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AIBU?

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Neighbours trampoline AIBU?

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Hidinginshameofthememory · 23/04/2020 16:39

Our neighbours have put up a trampoline this week, no issue with kids playing in the garden as I think it's nice to hear and my own child and family children are out in our garden most days weather permitting (just mine now!). They are the last house on the row so share a fence with us but the other side of their garden is onto woodland. The trampoline is right up against the shared fence. When it went up I didn't think too much of it to be honest but then on Monday we were sat in the conservatory having breakfast and noticed their older child (early teens maybe?) was stood on the trampoline looking into our house. I felt a bit uncomfortable as we were all in our pjs (not indecent but still I felt a bit 😳). Anyway this has happened a few times since, she can also see into our living room so when I'm sat playing with my baby on the floor/ watching tv etc I've looked up a few times to see her peering in. I know she's not really doing any harm per se but im finding it very intrusive. Dh usually does a workout in the garden every morning in just his shorts, the last two mornings he has come inside as the girl was there at the fence and he didn't feel comfortable.

Because of all this I went round to next door and knocked (then stood at the gate before I get flamed!). I've always got on fine with these neighbours but we haven't really had much interaction. I asked politely if there was any chance they could move the trampoline as their daughter could see into our house/garden and we were finding it a bit intrusive. I think I kept it quite friendly, wasn't rude or anything. Long story short neighbour said she would speak to her daughter but she won't move the trampoline as they like the garden setup as it is now. Their garden is huge, they could easily move it to the other side and it would affect no one. But I thought okay she will speak to her daughter and issue will be over.

Unfortunately either she hasn't spoken to her or the daughter has ignored her completely. It's happened a few times since and I've just been sat expressing and looked up to see a pair of eyes at the fence again. I've had to get up and come upstairs. AIBU ?? I know it's their garden but I just would like to be able to walk round and use my own house without having to watch what I'm doing or feel like I'm being watched.

OP posts:
SquirtleSquad · 26/04/2020 00:02

@SweetMarmalade I've made a thread asking what it means people replied saying it means they're being nosy but I still don't know why GrinBlush

SquirtleSquad · 26/04/2020 00:10

Trunky want a bun.. stop sticking your nose in where it's not wanted / stop being nosey Grin brilliant! Wine

Smelborp · 26/04/2020 00:27

I think I’d just be very direct at this point, so: “stop staring into our house” in a teacher voice with a glare. And yes, putting up something that blocks the view ASAP.

SweetMarmalade · 26/04/2020 07:38

@SquirtleSquad Grin brilliant! I will remember this saying and pull it out of the hat on occasion Grin

Grrrpredictivetex · 26/04/2020 08:11

@SweetMarmalade
My husband says it to me when I'm looking out the window checking what's going on Grin

Nanny0gg · 26/04/2020 10:16

Elephants- long trunk/nose- sticking out begging for buns

SweetMarmalade · 26/04/2020 10:23

That saying has really tickled me!!

Grrrpredictivetex · 26/04/2020 10:37

@Nanny0gg

Elephants- long trunk/nose- sticking out begging for buns

And yes I do. 😂

TheReluctantCountess · 26/04/2020 10:38

Hope the gazebo comes soon.

Jojobythesea · 26/04/2020 10:53

Sun sail shades are great for privacy without blocking your sun as you can have them at a low angle. I have one in our garden as it blocks out the only upstairs window of a neighbour and it works a treat. Have a look on amazon. 👍

Pinkywoo · 26/04/2020 12:28

"Trunky want a bun?" is a Norfolk thing, people say trunky instead of nosey (trunk - extra large nose) and if you're an elephant you might like a bun!

Suchawitch · 26/04/2020 12:31

In a few years time when your little one wants a trampoline or plays loud games in the garden, just remember how unhelpful your neighbours have been about this and reciprocate!

Cantstopeatingchocolate · 26/04/2020 15:53

I've just seen a retractable side screen on Wayfair.
It looks like you attach it to the wall and it just pulls out
You could put it reasonably high on your wall and pull it over every time she looks in, it comes out 3m and is 1.2 m high. It could add an extra metre to the top of the fence height.

heartsonacake · 26/04/2020 15:57

“Trunky want a bun?" is a Norfolk thing, people say trunky instead of nosey (trunk - extra large nose) and if you're an elephant you might like a bun!”

Hmm
cannockcandy · 26/04/2020 16:16

I'd speak to the child and say "can I help you"?
That and I'd probably be outside blasting music and working out with my kids. But I'm a petty bitch lol. Thankfully I dont have this issue as I've lucked out with two good neighbours.

Pinkywoo · 26/04/2020 17:15

Why Hmm @heartsonacake? Yes I am from Norfolk and yes many people I know use this phrase, and say that someone was being trunky.

SquirtleSquad · 26/04/2020 21:22

How was today Op

Tas1984 · 26/04/2020 22:27

@Pinkywoo it probably sounds normal to you but to someone like myself from London who’s never heard that before it sounds weird.

agonyauntie2020 · 27/04/2020 00:23

Hehehe this thread has given me a lot. I also hate trampolines and inconsiderate noisy neighbours. I rarely say/do anything. The suggestions to tell the mother you have a sex swing etc are my favorites.

Tgiana can you say a bit more?

OP I hope you love your gazebo. Please update when it comes! many of us are way too invested in this thread.

EverdeRose · 27/04/2020 04:54

I'd get a couple of those cheapy plant pits you can hang on fences without nails. Shove in a few violas, and hey presto.
Every time she starts staring hose the bitch and pretend you were watering your plants.

Mollymalone123 · 27/04/2020 06:43

Trunks want a bun was a phrase we used to say if someone was being nosey or wanted a bit of gossip- ‘this was used a lot back it the 80’s when I lived in Brighton- moved to Devon in late 90’s and not heard it since

Pinkywoo · 27/04/2020 08:09

Oh I completely agree it's weird! It was just the Hmm implied I was talking bollocks somehow.

Lessthananovice · 29/04/2020 15:59

A very small update to say my gazebo has been dispatched! 😂 🎉

NDN girl is still at the fence most days but it's raining here today and was drizzly yesterday so not as much! Perhaps the British weather has solved my issue for me !

Catwaving · 29/04/2020 16:46

Good for you, hope it arrives soon and does the job

Tas1984 · 29/04/2020 17:07

I’m very invested in this and would appreciate all updates lol

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