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Neighbours trampoline AIBU?

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Hidinginshameofthememory · 23/04/2020 16:39

Our neighbours have put up a trampoline this week, no issue with kids playing in the garden as I think it's nice to hear and my own child and family children are out in our garden most days weather permitting (just mine now!). They are the last house on the row so share a fence with us but the other side of their garden is onto woodland. The trampoline is right up against the shared fence. When it went up I didn't think too much of it to be honest but then on Monday we were sat in the conservatory having breakfast and noticed their older child (early teens maybe?) was stood on the trampoline looking into our house. I felt a bit uncomfortable as we were all in our pjs (not indecent but still I felt a bit 😳). Anyway this has happened a few times since, she can also see into our living room so when I'm sat playing with my baby on the floor/ watching tv etc I've looked up a few times to see her peering in. I know she's not really doing any harm per se but im finding it very intrusive. Dh usually does a workout in the garden every morning in just his shorts, the last two mornings he has come inside as the girl was there at the fence and he didn't feel comfortable.

Because of all this I went round to next door and knocked (then stood at the gate before I get flamed!). I've always got on fine with these neighbours but we haven't really had much interaction. I asked politely if there was any chance they could move the trampoline as their daughter could see into our house/garden and we were finding it a bit intrusive. I think I kept it quite friendly, wasn't rude or anything. Long story short neighbour said she would speak to her daughter but she won't move the trampoline as they like the garden setup as it is now. Their garden is huge, they could easily move it to the other side and it would affect no one. But I thought okay she will speak to her daughter and issue will be over.

Unfortunately either she hasn't spoken to her or the daughter has ignored her completely. It's happened a few times since and I've just been sat expressing and looked up to see a pair of eyes at the fence again. I've had to get up and come upstairs. AIBU ?? I know it's their garden but I just would like to be able to walk round and use my own house without having to watch what I'm doing or feel like I'm being watched.

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SleepOhHowIMissYou · 07/05/2020 18:11

Wonder if you can hire bouncy castles in current climate. A massive, noisy and ugly one and then, from next Monday onwards, you and your bubble of 10 can have combined bounce/spy on next door back parties.

Failing that, can you write "Trunky want a bun?" on the gazebo panel facing your mini voyeur?

Lessthananovice · 08/05/2020 15:45

It's here! Dh is putting it up as we speak 😊😊😊 looks like it should solve the issue so we are going to have a bbq tonight!

Windyatthebeach · 08/05/2020 15:52

Oo great news op!!
Name change btw??

SpookyNoise · 08/05/2020 15:58

Excellent! I hope you have a lovely afternoon and evening, without prying eyes.

CorianderLord · 08/05/2020 18:33

@AHobbyaweek I would not do that, waving would indicate you know the h Co old is watching you and that could be construed as purposeful flashing

Lessthananovice · 08/05/2020 20:35

Yes nc fail half way through 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 technology is not my strong point 🙈 thanks all :-) have had a lovely evening, currently sat with a little glass of wine 🍷

RandomMess · 08/05/2020 20:36

Enjoy the privacy!!!

AcrossthePond55 · 08/05/2020 20:51

Nice! Enjoy the privacy.

Unless, of course, they move the trampoline!!!

MrsVMorgan · 08/05/2020 20:53

Enjoy the privacy Smile

cstaff · 08/05/2020 22:31

I love a happy ending on here especially when it involves pain in the arse neighbours Grin

TotallyRealPsychicInteriors · 09/05/2020 12:36

Ah lovely! Enjoy!

Please come back and tell us how blissful it was!

YorkshirePud1 · 09/05/2020 22:09

Excellent update! Enjoy your new found privacy! (I'm assuming there's no chance of her moving the trampoline to another part of the fence so she can still hawk at you?)

YorkshirePud1 · 09/05/2020 22:09

*gawk

HalzTangz · 09/05/2020 23:00

Could the girl be lonely, maybe not seeing her friends and possibly being ignored by parents all day, maybe she's feeling lonely and just wants to see what others are doing. Why not try chatting to the girl, ask her how she's finding not being at school, or about her friends etc. Maybe there's something happening inside the house, and her watching you is her way of calling for help

bluestarsatnightfall · 10/05/2020 06:39

Not the OP's problem and if read the whole thread they've hopefully sorted it @HalzTangz

cantstopstressing · 10/05/2020 22:42

I am not the neighbour.

madcatladyforever · 10/05/2020 22:49

Go round there and say we'recommend naturists and your daughter is constantly peering into our home. Can you tell her to stop it please as she's making us feel uncomfortable.
Then be naturists for a few weeks. Really let it hang out.
They will move the trampoline.

madcatladyforever · 10/05/2020 22:50

Recommend? .....are

TheMaddHugger · 11/05/2020 10:26

@Lessthananovice excellent update ⭐⭐🍷🍷🌺🌺💓💓🍰

Boxingmama · 09/08/2020 10:30

How are things going with your neighbour now?
Have you turned the hose on her yet? With a "I'm only watering my plants Karen"

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