Aibu..boyfriend stuff in lock down

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Am I being a dick? My bf is nor my daughters father. He has 2 kids he barely sees (one night a week usually but only 1 hour a week now with lock down) hes grumpy I'm spending all my time teaching my daughter. I also cook him big breakfast everyday and cook dinner every night. Am I being unreasonable to want some help? All.he does everyday is watch tv, doesnt help with cleaning or washing up. He doesnt ever brush his teeth and wears sane socks for a week despite having clean ones.

Go to your mums OP. And well done, you've done the right thing here by moving on from him - you know that but it doesn't make it easy. Look after you for a little while.

No hes not here or coming here. My daughter is with my mum because I'm crying and really struggling and it's not fair for her to see my like this. Sunshine.. I needed to hear outsiders viewpoint.my best friends live in australia and brazil so I'm a little alone and dont want to worry them when there is not much they can do. Cant go to my mums as I have a kitten. Shes pretty brilliant and knows I need affection! X

Block him - go to your Mums .

The best thing you can do for you and your Dd is to never speak to him again.

Strange time’s but at the end of tjis you need to find a way to develop your your self. Confidence. You already know he is as you wouldn’t tell your best friend.

You will have far less to do in the house without him.

Well done. You've been very brave. Go live your new life free of this awful man.

Ignore sunshine OP, I thought her post was needlessly snarky and accusatory. Maybe she’s having a bad day. You don’t have to justify your turn of phrase to her at all.

Not snarky or accusatory at all. It's as clear as day this man is not worth it.

Take the kitten with you

Some people need to back off the OP.

Do you realise TSSDNCOP there are real people behind these posts? There is no need to be so nasty.

OP, can you get the locks changed? If he has access to illegal substances, you want to be sure he can't bring some into your home. In fact, I think you should search the place thoroughly right now to make sure he hasn't already done so. I don't mean to be harsh, but do you realise you were actually considering letting a very dangerous person stay around your daughter? He could possibly have even more dangerous associates who might have come to your home. It is more important for your daughter to be safe than it is for you to have a boyfriend. Sorry to be harsh, but come on, there's nothing wrong with being single, especially if that twat is the alternative.

Go to your mum's - you need support while you're this low, or else you are more likely to let him come back. Look after yourself and your daughter.

* Do you realise TSSDNCOP there are real people behind these posts? There is no need to be so nasty.*

Yes. There’s a child. A child that the OP really doesn’t seem to consider.

This man has and continues to behave appallingly.

Not. A. Chance. I would subject my daughter to this kind of creature being in her home. Let alone living in it and seeing her mother pander to him.

@TheMotherofAllDilemmas

what a lovely and thoughtful post you wrote to the OP when she was clearly very down. I am glad it was you who answered her at that moment and not one of the “what were you thinking” brigade.

OP you sound like a good mum and your daughter sounds lovely. I’m really glad you have ended it. I hope you enjoy the next three weeks together without this smelly waste of space.

How are you doing OP? Well done for taking action. It can be so difficult when you're in the midst of it

Another one thinking about you today OP - how are you feeling?

How are you doing?

Hi all. Still not back with him.ive been very low. Like breaking point. My daughter is fab but I'm crap I'm lonely. Cant get locksmith out yet but keep keys in other side of my locks and I've asked my neighbours to keep eye out.

You are doing enough, one step at the time, the most difficult thing is to leave, you will be fine, you just need to disentangle yourself from this mess little by little.

And ignore all the judgemental twats, it comes with the territory of being a single mum. Do your best and stay strong, little by little you will find yourself in a better place.

Thank you xx

Well done OP in throwing him out and beginning the rest of a wonderful life for you & your dd.

Now that he's out, do the online freedom course to help you recognise red flags for future relationships. Don't date anybody now, it might be tempting because you're lonely. You need to build very strong boundaries before you let another man in your life.

I'm surprised that you didn't lose custody of your child because you were living with a drug dealer.

www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/online.php

www.womensaid.org.uk/

Yes I second the above. You may not see it clearly until you do. I did the freedom course myself and it gave me a wake up call. Men have unfortunately been in a position where taking advantage of women goes under the radar. In circumstances like yours, and in the past mine, they go way beyond that.

Doesn't ever brush his teeth... how vile. How many red flags are flying here. What is he usually like? Why are you with him?