I don't think my request was unreasonable (bbq related)

[OhNoNoNoNotThatOne]

So gorgeous weather where I live today.

I did all my washing this morning and put it out preempting mid afternoon bbqs planning to bring it in after lunch, fairly windy here, perfect drying weather.

Around 1pm I started to smell smoke, so I popped outside and bought all my washing in (now needs washing again as it stinks of smoke as do my livingroom curtains) I guess my mid afternoon preempt may have been a bit late.

I really have no issues whatsoever with bbqs, they're one of my favourite things about the summer, but considering there is wind and neighbours will clearly have washing out, was I really unreasonable for posting on the local Facebook page asking people please being a bit more considerate and checking if any of their neighbours have washing out before lighting their bbqs?

I got totally piled on saying that what people do in their gardens is their choice (I don't deny that) people aren't allowed to see family why can't they have a bbq and have fun (I only asked them to be considerate and check their surroundings/give fair warning first) I was also told that someone is a keyworker it's their first Sunday off and they can spend it how they want (again I'm not telling them not to have a bbq, just asking them to be considerate) someone else said its a bbq, they'd understand if it was a bonfire (that's fine, but my washing and curtains stink of smoke) others just took the general piss and said they don't care about anyone else...

Again all I asked was that people be considerate of other people.

So wise people of mumsnet, I put it to you, was I unreasonable to ask people to be considerate or should I have just grumbled about it to dh and not said anything?

So you wanted people to wait until you'd brought your washing in before having their dinner? Without knowing when you might be planning to bring it in?

Surely lots of people do washing on a Sunday, I did! I'm awful at bringing it in though so do multiple loads and whack them out as and when bring them in before the chill gets in them about 6pm. I'd hate to think some poor sod was waiting for stuff to come in. Luckily no neighbours here but I think YABU

My neighbours have bbq's through the summer....its never affected my washing and certainly not my curtains....what a bizarre thread.

was I really unreasonable for posting on the local Facebook page asking people please being a bit more considerate and checking if any of their neighbours have washing out before lighting their bbqs?

Eh? Yes, you were.

I'm going to post tomorrow asking people not to be inconsiderate and put their washing out when I fancy a BBQ. 😂

DH had breakfast bbq (sausage sandwich) today, you'd hate him stinking up your morning.

Yabu. Do you exspect your neighbours to knock on every door in the street to ask if anyone has any washing out before they have their bbqs Even before lockdown thats rediculas.

I hate barbeques. They certainly shouldn't be having them in the early afternoon.

So when is permitted barbecue time?

Bugger. It was good BBQing weather today. I wish I'd thought to have one.

Ridiculous

It was great weather for sitting in your garden breathing fresh unpolluted air

It was a great day to not be spied on

@Macncheeseballs
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you may own your garden, but you don't own the air above it. If you move to a place with neighbours close by, then you have to live with that - just as they have to live with you and your Sunday morning washing. My guess is, that you have never been invited to join them for a BBQ and you are just pissed off at them having fun on a Sunday and you having nothing better to do than your laundry. I'm glad you're not my neighbour.

OP you BBQ rant is up there with a poster on my local FB group, they complained that another cat had broken their cat flap and that the owner should get in contact ASAP so they can pay for a new cat flap.
The complainer even said that next time they saw the cat they were going to put a collar on it and a note. The onslaught was hilarious, it didn't go well for them either.
BBQ are fine at any time, you need to chill

And who wants their curtains smelling of beef

Obv yabu

Well....my next door neighbours always send me a text when they plan to have a BBQ to say what time they’ll be lighting it in case we want to close windows/bring washing in. It’s not something I ever asked them to do but it does feel like a lovely gesture . I don’t think many are so thoughtful though unfortunately.

If you'd left it on the line, then it would have aired overnight. No need to waste electricity, water, time and effort washing it again.

or were you scared of spider penises dragging across it?

@raspberryk - I was trying to be considerate and it wasn't until this year I realised they never take their bloody washing in. I guess your right, if they don't care to take it in over night or in the rain then it probably isn't an issue for them but they are an odd bunch and we a drive which causes enough friction so I try and keep the peace. But like I say, we have just got in with it this year.

you need a tumble dryer....

What does 'be considerate' actually mean? Because it sounds like you were asking them to cancel their BBQs if someone has washing out or to consider breaking self-isolation to ask a neighbour when they intend to take their washing in. Surely you can see that both of those prioritise the washing over the BBQs hence why it annoyed people.

the OP doesn't only need a tumble dryer, she also needs plenty more little grey brain cells.

Our garden, our barbecue and we will use it whenever we want to. Often sit around the fire late into the evening as well - quietly enjoying each other's company.

YABVVU and quite ridiculous for posting on Facebook

I think @Macncheeseballs has it. Op should have put on Facebook 'thanks to my neighbours shenanigans, my beef curtains need washing for the second time today'