To want to go and give this absolute idiot a piece of my mind?

[WobblyWoman]

DH (keyworker) often takes the DC out for walks in the dark after work. DC prefer going with him than me as he plays games with them as they’re walking like hide and seek, skipping/jumping around, chasing, making animal noises etc, and they like going out in the dark just as background.

Anyway tonight they were walking down the main road and turned into a side road to cut back across to our house. Teen DS was walking ahead and didn’t notice they were going into the side road so carried on walking. DH bird called to him to get his attention and he walked back so DH and little DS decided to hide behind some bushes at the bottom of a small cul de sac round the corner so they could jump out at him. They were on the opposite side of some houses in the cul de sac and nowhere near gardens etc. Anyway within seconds a man threw open his front door of the house in front of them and shouted at DH and DS to ‘get out of it’ and get off his property or he’d set his dog on them! Cue massive ugly staffie like thing coming out of the front door towards them. DH explained what he was doing and said they weren’t on his property but the man kept on. DS was very scared and shaken by this point and worried about the dog so DH decided to just let it go as DC were there and came home with a very upset DS.

I’m absolutely furious that this man thought he could behave this way and want to knock on his door tomorrow and give him a piece of my mind about him threatening people with his dog. It’s only the next street up. There’s are lots of these little cul de sacs in our area, we live in one ourselves, and they are not the homeowner’s private property to dictate who stands near them!

AIBU?

The man isn’t the c**t here, just saying. If you put that note through my door after your husband lurking in bushes in the dark like some sort of peeping Tom I’d be handing it over to the police.

@wobblywioman YABU! Both you and to use your words your 'very important' key worker husband sound daft tbh! How on earth did he manage to get an important job?

Every part of this thread is hilarious

Love goofy staffy grins.

DH bird called hmm to him to get his attention and he walked back so DH and little DS decided to hide behind some bushes at the bottom of a small cul de sac round the corner so they could jump out at him. They were on the opposite side of some houses in the cul de sac and nowhere near gardens etc. Anyway within seconds a man threw open his front door of the house in front of them and shouted at DH and DS to ‘get out of it’ and get off his property or he’d set his dog on them!

Bird calling/whistling would really unsettle me as I’ve always associated it with organised muggings. This is the received wisdom where I am, that this is how people who are looking to rob you communicate

This is what stood out to me most, too.

Your DH, in the dark, was bird-whistling as signal to unseen people anf hiding behind bushes.

A cul de sac sort of assumes the bushes probably are someone's front garden. If not, put up a diagram.

But really, your DH has learnt a lesson - don't fuck around in the dark with a teenager when there's a pandemic going on and people are feeling heightened emotions around safety and their property.

(And Staffies are lovely)

@Notimeforaname no it’s not hilarious it’s very important

I'm afraid that cutie pie isn't mine. I wish!

Thankfully Google is filled with beautiful smiley Staffie photos.

Oh Ffs, your DH is a twat, he is the reason your D'S is upset . You need to have a word with him not the man. You aren't coming across well either. Stop going round the streets carrying on in the dark. Presumably your DH is on back shift so could take DC out before work.

X-post about the diagram.

You'd be a twat of the highest order if you put a note through the door. Really, you would.

You'd also do better at explaining to small DS that the man might have scared him but he was probably a bit scared himself by people hiding in the bushes opposite his house.

Empathy, y'know?

1. Staffys are far from ugly.
2. Your husband sounds like a tit.
3. You hide in bushes at night then you can expect people to shout at you. He could have thought they were hiding from someone they wanted to attack. You apologise, explain the misunderstanding and move on. Do not go to his house to call him a cunt for objecting to your family pratting about at night even if your husband is an oh so important key worker

VERY important keyworker still doesn't change the fact that it wasn't silly to muck about like that. YABU to want to take this further.

"Can imagine him suppressing giggles at the thought of jumping out on DS2 before being terrified out of his wits."

...and what about if your husband and son had jumped out in front of someone who wasn't your other son? I often go for a run or walk in the dark after work as I'm A VERY IMPORTANT KEYWORKER WHO CAN'T WORK FROM HOME YOU KNOW, and would be scared sh**less if a man jumped out at me from behind some bushes.

My DH is a keyworker, although he can do his role from home atm but he doesn’t run around with dd at night hiding in peoples bushes. Being a key worker isn’t a free pass to do what you want. yabu.

was silly.

If I saw someone lurking/hiding in the dark, I'd be furious through fear too.. At least the Staff was on a lead {I expect}
Best not to lurk around in the dark.

I already stated that DH explained what he and DS were doing and were obviously going as DS2 had heard the commotion but the man still kept shouting and threatening them with his dog slimshady. Why on earth can’t people read on here? There would have been at least 12 feet between them and the boundary of his property seeing as there was a road between them .

The man should have apologised when he realised what they were doing and it wasn’t a threat to him or his property.

Haha, "Be nice, you bunch of cunts, you're all terrible scrubbers"...

Maybe he didn't believe what they were doing

So, what time was this at OP and how old are your DC? How long has your DH lived here? Did you not think to explain that asides from Halloween, it's not really the done thing to be carrying on around the streets in the dark?