Resentful of DH WFH - anyone else?

[Becomingbatshit]

I’m a SAHM and DH is WFH. Of course this means that it’s fair for me to wrangle our hell raising toddler etc. It’s just that I am watching him, pregnant and tired as I am, doing my best to entertain a very bored and pissed off child, sitting nicely in his chair and drinking coffees all fucking day long and it’s giving me serious rage. Yes IABU, I know. But does anyone want to BU with me?! I wish I could be sitting all bloody day with a nice beverage and reading the FT online/doing some work.

This is lighthearted...sort of....

DH sits in the dining room most of the day on his laptop and asks us to keep the noise down

LTB! (With the children and run out for your exercise/sit in the car on MN with some wine and chocolates)

I can understand this being in the other side of it but I can absolutely see both sides. I wfh and its gruelling at the moment my work has increased not slowed down. I sit at the computer 8.30 am to 5.30 PM with a break to dash out and make DC lunch because I want to feel like I'm doing something maternal. Its stressful and hard. However I fully accept that to the untrained observer it looks like I'm sitting having a chat with learners . I'm not , there is a massive pressure to get learners through and complete when we cant go out and observe practice or do exams.

At the same time I teach in care services so I have learners literally crying on me when they talk about losing multiple residents in a couple of days.

However DP is on DC duty. I do the teaching and school work but he supervises. I also remember from maternity leave how unbelievably draining it is to be on constant duty with DC. Its constant and unrelenting. We love the DC but this isn't a walk in the park for anyone.

I think there is an element of recognising neither has it easy and its different pressures on both sides. We both recognise this and give each other space to unwind and alone time is basically a negotiable commodity in our house at the moment.

@Shiny

You are not wrong. But when I see DH skip off upstairs to the loo for the 10th wee of the hour (downstairs loo OUT OF ACTION) whilst I’m hanging on and weeing twice a day even though heavily pregnant because DS doesn’t want to come and I don’t want to struggle up the stairs with a 13kg wriggling lump, I do want to scream.

I hear you, OP! We are tag teaming with a 1 and 2yo, bleugh - I have a few days of uninterrupted WFH and yes I do look longingly forward to them as my "rest" days. Can confirm, a white collar office job wfh is much easier than child wrangling.

Don't let him get away with it! Even on my working days the guilt drives me out for half an hour here and there to provide respite, and I do lunch hour and dinner time.