DH won't stop playing with himself

[vinoelle]

This is semi light hearted, but this habit has been getting on my nerves in these fractious lock down times.

DH ALWAYS has his hands down his trousers, 'fiddling' with his bits when we are sitting on the sofa. It's not sexual, he isn't masturbating, and isn't erect, but basically the whole time we are watching tv or talking he will just be fiddling with himself, I don't know how else to describe it.

He's done it for years and I've mentioned it a couple of times, he just says he finds it comforting and gets a bit annoyed if I mention it or says I'm nagging. Just recently when we are trapped indoors together it's REALLY started to annoy me and I don't know why. I just find it a bit impolite? I have no issue with him masturbating properly in private, or scratching himself if he has an itch, but he'll just do it for ages and doesn't even have the decency to hide it under a blanket! ARGH. So IABU and a prude?

havnt read all through but it sounds like a sensory issue. .. OCD type thing.
maybe!?

That is disgusting. Something like that deserves to be nagged about, honestly.

(Feeling grateful that my husband's annoying habits don't include this one!)

@Howfar12 - how many more times are you going to make essentially the same comment on this thread?

Yes, we get it - you like to fondle your junk. Do you want an award?

Ewww. No man I've ever been involved with has done this. Yuck.

Exactly like picking your nose ostentatiously in public. Or belching deliberately loudly at the dinner table. Or farting loudly, in front of other people, for your own amusement.

Basic horrible lack of manners.

Fucking water gun n zoflora/bleach/dettol all of them. It’s absolutely rank!

Think of everything he touches in a day, if he’s not immediately washed his hands prior he’s probably had one degree of separation from rubbing his cock on it.

Christ I hope you don’t have kids.. besides the giant toddler of a husband. Seriously my one year old gets told not to play with his, never seen my dp do it.

Yeah, fair enough, if he wants to do this in private but if you've told him not to do it in front of you and he hasn't made a conceited effort to do something about it, it's disrespectful.
I think I'd have to match him in terms of gross-ness, pick your nose while talking to him, study your finger after, rub it on your trousers then ask if he wants anything to eat.. if he complains, just say you didn't even realise you were doing it

I work with young offenders. They ALWAYS have their hands down their tracksuit bottoms. Gross.

If you have children and he manages not to do it in their company, he can control it. Otherwise he would do it all the time including at work and when you have visitors. So it's a conscious act. Sometimes small irritations become the elephant in a room until they reach breaking point. You have to ask yourself, can you learn to ignore it. It doesn't seem like he cares to change.

What... the... hell.

I'm not sure what shocks me more- that he does this or that other people defend it.

A habit is difficult to stop - it’s like smoking, drinking, talking too much etc

Funny examples there. This is more analogous to picking your nose in front of other people or sucking your thumb as an adult in front of other people.

One of those (illegal?) dog-shocker collars?

First bleep is an audible warning to stop

Second bleep is an actual shock

You have the controller!

@Leaannb YOUR home?!?!?!?

It's gross my husband doesn't do itchy my son 11 keeps doing it , I shout at him , it's inappropriate ! X keep a spray bottle with you and spray him in the face like a dog I've considered this for my son but worried about the physiological issues that may come if I do .😂😂😂

@HavenDilemma...Yes my home

@Majorcollywobble

the wrinkled old retainer

I am just dying

Ewww

2 DS and none of the men I've ever been with or known did/do this.

Agree with a simpleton comment above.

Ask him to chop some chili peppers for you. He'll only do it once after that.

@Leaannb When you're married (As in the example you responded to) then the home becomes an asset of you both
You cannot chuck a man out of the marital home for scratching his balls!

Yes I can. Its called a pre-nup stating that whatever we brought into the marriage remains our individual property.

@Leaannb I don't know where you live but prenups don't hold much sway where i live.

Unfortunately you've given him the green light on his Joystick for so long you probably would divorce if you tried to stop him now.

He CANNOT do this at work, he'd be sacked in seconds. I'm with the person who suggests snapping pics .. coz he won't want those attached to the divorce papers!

Can people stop dismissing nasty behaviour as a 'man thing'. So the majority of murders/rapes are committed by men, is that just a man thing too?!

Do you have kids?

My dad used to do it and it made me feel really creeped out and uncomfortable.

I’ve never known anyone over the age of about five do this . I’m not a prude but that is nasty.

A quick rearrange, sure. Actual fondling? Gross.

He need to put an elastic band round it. Snap it when he gets his hands down there . Probably not practical.

Seriously though OP I would be grossed out severely. I couldn’t be with a man who did this.

Grim, it'd definitely not a bloke thing. I'v been with DH since a teen and never seen him do it.

Does he drag his knuckles on the ground when he walks and talk in grunts?

My ex wasn't even fondling his balls he used to sort of stretch his penis. It was disgusting and like I said even worse because he didn't care if the kids were in the room.