To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping

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I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.

The moment it was turned into a competition, the message was lost. People are doing it for themselves not the NHS.

I'd be tempted to reply
"I do not think I will be participating in this any longer. Clapping for our NHS is supposed to show support for all our healthcare workers. It is not supposed to be an excuse to bully and belittle someone with no thought to their personal circumstances or mental health. This sort of behaviour runs the very real risk of putting more strain on the NHS at a time when we should be celebrating it."
Post the link to the Facebook discussion and I will post that reply without the first sentence .

How dare they! I'd reply. They have no idea what could have been going on in your house at the time, especially with little ones!

I have not clapped once and i dont intend to. Im very grateful for the nhs and all key workers especially my keyworker dm but i dont need to stand and clap at my door to show my gratitude

what like all the arseholes on westminster bridge last wek

im fed up of peopple shaming others for not clapping for the nhs-its a great service of course it i appreciate it very much but im not going to be forced to clap every week and for how long?

they know you care just ignore your stupid neighbour

@Lynda07 having spent the last 2 years in and out of hospital I empathise with your experience.

Prior to this pandemic there was a lot wrong with the NHS (and still is) but MSM including the influence of social media (this clapping thing was started by one woman sharing the call to action - apparently) lights a movement which becomes the core way of thinking that no one is allowed to differ from or challenge.

Similar patterns in several aspects of our current situation, but I digress...

I don’t clap.

I do my part by paying my tax, following social distancing laws and keeping myself and family healthy.

Seen a lot of posts on social media showing clapping then zooming in on doors of people who don’t clap.

2 such people I know and I’m sure the NHS would be far more appreciative if they got jobs, stopped sponging with fake ailments. And stopped taking class A drugs which will no doubt cause them to a burden to the NHS in the future

Seems for some it’s an excuse to bitch/gossip make as much noise as they humanly can.

No one claps on my street. But on the cul de sac behind they go nuts! Fireworks, football rattles, air horn klaxons, banging pans together.. goes on for 10 mins or so

Bollocks to their virtue signalling. The ones out clapping round here thought nothing of going out and about wherever they pleased a few weeks ago. And the ones on Facebook going on about it every week were fine posting photos and videos of them partaking in huge events as this began to escalate and are still now doing what they like or the ones who complained about mild symptoms after being at such events because common sense didn't apply to them. Don't be shamed into anything. This is a weird phenomenon. Fuck everyone else most of the time but god help you if I don't witness you clapping... ridiculous mindless mob mentality.

Nobody claps around here, although I do hear someone banging pans off in the distance. I support the NHS - I worked for it for many years - but this clapping thing has gone too far now with jumped up neighbourhood stasi naming and shaming. Once it becomes compelled it loses all meaning anyway, and seems rather sinister and sovient like.

there will come a time someone needs you and then you can turn your b back. I have never stood and clapped. There are so many children with autism I know who are upset by the noise. Particularly as many think it ok to bang pots and spoons, honk horns and set off fireworks. Every single week. The reality is its not helping. respect can be done without showing it for the judgement of others. One nurse I know has zero shifts for a month and she is full time all because the lack of patients to certain areas of the hospital forces them to prevent nurses working. Pretty sure some medical staff would prefer an income than a round of applause. Thank them when they help you or your family.

I've never stood and clapped on a Thursday at 8pm. Both my DDs and my Dsis are nurses, and I'm worried about their safety, but they chose their career and enjoy their job (mostly). I don't feel the need to stand smugly on the street applauding. And they would be happier with decent pay and conditions rather than the public and politicians making gushing speeches about them being "heroes". They frankly feel it's a bit trite.

You should look up the voting record of your constituency and remind them how many people voted for the Tories and therefore supported and encouraged the NHS cuts.

In my area 35k people voted Tory. Be pretty hypocritical to go clap for the organisation you actively had part in being cut to the bone.

I don't clap. I'm an ex nurse (left when I had DDs and my attempt to return to nursng last year was foxed by then not runnig a course in my county).

I support my current NHS colleagues by supporting them on SM where I can. I supported them by vote in the last election. I support them in my social distancing. Clapping like a demented trained seal means FA to me.

Don't be made to feel ashamed. Just do the best you can and ignore the covidiots.

Better not to reply.

If you do have to reply, make it something very simple and providing no explanation. Not clapping, for any reason at all is a valid choice and requires no excuse.

“I support the NHS. I do not support the bullying of neighbors.”

Social media can be really toxic at times. I missed the clapping too, fell asleep {sickening for shingles} but I did feel guilty on waking up.
My brother, son and I actually came off Facebook, ''Whats app'' is much better for messages. People do fall asleep, it isn't a crime! T?o shame others for it is a poor show.

Re voting Tory....exactly! if clappers clap while voting for NHS to be cut, it is hypocritical. Luckily this area is Labour.

I forgot last week nine of the neighbours seemed to if commented as I wouldn't wig them as I don't know what they are doing in their house or maybe even working etc

I got named and shamed for this 😅
8pm is my baby's bedtime and my neighbour informed me as I walked past her on my walk she hadn't seen me clapping.🙄
Turned around and told her straight I love the nhs but I love the bedtime routine is more important.
She told me she expects to see me out tomorrow.

She also had a pop at me for not putting a rainbow in my window, as if a 7month old could even draw a rainbow and I don't even have paint.😐

So if I voted Labour and clap that makes my clapping more useful?

Um....

OMG how RUDE!
Are there really people like this in the world? Who would be so bloody rude and weird????

Please reply, don’t accept this bullying. Please say you were settling an upset child and that you find their naming and shaming utterly ridiculous and rude and that THEY have now made it awkward and unwelcoming and that THEY are the reason you won’t be joining their clapping but showing your appreciation by donating and supporting the NHS in an actually helpful way.

cheeky fucker. Do you know I would love for someone to be this outrightly rude to me, oorrrr I’d have a field day ripping them a new one! All my pent up anger from looking after the kids all day

Just reply with "clap wankers"

We had this on our local FB group. Not naming an individual which is shocking and disgusting, but complaining in general about the lack of clapping in their street. I commented that we shouldn’t judge each other, that people might be ill or working or have other reasons for not joining in. What I wanted to say was - I bet you judgemental cunt voted Tory and clapping for a service your party spent a decade running into the ground is completely hypocritical and meaningless.

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery

So if I voted Labour and clap that makes my clapping more useful? You’re missing the point. Clapping isn’t useful. But clapping if you’re a Tory voter is hypocritical and meaningless. You do know what the Tory policy towards the NHS over the last 10 years has been don’t you? Have you heard of austerity?

With this kind of petty crap don't sink to their level. Either ignore or go higher. So, ignore completely and do not clap ever again (that'll drive them crazy) or get FB to remove the post (they like authoritarianism so give them some).