Neighbours trampoline AIBU?

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Our neighbours have put up a trampoline this week, no issue with kids playing in the garden as I think it's nice to hear and my own child and family children are out in our garden most days weather permitting (just mine now!). They are the last house on the row so share a fence with us but the other side of their garden is onto woodland. The trampoline is right up against the shared fence. When it went up I didn't think too much of it to be honest but then on Monday we were sat in the conservatory having breakfast and noticed their older child (early teens maybe?) was stood on the trampoline looking into our house. I felt a bit uncomfortable as we were all in our pjs (not indecent but still I felt a bit 😳). Anyway this has happened a few times since, she can also see into our living room so when I'm sat playing with my baby on the floor/ watching tv etc I've looked up a few times to see her peering in. I know she's not really doing any harm per se but im finding it very intrusive. Dh usually does a workout in the garden every morning in just his shorts, the last two mornings he has come inside as the girl was there at the fence and he didn't feel comfortable.

Because of all this I went round to next door and knocked (then stood at the gate before I get flamed!). I've always got on fine with these neighbours but we haven't really had much interaction. I asked politely if there was any chance they could move the trampoline as their daughter could see into our house/garden and we were finding it a bit intrusive. I think I kept it quite friendly, wasn't rude or anything. Long story short neighbour said she would speak to her daughter but she won't move the trampoline as they like the garden setup as it is now. Their garden is huge, they could easily move it to the other side and it would affect no one. But I thought okay she will speak to her daughter and issue will be over.

Unfortunately either she hasn't spoken to her or the daughter has ignored her completely. It's happened a few times since and I've just been sat expressing and looked up to see a pair of eyes at the fence again. I've had to get up and come upstairs. AIBU ?? I know it's their garden but I just would like to be able to walk round and use my own house without having to watch what I'm doing or feel like I'm being watched.

Has she got special needs?

Could you walk around naked for a bit and wave when she looks?

Tosser parents. Selfish.

Close the curtains.

She's just standing staring at you? Did you actually explain this to the parents?

I would indicate to the child that it's not on. Just politely say can you please not look on our house . You have every right to privacy .. barring that's stick up a big privacy fake hedge thing !

How old is the DD? I'd be furious if she continued, and would be outside telling her to stop being so nosey.

Could you politely go out and ask the girl not yo look in, she might be embarrassed when she realises you can see her gawping.

Motion activated water sprinkler on that side of the garden?

The right to privacy law suggests you contact your local authority.. You do have rights here op...
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I would tell the girl to stop staring, you’ve spoken to the parents and they’ve not adddressed it so it’s the only option! Why should you have to close the curtains in your own home!

I don’t know what the solution is but I feel your pain. My neighbours lids like to climb a tree they have at the end of their garden and just sit there staring at us. They look away for a bit if I give them the look, but they’re soon back to it.

Kids not lids

I'd start knocking every single time she does it and just say "Annoying isn't it" and keeping knocking until they answer every single time

It's fine for them to put the trampoline wherever they like. What's NOT fine is the daughter's behaviour. Ther trampoline is for play and exercise, not voyeuristic gawping into your house and garden.

Address it directly next time she's doing it - like when your DH is exercising.

Tell the girl to stop staring and knock the parents again and tell them that she's staring in. What a weird thing to do.

I'd say she is early teens, no issues as far as I'm aware, I've spoken to her mum before when we moved in etc and all very pleasant so the attitude when I went round was a bit out of the blue. Yes sometimes she is just watching, I think she must be stood on her toes to see or on something as she looks in for a bit, disappears for a sec then bobs back up. When we were out in the garden the other day I said to her 'sally (not her name) are you after something?' And she just said no I'm playing then started bouncing up and down 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ha to the pp who said about walking round naked 🤣 tempting although the child would probably need therapy then! I was mortified she'd even seen me expressing 😳

Go into the garden and tell her to stop staring.

Put up a taller fence on your side

Every time you see her say “yes can I help”; hopefully it will embarrass her enough to stop looking. My in laws have a trampoline against a shared fence (all their garden is shared fence so no choice) and we just tell DC not to look into the other gardens and having been on the trampoline it’s not hard to avoid looking as you’re on there to play/bounce and not to look into people gardens.

I would tell dh to walk around naked. Bet she stops the dc then....

It's rude & ridiculous of them not to move it elsewhere when they could easily

I'd knock a few more times, every time she's staring. If they still don't move it I'd point a sprinkler at the trampoline. 🤷🏻‍♀️

can you put one of those trellis fence toppers up on top of the fence maybe? I know you shouldn't have to, but got this would piss me off too. Maybe tell her to stop being nosey every time you catch her as well.

I think you need to challenge the child everytime - "yes? can I help you?"

Get one of those.