I don't think my request was unreasonable (bbq related)

[OhNoNoNoNotThatOne]

So gorgeous weather where I live today.

I did all my washing this morning and put it out preempting mid afternoon bbqs planning to bring it in after lunch, fairly windy here, perfect drying weather.

Around 1pm I started to smell smoke, so I popped outside and bought all my washing in (now needs washing again as it stinks of smoke as do my livingroom curtains) I guess my mid afternoon preempt may have been a bit late.

I really have no issues whatsoever with bbqs, they're one of my favourite things about the summer, but considering there is wind and neighbours will clearly have washing out, was I really unreasonable for posting on the local Facebook page asking people please being a bit more considerate and checking if any of their neighbours have washing out before lighting their bbqs?

I got totally piled on saying that what people do in their gardens is their choice (I don't deny that) people aren't allowed to see family why can't they have a bbq and have fun (I only asked them to be considerate and check their surroundings/give fair warning first) I was also told that someone is a keyworker it's their first Sunday off and they can spend it how they want (again I'm not telling them not to have a bbq, just asking them to be considerate) someone else said its a bbq, they'd understand if it was a bonfire (that's fine, but my washing and curtains stink of smoke) others just took the general piss and said they don't care about anyone else...

Again all I asked was that people be considerate of other people.

So wise people of mumsnet, I put it to you, was I unreasonable to ask people to be considerate or should I have just grumbled about it to dh and not said anything?

Get a grip mate.

Maybe you should warn people you have washing out and passive aggressive tendencies. BBQs are to be expected.

Bloody hell, life's hard enough right now. The nice weather is about the only thing making life bearable. I rarely have barbecues but I don't blame anyone for trying to make the day more fun

It's mildly annoying to miss the start of someone else's BBQ on a nice afternoon.

When the options forward were:

1. Say nothing and accept it's one of life's little irritations
2. Knock on the neighbour's door and ask for a heads up for future ones so you can get your washing in
3. Passive aggressively post about BBQs on the local Facebook page

I have no idea why you'd choose option 3 unless you were seeking some sort of pile on of condemnation towards your neighbour, a bit like posting about it now on AIBU.

You posted on Facebook about it!? Oh Christ, I'm embarrassed for you!!!!!!!

Perhaps you should be more considerate of those people having BBQs and not put your washing outside to dry?

You knew they were likely to be barbecues today but put a wash on anyway to coincide with lunchtime knowing the smell would bother you and still hung it outside anyway. Then you had to post all about it on the local Facebook group. I know we’re spending all more time than we’d like at home right now but that’s so much unnecessary drama over laundry. Next time just dry it indoors, let it air out until after the smoky sausage smell has gone, or do the washing midweek when it’s less likely people will be barbecuing. And don’t bitch about the neighbours on Facebook. Of course they’re entitled to barbecue whenever they like without having to send a survey round to see if anyone nearby is putting a wash on.

YABU

others just took the general piss and said they don't care about anyone else

This is the attitude around here. People do not care about who they affect unless it's them being affected.

If your curtains smell of smoke then that would happen at any time of day.

I’m just trying to imagine someone posting this on their village Facebook 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

YABVU. I’m embarrassed on your behalf that you posted in FaceBook. You’ve made a right fool of yourself.

The replies to your Facebook post said it all really. Take them on board; they’re right.

A hot and sunny Sunday when everyone is at home? Sorry but think YABU! Bonfire fair enough- but a bbq?!!! I certainly didn't ask all my neighbours' permission before lighting one today nor would l expect them to ask mine.

I grew up in house with an old Rayburn oven as the only heating.in the winter all my clothes smelt of smoke!
Smoke is ok, it’s not hip fat or strong food smell.
Just hang them out in the sun tomorrow. It won’t be noticeable ( and it’s not a bad smell anyway)

I’m not really a BBQ person, but I understand that they are a means of making food and people eat food for lunch. 1pm therefore seems like a not unreasonable time.
I’m just trying to imagine someone posting this on their village Facebook
Our village Facebook is full of shit like this. I’ve had to mute it during lockdown.

You posted on your local Facebook page and no one agreed and many took the mick about it, so you thought you’d post here instead in the hope mumsnet would agree with you, lol. You know what would be far more effective than posting on local pages and random forums... knocking on the neighbours door and just saying “if you notice washing on the line and you are having a bbq just give us a shout so we can get the washing in”. Would save you so much time and energy not to mention curtain washing .

I think it's safe to say you are now "that" neighbour.

I’m also cringing a bit op that you posted it on your local Facebook page op. 😯

you did washing on a sunday! my dm would say you were going to hell, a bbq should be the least of your worries!

You wash your curtains every time anyone has a BBQ? Have you considered getting a hobby?

Yes, you were 100% unreasonable to post that in Facebook.

When I was growing up noone would have dreamt of hanging out washing on a Sunday heathen

@thebabessavedme maybe we were neighbours

My latest failing as a housekeeper. Not sniffing my curtains!

Sunday is a day of rest . A family day . Who does washing on a Sunday ....

@watertorture were you the little girl next door who my mad old bint wouldnt let me play with because 'its sunday', she isnt even religous, just plain doolally!