I don't think my request was unreasonable (bbq related)

[OhNoNoNoNotThatOne]

So gorgeous weather where I live today.

I did all my washing this morning and put it out preempting mid afternoon bbqs planning to bring it in after lunch, fairly windy here, perfect drying weather.

Around 1pm I started to smell smoke, so I popped outside and bought all my washing in (now needs washing again as it stinks of smoke as do my livingroom curtains) I guess my mid afternoon preempt may have been a bit late.

I really have no issues whatsoever with bbqs, they're one of my favourite things about the summer, but considering there is wind and neighbours will clearly have washing out, was I really unreasonable for posting on the local Facebook page asking people please being a bit more considerate and checking if any of their neighbours have washing out before lighting their bbqs?

I got totally piled on saying that what people do in their gardens is their choice (I don't deny that) people aren't allowed to see family why can't they have a bbq and have fun (I only asked them to be considerate and check their surroundings/give fair warning first) I was also told that someone is a keyworker it's their first Sunday off and they can spend it how they want (again I'm not telling them not to have a bbq, just asking them to be considerate) someone else said its a bbq, they'd understand if it was a bonfire (that's fine, but my washing and curtains stink of smoke) others just took the general piss and said they don't care about anyone else...

Again all I asked was that people be considerate of other people.

So wise people of mumsnet, I put it to you, was I unreasonable to ask people to be considerate or should I have just grumbled about it to dh and not said anything?

how would they know your washing is out unless they have a visual of your garden.

your over reacting, its a BBQ on a rare sunny spring..

Thankfully we're friendly with our neighbours so we text each other when we're about to start a BBQ, to give them chance to bring in washing/ close windows if they want to

We very rarely have barbecues but I think lighting a barbecue at 1pm on a Sunday on a lovely sunny day is pretty normal behaviour.

I find it very difficult to believe that it's necessary to re-wash clothes and wash curtains because of a barbecue.

Bonfire, perhaps. barbecue, no.

I feel for you OP. I have long given up drying outside due not only to summer BBQs, but mostly to the gross stench from neighbours' wood burning stoves most of the year and bonfires the rest of the year. These also mean we can rarely air our house and the health consequences of the PM 2.5 and other toxins don't bear thinking about...

Local facebook groups are hornet's nests for the village cliques of arseholes and bullies, IMO.

Neighbourliness and consideration for others has long gone from our society, as evidenced on this thread.

Neighbourliness and consideration for others has long gone from our society, as evidenced on this thread.

But everyone thinks what they want to do 'trumps' what other people want to do, it seems. Even you @Rumboogie. You don't want your neighbours to enjoy a BBQ. You've kind of made your own point a little.

Disclaimer - I hate BBQs anyway, I don't like the taste of the food, but I certainly don't begrudge my neighbours enjoying one with their family. Where I live someone has a BBQ probably about once a week in the summer, I can live with that. Everyone's experiences will be different but it would be nice if everyone was considerate to others, not just those who don't get their own way.

mostly to the gross stench from neighbours' wood burning stoves

So now you want to police what people do inside their houses as well as in their gardens?

No, I don't have one. And I've never noticed a smell from one, though I like the smell of wood burning or coal fires.

I do love a good BBQ thread.

People can have barbecues in their own gardens. I may moan, but there's nothing I can do about it.

People are never going to be that considerate OP. Save your washing for non BBQ days or cope with it smelling.

More people at home, nicer weather, I's be anticipating BBQs at lunch time now.