Neighbours trampoline AIBU?

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Our neighbours have put up a trampoline this week, no issue with kids playing in the garden as I think it's nice to hear and my own child and family children are out in our garden most days weather permitting (just mine now!). They are the last house on the row so share a fence with us but the other side of their garden is onto woodland. The trampoline is right up against the shared fence. When it went up I didn't think too much of it to be honest but then on Monday we were sat in the conservatory having breakfast and noticed their older child (early teens maybe?) was stood on the trampoline looking into our house. I felt a bit uncomfortable as we were all in our pjs (not indecent but still I felt a bit 😳). Anyway this has happened a few times since, she can also see into our living room so when I'm sat playing with my baby on the floor/ watching tv etc I've looked up a few times to see her peering in. I know she's not really doing any harm per se but im finding it very intrusive. Dh usually does a workout in the garden every morning in just his shorts, the last two mornings he has come inside as the girl was there at the fence and he didn't feel comfortable.

Because of all this I went round to next door and knocked (then stood at the gate before I get flamed!). I've always got on fine with these neighbours but we haven't really had much interaction. I asked politely if there was any chance they could move the trampoline as their daughter could see into our house/garden and we were finding it a bit intrusive. I think I kept it quite friendly, wasn't rude or anything. Long story short neighbour said she would speak to her daughter but she won't move the trampoline as they like the garden setup as it is now. Their garden is huge, they could easily move it to the other side and it would affect no one. But I thought okay she will speak to her daughter and issue will be over.

Unfortunately either she hasn't spoken to her or the daughter has ignored her completely. It's happened a few times since and I've just been sat expressing and looked up to see a pair of eyes at the fence again. I've had to get up and come upstairs. AIBU ?? I know it's their garden but I just would like to be able to walk round and use my own house without having to watch what I'm doing or feel like I'm being watched.

Same!!!!

As would I! And re the rain/gazebo.. I think it will be a good long term investment. This would drive me bananas. But I think otherwise a board of plywood just wide enough and high enough glued to your side of the fence should do it.
As subtle as a brick but you did ask them. I'm in London and so used to being overlooked. There's a stare-y kid with a treehouse thing too I'm alarmed to see appears to have been pimped up recently. I don't want to lose precious sun on my garden but might have to invest in a tall but thin tree in a pot. Kids are nosy little fuckers.

I can totally see where ur coming from. Very intrusive , and can make u feel a bit “off” .. I would probably go against the idea of letting OH or u walk around naked ?! That’s just as awful!! She’s only a young child, regardless of what she’s doing. Your OH wouldn’t flash in front of kids out on the street would he?! Regardless of what’s happening she’s a child and you are adults. I have a daughter of 12, and I can tell you now that the boredom in the lockdown is overwhelming for them! No excuse for peeping over ur fence of course! But just try to see it from a different point of view.. a little less hastily? .. I would maybe just have a short conversation , hello , how are you , how are u finding lockdown blablabla and then just mention about the peeping .. if u become the nasty neighbour then 9 times out of 10 the kids will probs just do things to pee u off! X

@Shuttup I have no room for spiteful and sour people 🤗 stay home , stay safe and try to be kind 😊 laters

@boxingmama .. me?!

No way I’d put up with this. If she keeps it up I would knock back in and tell the parents about not being able to express milk without her gawping and add that I’d just been moments away from giving my husband a blowjob the other day when I caught her peering in. That might make them take your privacy seriously.

I get the issue and think the op has done a sensible thing to order the gazebo but a bit aghast at the sex/nudity suggestions. If she is an annoying kid but still a kid.

Also some of the suggestions at be less direct eg asking kid if she wants something - I think you need to keep being direct with teens. They don’t always get passive aggressive subtlety!

LouiseCollina RTFT

Every time she does it, just hold your phone up as if you’re filming her. That will freak her out.

FredAstaireAteMyHamSandwich RTFT!!
The OP has ordered a gazebo - problem solved which you would have known if you had read the bloody thread. You will have also read the spat between a couple of other posters about not reading the bloody thread.

No not you Lmh120108, the one replying to you ... was un called for imo.
Got some nasty sob on here, spoils the thread...

You are absolutely fine

Ahhh .. good 🤗
Yeah, some ppl are a bit touchy on here aren’t they .. maybe lockdown is getting to them far too much x

Good grief - some people really need to get a grip!

I wonder once the gazebo is in place whether the child next door decides that the trampoline needs to be moved along the fence to restore her view!

The gazebo's a great solution - I love ours. We eat outside so much more often and I can birdwatch even when it's a bit drizzly. I hope it arrives soon and you have some peace.

But the gazebo could just be moved as well, Bruce (which isn't the case for trellis or bamboo)

It is t that easy to move a big trampoline (and it must be a big one if a teen is on it). It destroys the ground underneath it so her parents won’t be too pleased if she hauls it around.
I find it very strange that she is even using a trampoline at her age unless she is doing a fitness trampoline session let alone that she is gawping over the fence at adult neighbours. Are you sure she doesn’t have learning difficulties?

If they do move the trampoline it's a bit obvious and the parents are currently pretending it's not happening and making a token effort to stop it. and as for the nudity.. it is actually happening to some extent as she had the kid watching her express milk. And hubby probably does wander around with shorts on. Wouldn't hurt to exaggerate a bit though if they move the trampoline.
But a nicely worded card saying thanks for talking to dd of course she's only a kid and probably bored and we can see she knows she shouldn't.. but as I'm currently expressing milk and hubby tends to walk around naked we thought the gazebo would a nice solution as we will use it a lot too. Then if they move it you know they are irretrievably prick like.

I can imagine my daughter would stare. She is a bit lacking in social graces but I would definitely bring her in in, move the trampoline apologise etc. It a good opportunity for her to teach her daughter how to not upset people.

Have sex in the conservatory each morning and wait for the knock from her parents.

Hope it arrives soon!