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Neighbours trampoline AIBU?

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Hidinginshameofthememory · 23/04/2020 16:39

Our neighbours have put up a trampoline this week, no issue with kids playing in the garden as I think it's nice to hear and my own child and family children are out in our garden most days weather permitting (just mine now!). They are the last house on the row so share a fence with us but the other side of their garden is onto woodland. The trampoline is right up against the shared fence. When it went up I didn't think too much of it to be honest but then on Monday we were sat in the conservatory having breakfast and noticed their older child (early teens maybe?) was stood on the trampoline looking into our house. I felt a bit uncomfortable as we were all in our pjs (not indecent but still I felt a bit 😳). Anyway this has happened a few times since, she can also see into our living room so when I'm sat playing with my baby on the floor/ watching tv etc I've looked up a few times to see her peering in. I know she's not really doing any harm per se but im finding it very intrusive. Dh usually does a workout in the garden every morning in just his shorts, the last two mornings he has come inside as the girl was there at the fence and he didn't feel comfortable.

Because of all this I went round to next door and knocked (then stood at the gate before I get flamed!). I've always got on fine with these neighbours but we haven't really had much interaction. I asked politely if there was any chance they could move the trampoline as their daughter could see into our house/garden and we were finding it a bit intrusive. I think I kept it quite friendly, wasn't rude or anything. Long story short neighbour said she would speak to her daughter but she won't move the trampoline as they like the garden setup as it is now. Their garden is huge, they could easily move it to the other side and it would affect no one. But I thought okay she will speak to her daughter and issue will be over.

Unfortunately either she hasn't spoken to her or the daughter has ignored her completely. It's happened a few times since and I've just been sat expressing and looked up to see a pair of eyes at the fence again. I've had to get up and come upstairs. AIBU ?? I know it's their garden but I just would like to be able to walk round and use my own house without having to watch what I'm doing or feel like I'm being watched.

OP posts:
cantstopstressing · 01/05/2020 19:30

Er, you actually sound pretty mean and intolerant. If she is in her early teens I am guessing 13? Can you not just ignore it? Not like an adult voyeur is it? We used to have an issue with the early teen girl next door staring over our fence every time we would try to have a BBQ in the garden. It wouldn't have occurred to me to be anything less than kind or polite. Get a grip, especially now when kids are probably suffering most.

neverknewsomany · 01/05/2020 19:33

Why would anyone put up with anyone constantly staring at them every time their in the garden? The age this girl is she knows better and so does the mother. Hope it gets sorted soon OP!

SquirtleSquad · 02/05/2020 00:12

@cantstopstressing how can you say they're intolerant when you said the girl doing the same to you was an 'issue' Hmm

gillybean2 · 02/05/2020 16:28

@Hidinginshameofthememory How’s the gazebo looking or has it been too wet to put it up?

Vodkacranberryplease · 02/05/2020 22:26

Intolerant?? To be unimpressed about losing all their privacy is NOT intolerant. Now your comment, cantstopstressing, is intolerant.

Lessthananovice · 03/05/2020 02:33

No gazebo here yet! Lots of rain though so no little friend ! 🤞

cantstopstressing · 03/05/2020 15:13

The "issue" was ignored as she was a teenager rather than any of us wasting our time complaining about it and vilifying her for doing actually nothing. I can't actually believe some of the comments/suggestions here from adults aimed at a kid for being in her own garden. Move house if you want more privacy. I wouldn't dream of walking around our house naked without the blinds down as I know we can be overlooked.

cantstopstressing · 03/05/2020 15:15

Our neighbour often looks out of her window into our garden. Shock, horror! Should I go over and ask her to refrain from looking into our garden?

bloodyhellsbellsx · 03/05/2020 15:17

Move house if you want more privacy

Are you on glue?! 🤣 the OP should move house because the girl next door who’s old enough to know better keeps invading her privacy? You’re not this child’s mother by any chance are you? You sound just as entitled as the mother in the post!

cantstopstressing · 03/05/2020 15:19

Bloodyhellsbellsx, the only entitled person is the OP. And this kid is not invading anyone's privacy. Get a bloody life, please to god.

heartsonacake · 03/05/2020 15:23

And this kid is not invading anyone's privacy.

cantstopstressing Of course she is. She’s staring into the private property of her neighbour, deliberately after being told it was rude and not caring.

The child is an entitled so and so, just like her mother.

JKScot4 · 03/05/2020 15:27

suffering the most 🙄
I think ppl suffering Covid 19 are suffering not some rude teenager.

bloodyhellsbellsx · 03/05/2020 15:27

@cantstopstressing so you think it’s acceptable for a teenager to stand at stare at neighbours whilst they’re eating despite being asked numerous times to stop?

Windyatthebeach · 03/05/2020 15:28

How many people would really be happy bf /expressing milk with a head bobbing up and down looking at you?
You aren't a zoo exhibit op!!

WhereYouLeftIt · 03/05/2020 16:04

Anyone else thinking that cantstopstressing is the neighbour?

bluestarsatnightfall · 03/05/2020 16:49

Haha definitely or she's on something lol.

mummi1984 · 03/05/2020 16:53

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Sleepingboy · 03/05/2020 16:57

What you going on about, mummi1984?

Boxingmama · 03/05/2020 17:22

@WhereYouLeftIt
yup, cantstopstressing defo sounds like the neighbour to me...."sort ya daughter out ffs"

Bobobobobob · 03/05/2020 21:10

Sorry if this has been suggested but how about you and your partner jumping the fence in the middle of the night and moving the trampoline. Keep this up til they take the hint.Grin

JKScot4 · 03/05/2020 21:53

Moving to the tip preferably or a field far far away.

MrsRagnarLothbrok · 03/05/2020 22:59

hope the gazebo arrives soon. I would be really annoyed if that happened, very odd from a teenager, my 11 year old wouldn't do this

Miffy2020 · 04/05/2020 19:54

Following

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 04/05/2020 20:04

until the gazebo arrives - giant water pistol

Aim it at her filled with water first, if that doesn't work, fill it with ribena, urine or something really sticky.

SpookyNoise · 07/05/2020 17:46

I hope the gazebo has arrived ahead of the nice weather this weekend.

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