To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping

[Aberforthsgoat]

I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.

[flowerstar19]

Report the post on FB OP, hope they get banned!!

[TimeTravellersHat]

OP you don’t have to type anything in reply to them - just post a link to this thread!

[OoohTheStatsDontLie]

This has made me so angry.

It's not compulsory. Last time I checked, people were free to vote for a party that drastically cut NHS funds without reprisal, people were free to vote in a referendum that drastically cut NHS staff without reprisal, and people are free to clap for the NHS or moan about them as they see fit without reprisal. Its not law, it's not guidelines and it's not even advice.

The thing that makes me the most mad is that they said that you wouldnt deserve the NHSs help if you got ill. The whole fucking point of the NHS and why people seem to hold it in such high regard in this country is that its free at the point of use, irrespective of how much you've put into the system and how much you've taken out of the system and how much you've contributed to the system. So a multimillionaire who keeps fit and eats raw organic vegan food, 'deserves' it as much as an overweight tax Dodger who smokes drinks and does drugs and dangerous sports at the weekend. That's what they're clapping for.

This whole pandemic has accentuated peoples true selves, and a couple of your neighbours are apparently petty sanctimonious hypocritical busybodies

[purpleboy]

Don't clap tomorrow. They will think they shamed you into it.
I would have to respond though, it's just not in my nature to allow people to talk shit about me and not call them out.
Fucking assholes.
There was some idiot on a thread here the other day who openly admitted to naming and shaming their neighbor for not clapping, they got a right pasting from all the posters.

[HandfulofDust]

I love the clap for carers but naming or shaming anyone even if you know for a fact they just can't be bothered to get off the sofa to do it is absolutely ridiculous.

[BrummyMum1]

That is absolutely outrageous! I would be marching over there right now to give a loud, slow, solitary clap on the pavement outside their house whilst shouting “is this better”, “is this what you wanted”. You could be in the midst of a breakdown for all they know or grieving for a family member!

[Sparklesocks]

The good news OP is that any level headed, civilised person won’t think you’re public enemy no 1 for daring not skip the clap. Chances are your neighbours are raising their eyebrow at the poster’s aggressive and misguided post, even if they don’t comment.

[OnceUponAMidnightBeery]

The first one was more spontaneous and more meaningful. Every week I’d feel like a performing seal.

I don’t finish work till 8pm. I’ve been on a 10 hour shift. I’m apparently a ‘key worker’ for essential food/fuel supply, in reality I’m there so people can come in twice a day for their essential one ice cream, 3 chocolate bars, bag of crisps or an energy drink.

There is a distinct rise in people not utilising the gloves and sanitiser we supply. God only knows how the NHS and carers are coping.

So shame me for not clapping. I’m knackered when I get home and that’s NOTHING to how frontline staff must feel.

If all the clapping seals donated just £1 per week to any of the the multiple charities/fundraisers/NHS support groups it would help much more right now.

In short- don’t feel bad OP, virtue signalling does not make them a better person

[BirdieFriendReturns]

I live in military married quarters and nobody claps. It’s not compulsory, clap or don’t clap.

[OoohTheStatsDontLie]

Handfulofdust how on earth would you know they cant be arsed to get off their sofa to clap? I'm sure my neighbours think that about me. I'm actually working from home late into the evening to support companies who are supporting the nhs. My neighbours have never really asked me what my job is. I don't clap, I think its pointless, and if I'm not working I'm usually trying to get my kids to sleep. I do other things though like donate items to local NHS trusts which I personally think it more useful.

[Bubblebu]

If it lifts the spirits of the NHS let us clap and applaud.
But basically the most important think government SINCERE backing of the NHS. Of which I personally am not quite yet I see in terms of ££ and PPE and real support ...(maybe just me) .

[Ginger1982]

I would let rip. I wouldn't be able to contain it. This person is hoping you won't say anything.

[IHaveAMagicBean]

My DH and I have not clapped at all.
Nothing against the NHS , I just don’t feel the need to clap, there are no nurses or doctors down our street.

I feel it’s just virtue signalling, I hate being told what to do by sheep!

Don’t be made to feel bad, you prioritised your poorly dc, just as any sensible person would. Ignore the idiots, or post on the Facebook page to say you were busy with a sick child. But please don’t feel bad.

[PanamaPattie]

I don’t understand the clapping at all. Why are we applauding people who are just doing the job they paid to do?

[Lynda07]

I am APPALLED that you were named and shamed. For Heaven's sakes, you fell asleep, that could happen to anyone. I hope whoever wrote that comes on here and recognises them-self. Grrrrrr.

[Bubblebu]

But to be honest - I was on similar Mumsnet threads about 4 or 3 weeks ago and there were a lot of similar names saying if you do not go out and clap for your NHS you are heartless and not a trustworthy UK citizen and you should self isolate because you were selfish and irresponsible.

[theneighbourswindchime]

If you don't clap for the NHS on a Thursday night, a fairy dies somewhere, and a unicorn won't get born......


Oh wait....

[Hannah888]

I don't clap OP. I think it's weird and many NHS think it's patronising. I value them but no one claps in my street. So when they have clapped (not social distancing), many of them take selfies of them doing so and post on Facebook. Can somebody please tell me why???

[Sweetandawfulsour]

A simple “fuck off karen” would do

[Sadie789]

@PanamaPattie and, most importantly, chose to do.

[Aberforthsgoat]

The thing that I don’t understand is and I almost don’t want to type this Incase I tempt fate but how do they know we aren’t self isolating due to the virus or having symptoms? I bet they’d be screaming blue murder if we went out clapping with a cough etc
It’s just inane judgement that seems to be getting more and more common
DH thinks it’s because a lot of people have too much time on their hands now
For what it’s worth I support the NHS they have given my family some incredible care in terrible circumstances and I will forever be grateful. And grateful to the nurses and doctors etc who do jobs that I simply could not handle

[CreamLinenChairCover]

Ignore them, I’m not a joiner, and haven’t clapped, and won’t.

Ignore the nutcases

[Lynda07]

Such bollox. I've NEVER done it and also not heard my neighbours going out, not that you hear that much here. A few fireworks went off somewhere out the back. I know the first time I had completely forgotten about it and have just never thought of it since.

Of course I appreciate all the work being done by NHS staff, and other people elsewhere. I admire them. If there is anything I can do for someone I will do it but I am not going to stand outside the front of my house and clap.

What I hope is that the care and dedication continues after the current pandemic is over. I spent eight days in prison, sorry, hospital last year in April, following a relatively minor accident and concussion. I was in over Easter, and it was the most terrifying and horrible experience. I was helpless and vulnerable and not one person cared. I think I'd have died had I been kept in any longer. They discharged me when I started to develop bedsores, telling me there was nothing wrong with me (I'd had every test under the sun). I could hobble about at home, when I was in hospital I could barely walk and had terrible diarrhoea for which I was shouted at. I recovered at home, gradually mobilised. No way am I ever going back into hospital.

What I'm saying is, much as I admire the NHS workers, at any other time we don't need heroes risking their lives, we need competent, kind people who do their jobs properly.

[Gruffawoah]

They sound pathetic. Don't worry though, it looks like the media have had enough of being supportive of nurses ( www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8245313/Fury-endless-showreel-NHS-staff-dancing-fooling-coronavirus-crisis.html ) so the tide will turn and it won't be long until you're named and shamed for clapping.