Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To want to go and give this absolute idiot a piece of my mind?

369 replies

WobblyWoman · 21/04/2020 22:47

DH (keyworker) often takes the DC out for walks in the dark after work. DC prefer going with him than me as he plays games with them as they’re walking like hide and seek, skipping/jumping around, chasing, making animal noises etc, and they like going out in the dark just as backgroundGrin.

Anyway tonight they were walking down the main road and turned into a side road to cut back across to our house. Teen DS was walking ahead and didn’t notice they were going into the side road so carried on walking. DH bird called Hmm to him to get his attention and he walked back so DH and little DS decided to hide behind some bushes at the bottom of a small cul de sac round the corner so they could jump out at him. They were on the opposite side of some houses in the cul de sac and nowhere near gardens etc. Anyway within seconds a man threw open his front door of the house in front of them and shouted at DH and DS to ‘get out of it’ and get off his property or he’d set his dog on them! Cue massive ugly staffie like thing coming out of the front door towards them. DH explained what he was doing and said they weren’t on his property but the man kept on. DS was very scared and shaken by this point and worried about the dog so DH decided to just let it go as DC were there and came home with a very upset DS.

I’m absolutely furious that this man thought he could behave this way and want to knock on his door tomorrow and give him a piece of my mind about him threatening people with his dog. It’s only the next street up. There’s are lots of these little cul de sacs in our area, we live in one ourselves, and they are not the homeowner’s private property to dictate who stands near them!

AIBU?

OP posts:
Thread gallery
7
Sparklfairy · 21/04/2020 23:05

@SquirtleSquad maybe to try and give themselves a free pass for acting like morons Grin

OP seriously, a grown man lurking in the bushes after dark making bird noises and you're surprised someone hasn't come out and seen him off? God knows what the man thought dh was up to but I don't think 'innocent walk with the kids' crossed his mind!

Everyone is on edge and needs to be respectful of each other. And that includes not spooking the neighbours at night!

SquirtleSquad · 21/04/2020 23:07

OP you asked if you're unreasonable and you have very clearly been told that you are so but nothing.

Oh hang on.. did you mention your DH was a key worker? Because in that case it changes everything, tell him to be an even bigger inconsiderate twat next time but make sure he wears his lanyard.

Snakeshoes · 21/04/2020 23:07

A key worker mucking about in your front garden bush could still be quite scary.

changemynamechangemynamewhen · 21/04/2020 23:07

Wtf??? Did you marry an 11 year old? How can you even remotely defend your husband here?

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 21/04/2020 23:07

I'm sure the neighbours love people running around on the dark making animal noises.

If my DH saw someone hiding in the bushes on the dark, he would tell them to bugger off too. DH also a key worker so maybe that would be acceptable Grin

As an aside, keyworker DH doesn't feel the need to go out on the dark with our 3 DCs and start running around playing hide and seek

ScarfLadysBag · 21/04/2020 23:09

I also don't understand why you would get involved when it was your husband who was the one it happened to. If anyone wants to take it further, surely it should be him? I'm sure he doesn't need his wife going and shouting at people on his behalf. I wouldn't appreciate my husband going round to shout at someone when I had made a decision to leave it alone,

Snakeshoes · 21/04/2020 23:09

Can you imagine hearing weird animal noises at night and hearing rustlings in the bushes?

No wonder he let the dog out.

Nicknacky · 21/04/2020 23:09

Maybe your DH should have told him he was a key worker and the householder would immediately have apologised and thanked him for his service.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 21/04/2020 23:10

Maybe your keyworker should be more respectful of people trying to sleep and rest, possibly ill or vulnerable and not fuck about outside their houses playing noisy games in the dark.

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 21/04/2020 23:10

If I saw a strange man hiding in my front garden in the dark the dogs would already be on him before I set foot out there and I sure as hell wouldn't be calling them off because he said he was hiding from his kid. It was the truth in this case but come on, in that situation you'd just think yeah right. He was being an idiot, sneaking round in the dark, outside someone's house. What did he think would happen? If it was an elderly person he could have scared them shitless. I know my neighbour would have been in tears calling the police if she saw some weirdo hiding in her bushes at night. The fuck did he think he was doing!

Lockheart · 21/04/2020 23:10

That's as may be OP but your DH massively misjudged the situation. If people at home at night see others out in the dark making strange noises and hiding in bushes, they're not going to conclude they're just out for their daily constitutional.

Your DS had a fright. Unpleasant but not the end of the world, and could have been entirely avoidable had your DH been behaving like a responsible adult.

Playing games is usually for the park in the daylight. Not for residential streets at night.

ScarfLadysBag · 21/04/2020 23:10

@Nicknacky Don't forget the applause. He and the dog would immediately have burst into a tearful standing ovation.

Snakeshoes · 21/04/2020 23:11

The householder could have given him a round of applause

crazycatgal · 21/04/2020 23:11

What an idiot hiding in bushes on a residential street after dark.

Thisismytimetoshine · 21/04/2020 23:12

Your dh was being an arse, hiding in bushes in someone's garden making bird sounds. He's lucky he didn't get a hosepipe turned on him.

What the relevance of his being a key worker is anybody's guess.

banana64 · 21/04/2020 23:12

What exactly is a key worker? A bin man? A nurse? A checkout operator? They are all keyworkers. Is this some new found snobbery where twats are using it as some get out of being a twat card? Shameful really.

Amimissingsomethinghere · 21/04/2020 23:12

You lost me at ugly staffie...

changemynamechangemynamewhen · 21/04/2020 23:12

Im a keyworker and dont lurk in the bushes in the dark as I'm an adult 🤷🏽‍♀️

Nicknacky · 21/04/2020 23:13

ScarfsLadysBag Surely that’s only if he was in the bushes on a Thursday at 8pm?😂

serialtester · 21/04/2020 23:13

The whole thing sounds incredibly odd. I'm not a Covid prefect but essential exercise doesn't include hide and seek in peoples hedges.

LovingLola · 21/04/2020 23:14

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

1Morewineplease · 21/04/2020 23:15

I think the lesson to be learned here is, don’t lurk in bushes after dark and don’t try to have a bit of fun during lockdown.

Snakeshoes · 21/04/2020 23:17

Well it's fine to have a bit of fun in lockdown, just not in peoples bushes in the dark.

TooTrueToBeGood · 21/04/2020 23:17

whenever I see "key worker" for some reason I visualise someone in a Timpsons apron.

IHaveAMagicBean · 21/04/2020 23:18

Remind me which one was the “absolute idiot”? Your son, your husband or your teen?

Because it wasn’t the man who found absolute idiots messing about in the bushes!

Swipe left for the next trending thread