler,so it's not a casual relationship!! Iv yet to receive either a birthday card from either him or our daughter!! I know its petty with everything that's going on in the world but the 3rd year in a row is starting to take the piss surely?? I'm not a materialistic person at all,just a card and a "happy birthday darlin " is all I want,am i being unreasonable??

What did you get from him op?

I would throw this one back op - he is hopeless.

Get yourself a birthday present: a new partner. This one's a duff.

That's shit OP. Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday

Being in lockdown, no excuse whatsoever for making zero effort, especially when he knew about it

It was my birthday last week. I ordered my card, present, flowers and some food. He is a bloody disaster with birthdays. But he would give me his last penny, makes me laugh like a drain and in the winter gets up and clears the ice off my windscreen before I go to work. He is just disorganised with birthdays.
He shares housework with me and sorting out the kids. Very rarely spends much money on himself and is very generous.

Well we went to shop to get bits to take to my mum,I gave him the money for it and said pick up a few drinks for later....I see he got himself 4 cans and me nothing....and no card....

Yea hes a selfish arsehole...I know!!

Didn’t you say anything about the lack of drinks for you?

Iv only just realised when I looked in fridge! Oh il wait til he has one and ask for a glass of whatever hes got me....

I had one of these. Didnt do his own birthday so didnt do anyone elses. I him down and explained it was important to me. That I expected at least a card, flowers and some chocolate if he was skint or better if could afford it. So I have gotten that every year for last 15 years - but at least he took it on board

It's bloody selfish, it's one day in the year and he cannot be arsed to get you a card and make dinner for you.
I'd "forget" to do anything for him until he stops being such a turd,
A normal decent man doesn't just forget your birthday - he just cannot be bothered.

Not quite sure why you consistently put up with this? Why are there no consequences for his poor behaviour?

I'm not even angry, I'm just gutted at the moment. Well I had a nice day otherwise,saw my mum and got cards in the post and a few evouchers from friends so I can't complain. I just dont believe he wouldve done this to his previous girlfriends or his ex wife,she would have castrated him!! I can't understand why he wouldn't do same for me

Ask him. Tell him he made you feel like rubbish.

After your first post I would have just put this down to different family backgrounds etc. My husband is from a very different culture that don’t really do birthdays - he often doesn’t get a card from his parents. However we’ve often talked about how it’s important to me that my children see that we put thought into celebrating one another on our birthdays - I think we’ve met in the middle somewhere. However reading your further posts - he can’t even keep in his head that he was going to buy you a card?? That’s so hurtful! I understand he comes from a different background but if you’ve told him how you feel and he can’t even remember in the space of a few hours....?! Well I’m really sorry and just know you ARE important and you ARE valuable and worthy of celebrating. And don’t let yourself feel bad for wanting that. If anything your daughter needs to know it. Happy Birthday xx

Because he doesn't give a shit about you. Sorry to be blunt, but what else can it be?

You must be hurt- 🎂🍹 Bit late but Happy Birthday!xx

Take his cans and when he moans, tell him that you thought he’d finally thought about you and that they were your (shit) present.

Happy birthday OP!!
You sound like a super positive person! I think although ur disappointed with dp you haven’t let it ruin your day, good for you & you have other people around you who have made a fuss :)

Happy Birthday Helen. I would pour each and every one of his cans down the sink. You deserve so much more.

But he didn’t forget your birthday did he? You told him today you wanted a card, he went to the shops and he didn’t get you one.

Happy birthday.

He is so selfish - you poor thing.
You really shouldn't let this go. I think it's serious conversation time.

It sounds ridiculous,but I actually think hes forgotten its my birthday again!! No mention of my card,my wine anything!! He did nip out for 10 mins there so I was hopeful....but it smells like hes just went and bought himself a bag of weed!!!