To want to go and give this absolute idiot a piece of my mind?

[WobblyWoman]

DH (keyworker) often takes the DC out for walks in the dark after work. DC prefer going with him than me as he plays games with them as they’re walking like hide and seek, skipping/jumping around, chasing, making animal noises etc, and they like going out in the dark just as background.

Anyway tonight they were walking down the main road and turned into a side road to cut back across to our house. Teen DS was walking ahead and didn’t notice they were going into the side road so carried on walking. DH bird called to him to get his attention and he walked back so DH and little DS decided to hide behind some bushes at the bottom of a small cul de sac round the corner so they could jump out at him. They were on the opposite side of some houses in the cul de sac and nowhere near gardens etc. Anyway within seconds a man threw open his front door of the house in front of them and shouted at DH and DS to ‘get out of it’ and get off his property or he’d set his dog on them! Cue massive ugly staffie like thing coming out of the front door towards them. DH explained what he was doing and said they weren’t on his property but the man kept on. DS was very scared and shaken by this point and worried about the dog so DH decided to just let it go as DC were there and came home with a very upset DS.

I’m absolutely furious that this man thought he could behave this way and want to knock on his door tomorrow and give him a piece of my mind about him threatening people with his dog. It’s only the next street up. There’s are lots of these little cul de sacs in our area, we live in one ourselves, and they are not the homeowner’s private property to dictate who stands near them!

AIBU?

A man hiding in the bushes after dark , or anytime really would really frighten me too. What a stupid thing to do .
Count yourselves lucky it wasn't America , they have dogs and guns.

No, I wouldn't if I were you. With you saying it was dark, I would guess that it was late, possibly 9pm onwards? Most people wouldn't be too happy with strangers hiding in bushes opposite their house at the best of times, never mind in the current climate whereby people are much more heightened. It was irresponsible of your husband to act that way, I know he meant no harm by it but he's probably really shaken the man who lives in the house, so the last thing they then need is you knocking on his door shouting the odds.

Also, if people were hiding in the bushes over from my house in the dark, my tiny fluffy completely harmless little dog would create all kinds of commotion, as they hear things we don't and their instinct is to protect

Seriously OP. Get over yourself.

If I saw someone hiding in bushes outside my house I'd shout and get my dog out too and I wouldn't put my dog indoors until I saw they were leaving.

If that was followed up with an aggressive, abusive letter I would certainly be calling the police.

You don't know the other persons situation, he might be vulnerable, he might have been burgled recently, he may have been a dusk red recently, he may have mh issues - who knows.

But what I do know is if I was in my own and I saw a grown man in my garden hiding in the bushes I'd have probably phoned the police.

@Hoppinggreen

And what if there was a very important key worker trying to sleep in that house or neighbouring houses.
They have now been woke by your twat of a husband. And then continuted to be disturbed by dog man threating your very important husband becuase he wont just fuck off home and behave like an adult.

@NoveltyFunsies My heart is hurting at the beauty 😍 Would you consider swapping him for my half-bald lunatic rat-bastard of a lurcher?

He hid in a bush in the dark?

I'd be frightened too!

88% of the votes say you are being unreasonable.
Did you do the note calling him a c? I don't type it because it is not a word I use and don't particularly like it but the OP uses it....
Perhaps a note to yourself also along the same thing - something like:
"Dear wife of very important idiot of a twit keyworker, don't be a c!"

Then read all the posts in the thread (not just the ones that you like or feel sorry for your ridiculous suggestions of sending said 'note') and then re-read the note to yourself so that you realise how ridiculous you sound to the vast majority of people.

Now go and do some colouring.

SquirtleSquad Tue 21-Apr-20 23:26:21 User post image Don't be alarmed I'm a key worker

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou Gorgeous dog!

YABU OP. We have an increase in people prowling about at night around homes in my area. There have been a number of threads about it on MN people expressing concern and being scared. That man wasn't to know what your DH was doing. Also while your DH and sons might enjoy jumping out at each other, making animal noises and scaring each other at night have you considered that this behaviour might be affecting others? If some weird man was walking past my house at night making animal noises and hiding behind my shrubs jumping out at people walking past I'd be concerned.

