I don't think my request was unreasonable (bbq related)

[OhNoNoNoNotThatOne]

So gorgeous weather where I live today.

I did all my washing this morning and put it out preempting mid afternoon bbqs planning to bring it in after lunch, fairly windy here, perfect drying weather.

Around 1pm I started to smell smoke, so I popped outside and bought all my washing in (now needs washing again as it stinks of smoke as do my livingroom curtains) I guess my mid afternoon preempt may have been a bit late.

I really have no issues whatsoever with bbqs, they're one of my favourite things about the summer, but considering there is wind and neighbours will clearly have washing out, was I really unreasonable for posting on the local Facebook page asking people please being a bit more considerate and checking if any of their neighbours have washing out before lighting their bbqs?

I got totally piled on saying that what people do in their gardens is their choice (I don't deny that) people aren't allowed to see family why can't they have a bbq and have fun (I only asked them to be considerate and check their surroundings/give fair warning first) I was also told that someone is a keyworker it's their first Sunday off and they can spend it how they want (again I'm not telling them not to have a bbq, just asking them to be considerate) someone else said its a bbq, they'd understand if it was a bonfire (that's fine, but my washing and curtains stink of smoke) others just took the general piss and said they don't care about anyone else...

Again all I asked was that people be considerate of other people.

So wise people of mumsnet, I put it to you, was I unreasonable to ask people to be considerate or should I have just grumbled about it to dh and not said anything?

So you anticipated bbqs but got annoyed when they happened?

You were totally unreasonable.

Surely if the BBQ was close enough to make your washing smell so strongly of smoke, there could have been a conversation about this over the fence?

The neighbour could have let you know.
You could have discussed it over the fence rather than online.

I think you are being unreasonable. In your situation I would have just left the washing out until it smelled okay again.

Yabu because it did not need washing again. It was clean.
Why would like people to do? Have a bbq curfew?
As if we don’t have enough rules already.

Well wouldn't you be annoyed if you'd done all your washing to find you have to do it all again because it stinks of smoke?

I'm not a big fan of bbqs either for myself or others having them. Its pretty antisocial. Just cook the food indoors and eat it outside

If you took it in as soon as you smelled smoke, why does it need washing again? And why do your curtains need washing?

Posting on FB is hugely passive aggressive. That’s never a good quality.

The whole point of hanging washing out to dry is that you can leave it out until it smells fresh again. If you don’t want to do that buy a dryer

You were unreasonable. You anticipated bbqs, but did not follow through, by paying close enough attention to notice smells in time to react and bring in your washing.

If you live in an area with lots of other neighbouring gardens, you have to be tolerant.

I’d have probably brought the washing indoors and stuck it out again later.

Is there really Facebook pages for local areas where people complain about their neighbours?

Yea, you were being unreasonable. It's not inconsiderate to have a BBQ at any time. Why should any of your neighbours care about your washing?

If you can't stand your neighbours going about normal business in your vicinity then move somewhere where you don't have neighbours.

Sunny Sunday afternoon is perfect time for a BBQ, you are should have taken your washing in before lunch if it bothered you that much.

I did all my washing this morning and put it out preempting mid afternoon bbqs planning to bring it in after lunch, fairly windy here, perfect drying weather.

Around 1pm I started to smell smoke, so I popped outside and bought all my washing in (now needs washing again as it stinks of smoke as do my livingroom curtains) I guess my mid afternoon preempt may have been a bit late.

YABU, you thought there would be bbqs but still put stuff out. 1 pm is afternoon.

A sunny Sunday? You should have anticipated barbecues. Some towns discourage washing on a Sunday you know (Harpenden, I'm looking at you )

People have barbecues for lunch... so yes unreasonable for you to have preempted this and then gotten annoyed enough to write a post about it. You can dry your laundry inside as an alternative.

But what does showing consideration mean? It sounds like you think they shouldn't have lit the BBQ until you got your washing in? I'm not sure I understand what you were asking for to be honest. People aren't going to even think about what's going on in a neighbour's garden when they are looking forward to one of the only things we can still enjoy. It sounds like you have a lot invested in this washing and you are taking it all very, very seriously. I'm not surprised people ridiculed you to be honest. In effect, you were saying, change your planned eating time, walk the streets first before you light your BBQ and plan everything else about your nice afternoon in the garden around my bloody washing. It is a bit ridiculous isn't it?

YABU. People have washing out all the time round here, ridiculous to not have a BBQ because someone has washing out. A lot of people don't care if the washing smells of BBQ. Why on Earth do you need to wash it again, it's clean. Just peg it out again till the smell goes.

I always find trying to have a bbq really frustrating as my neighbours permanently have washing out. Even over night too, they literally take it in when they have new stuff to put out. Last year we gave up, ended up cooking on the stove instead but we have been using it this year. It's gas so not as bad as a coal one but still it cuts both ways. I've literally not seen their line without washing on at all, they even seem to leave it up in the rain. So strange.

When the weather perks up, people start to have barbecues. You say that you would like to be considered as you’ve got washing out, maybe you you could tell your neighbours that you’ve put washing out and to not have a barbecue ( as if.)
As the most of us live cheek by jowl I think that barbecues and washing on the line are just occupational hazards.
As to needing to wash your curtains???
Do you always wash your curtains if people have barbecues? How do you usually cope in the summer months?

Agree with PP that it would be nuts to wait until someone's laundry has dried and for them to actually take it in before you have a barbecue in your own garden. What if your neighbour on the other side does HThe it laundry a couple of hours later, are you meant to wait until they're done too?!

@OhNoNoNoNotThatOne Do you wash your curtains after your family has had a BBQ? How do you ensure that your BBQs don't make your neighbours' curtains smell?

Ignores fact that I have never noticed my curtains smelling in my life

To all those saying she should have left it out to smell fresh again, this doesnt work. My neighbour had a chimnea going and I thought I'd leave it out to blow off. It bloody stank.

OP I think it would be silly to expect someone to knock on all houses to warn of a pending bbq however they should be mindful. I always check if neighbours have washing out before cooking. Although tbh I'm not a fan of bbqs so dont have them often

Some people are only happy if everyone stays in their house.
Nobody should ever enjoy their garden let alone let the kids play in it or the dog, god forbid have a bbq.
Apparently the only things allowed out in your garden is your washing