DH won't stop playing with himself

[vinoelle]

This is semi light hearted, but this habit has been getting on my nerves in these fractious lock down times.

DH ALWAYS has his hands down his trousers, 'fiddling' with his bits when we are sitting on the sofa. It's not sexual, he isn't masturbating, and isn't erect, but basically the whole time we are watching tv or talking he will just be fiddling with himself, I don't know how else to describe it.

He's done it for years and I've mentioned it a couple of times, he just says he finds it comforting and gets a bit annoyed if I mention it or says I'm nagging. Just recently when we are trapped indoors together it's REALLY started to annoy me and I don't know why. I just find it a bit impolite? I have no issue with him masturbating properly in private, or scratching himself if he has an itch, but he'll just do it for ages and doesn't even have the decency to hide it under a blanket! ARGH. So IABU and a prude?

Mine sometimes does it too. Last night he fell asleep in the chair with his hand down there. I shouted at him to go to bed and he jumped and nearly pulled it off.

My 9 year old does this
All
The
Time

Certainly another contribution to the case against handshakes.

(And the kind of minger who'd do this at home, is the same sort never to wash his hands after using the loo).

Well OP has gone awol...

Men are so gross!!

DH has never done it in front of me in 27 years so not all blokes do it.

My DS 15 does it all the time, however he has severe learning difficulties and doesn't understand it's not the done thing.

A grown man with no SEN should be able to keep his hands out of his pants.

@soannya

Some Men are so gross!!

There. Corrected that for you.

His hands might be cold so he might be trying to warm them up

His hands might be cold so he might be trying to warm them up

You've come up with a cracking idea there....now if only someone who invent some sort of garment or accessory one could use for warming one's hands...could be a money spinner.

@Marie

His hands might be cold so he might be trying to warm them up

Only if he's an utter minger, who was dragged up by wolves.

No adult with a decent upbringing would ever do this. Good behaviours are encouraged and become habits, bad ones rejected so they don't, over years of example-setting, guidance and reinforcement by parents and the wider community.

The point that a small number of posters seem so keen to illustrate, is that people with poor upbringings are not aware of their own social deprivation. Which suggests they have never moved far from their roots and observed other people's behaviour in the wider world.

Understandable perhaps but an odd thing to declare ones pride in, on a parenting site.

So another excuse is cold hands.

Give him Sophie's Choice.
He can handle his junk or he can handle the TV remote.
But not both (without full CV handwashing between)

Oh gross! Urgh, I don't know anyone who does this - the last time I remember seeing it was at school, a couple of the teenage boys were utter mingers and used to do it in class.

DH, DF, DS, DB, FIL, BIL - none of them do this! Nor have any of my boyfriends growing up. It's grim!

Tell him to go to his room and do it in private every time you see him. I don't know any grown men who do this

Give him Sophie's Choice.
He can handle his junk or he can handle the TV remote.
But not both (without full CV handwashing between)

In fairness, Sophie's Choice would involve him being compelled to choose either his penis or the remote, but also that whichever one he doesn't choose is immediately destroyed.

Could be effective, mind you.

My partner does this.
Several male exes and friends have done this.
Not every single guy I've known but many.
Maybe I just pick guys from one kind.

Herman you just pick wankers... Literally!!

🤢🤮

@HermanTheWorm

Maybe I just pick guys from the wrong kind.

Again. Fixed it.

Raise your (and their) standards

is he harming anyone by doing this?

Guessing the answer is no, sounds like your just out to cause a pointless argument as everyones on edge being locked in for weeks at a time.

Something you'd want to sit in the same room with every day is it?

That one poster who you just know is typing with penisy fingers....why so defensive on behalf of OP's scruffy DH?

It's depression to see how low some people's expectations of male behaviour is.

I mean depressing.