And you can't blame the dog. It was only doing what it has been trained to do.

Maybe her husband was just one of many VERY important key workers that have been lurking in the bushes opposite this man's house? So understandably the man and his dog are fed up of the bush invading key workers.
I'm a key worker. I'm not sure if I'm VERY important one though so I'm going to stay out of my neighbours hedges just in case I'm not the right standard of key worker to be lurking in them.

Ulver

No idea what sort of area you live in but such behaviour would be totally unacceptable here. You have very low standards, obviously.

Well...

OP's DH is a VERY important key worker.

And I've heard that Chequers isn't what it used to be...

Sorry I didn’t clarify that that was a quote from the poster Sarah something who was saying that I must live in a crappy area because I think it’s ok that the neighbour told them to get lost!

Right - sorry, I didn't mean to attribute the quote wrongly.
I was just trying to make a (weak) joke.

But I agree with you - I also think the neighbour was right to tell them to get lost.
I'd be more wary of an area which had people putting notes through letterboxes using the word "cunt".

How about this Thursday at 8pm we all hide in bushes while making bird noises to show our appreciation for the NHS?

Soz, that was a quote from @Hoppinggreen!

If somebody was lurking in bushes near my house at night my last thought would be a Key Worker enjoying innocent jolly japes with his children.
I would assume burglars/ drug dealers/prostitute and client or other dodgy activities and if I had a dog would probably take it with me while I tried to get rid.

YABVU and you shouldn't post in AIBU if you expect everyone to agree with you .

Your husband behaved stupidly. Move on.

Your husband sounds annoying af.

We’re only getting your VERY IMPORTANT KEYWORKER husband’s side of things... remember, there are three sides to every story: your husband’s side, the homeowner’s side, and the truth

@NoveltyFunsies, God, he’s hideous, isn’t he? 😍

In all seriousness, OP, you appear to have a lot of males in your household: a husband, and two (three?) sons. Now would probably be a good time to sit down and chat about how their behaviour might appear to others: so in this example, what seems fun to them may actually look threatening to other people. Especially people who feel vulnerable.

I’m not having a go, but it’s something that a lot of males don’t seem to consider, and something which I believe more parents of boys need to start educating them about.

For example, my DH is a massive 6’7” bloke. When we first started to live together, he came home quite shaken up one night, and said that he’d accidentally frightened a woman whilst out for a run on a dark evening. From her perspective, he’d been a massive figure running towards her on a dark path, and she had cowered right down in the hedges, poor thing. But this incident did open his eyes quite a lot to looking at things from a more vulnerable person’s perspective, and helped him to modify his behaviour for next time.

In your example, an adult male hiding in shrubbery on a dark night and making signalling sounds is very easy to mistake for something threatening, isn’t it? Regardless of whose property is whose (which really isn’t the issue here, anyway). I would sit your husband and sons down and explain that they need to consider their own behaviour, and modify it to appear less threatening, unless they WANT to be mistaken for a threat again.

OP seems to have vanished - maybe she's round the house posting her abusive note through the door.

OP you have specifically identified your VIP key worker husband has to go out at night for his bumper funster crazee jaunts with the DC - you are thereby acknowledging that night is different to day. By that token, can you not accept that it is not a good idea to hide in the bushes at night?? The man with dog may have been broken into or had trouble recently. He may be overly anxious. He may be an complete and utter loon - but none of this excuses the fact that your husband was irresponsible to do this and you kicking off and threatening to put abusive letters through his door is hardly the example to set to your DC is it? I appreciate you probably haven't articulated to DC your "you're a cunt" plans but if your outbursts on here are anything to go by, I'm having difficulty imagining you haven't kicked off in some way in the home over something that was primarily your DH's fault.

Hahha OP people are having a bit of fun with you on here but these things happen, who knows what the man's situation is. I think every neighbourhood has a resident like that. Just let it go and avoid hiding near this guy's house in future :-)

I can't remember the last time a strange man hid in my bush

Get out there and bird whistle! 😉 who knows what could happen?!

I hope @WobblyWoman’s husband isn’t a VERY key worker because he sounds like an absolute clown who makes terrible decisions

@GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou be OMG how adorable!! Is that Philip or Darren from Australia? X