Aibu..boyfriend stuff in lock down

[Yetanothernamechange1234]

Am I being a dick? My bf is nor my daughters father. He has 2 kids he barely sees (one night a week usually but only 1 hour a week now with lock down) hes grumpy I'm spending all my time teaching my daughter. I also cook him big breakfast everyday and cook dinner every night. Am I being unreasonable to want some help? All.he does everyday is watch tv, doesnt help with cleaning or washing up. He doesnt ever brush his teeth and wears sane socks for a week despite having clean ones.

Im going to be harsh. This worried me:

been together 2 years (and hes cheated on me 3 times with the same person) my daughter loves him.

Your daughter is being taught to give her time and love to someone who does not show you an ounce of respect. Why would you think that was a good lesson?

Is he prone to depression ?

I think it's more that he gives it to other people.

Actually, wash your hands, give everything in the house a deep clean and have a bath & a glass of wine to celebrate

Well this does not sound like ending a relationship.

Explained I need more help if hes going to be here

You want him to promise to change. He wont change. He can promise to change but this is who he is. A dreadful, disgusting example of a man and partner for your daughter.

And if he has moved in for lockdown, where exactly is he receiving this text?

Not one to say LTB generally but not looking after his own kids is a deal breaker for me. If he doesn't take to do with them why are you surprised he wont help you? LTB for sure, especially for your daughter.

One of those deeply frustrating and also unsettling threads
The OP will do nothing
This will continue
Those poor girls will be forced to live with this man for their childhood

Over and out

Tenner says he's back in situ by Monday night.

@TSSDNCOP

Tenner? I’d put my home on it

No hes not made any promises.hes turned it all around on me that I'm crap. I want my mum and I want my best friend. Been lazy and set my daughter up in a den with Netflix as I'm crying and dont want to upset her.

Yes he’s quite the prize isn’t he? No appreciation for your big breakfasts at all. I hope the last one you cooked is the last you ever will.

Fuck this shameless twat off. Dry your eyes, put some music on, pack up his stuff and be done with him.

You’re worried about her being upset at seeing you cry?

FFS OP. You should be worried about her growing up around this man.

@Yetanothernamechange1234 and he is still in your house....? Why??

You have done the right thing. Ignore any crap he says. It is unsurprising that he is incapable of seeing his many faults and instead turns it round on you. Classic response of a pathetic immature loser. Next I predict the pity card.
It’s a tough time to do it but you are both going to be so much better off without him. It will take time. Tell your best friend all about it and anyone else who can talk some sense into you. Remember it’s normal when you’ve made excuses for his behaviour for so long to find yourself still feeling sorry for him. DON’T. If you miss him, distract yourself. You can find yourself someone infinitely better. First though, you need to build self esteem and be entirely self sufficient for a while. Good time to do that, lots of time to think and focus on what you want for you and your daughter.

Oh- you haven’t got him out yet?
FFS
DO IT

Thank you all. I needed that. Hes out and I'm not answering his calls (27 missed calls so far) his washed and ironed clothes are in a bag. Need to get my spare keys back from him. Daughter is blithely unaware of what's happening. Shes a real joy, she makes everything better.

Keep the doors locked with keys in them. Block his number now and put the bag outside.

Assuming this is real - because it sounds so ridiculous that it's difficult to believe - you have done the right thing. You have been seriously letting your daughter down by allowing this vile creep to be anywhere near her.

And you don't love him - he's a smelly, cheating, using, drug dealer. You have some kind of dependence on him, and you need to do some hard work on yourself and your self esteem before you ever think about entering another relationship or letting another horrific man into your daughter's life.

Keep the doors locked with keys in them. Block his number now and put the bag outside.

this.

Don't engage. You've done the right thing and there is nothing left to say.

This can’t be real

Do you really need to ask?

Stop washing and ironing his shit just pack it all and put it out

How come after 2 years he suddenly told you he's a drug dealer mid thread?

But on the small off chance that this is real, if you let him anywhere near your daughter again you've failed her. Just think about that. He's a waste of space and that isn't "love"

I’m sorry I have no sympathy. He doesn’t bother to see his kids and you thought he was a good guy. Or was this convenient to you so all the attention was on you? Now it’s bitten you in the ass.
Get rid. Make better choices next time.

He should be cooking half the meals and doing half the housework.

Sorry didn't rtft. Well done op!

Why are you with him?