Aibu..boyfriend stuff in lock down

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Am I being a dick? My bf is nor my daughters father. He has 2 kids he barely sees (one night a week usually but only 1 hour a week now with lock down) hes grumpy I'm spending all my time teaching my daughter. I also cook him big breakfast everyday and cook dinner every night. Am I being unreasonable to want some help? All.he does everyday is watch tv, doesnt help with cleaning or washing up. He doesnt ever brush his teeth and wears sane socks for a week despite having clean ones.

Think you need to get rid personally, if i ever found out my DP cheated he would be out the door let alone twice!! All those ate serious red flags, kick him out, now, lockdown or no lock down. At least he has a car 🤔

No I dont snog him, cant imagine anything worse, I hate it when he does the kissy face and comes near me. Dd and I try to leave the room when he eats because he has disgusting eating manners. We eat dinner together every night but that's only meal we do. And he eats constantly. Shovels crisps in his mouth.. eats 3 big bags of crisps a day as well as the massive breakfast he asks for and a big dinner. Hes gained over a stone since lock down started, he says it's because he cant go to the gym but he doesnt really leave the sofa, hes complained I havent shaved my legs, but I dont have time to do it!

What on earth is there to think about?

He's cheated on you 3 times.
He deals coke.
He does fuck all while you cook and clean for him and homeschool your child in trying times.
He is gross in his personal hygiene.
He barely spends time with his own kids ... and I bet he moans about them.

Who cares if he's plays silly games with your DD when he can be bothered ... he's playing you!

Get rid. Be thankful you have the perfect opportunity to get rid of him and do so. Don't show your DD you have to settle for an arsehole ... and she will eventually clock he's an arsehole ... but you'll model it's ok for them to be so and you just have to put up with it if you stay with him.

You are putting yourself and your DD first if you get rid of him. This is not a good guy.

You don't need a big think.

You should find it very easy seeing in black and white what an utter loser you are dating
He doesn't brush his teeth. 🤮🤮🤮
He is a shit dad to his own child and jealous of yours.
he is lazy, doesn't look after you or himself. He is not your partner or equal.

Oh, even better ... he's gross in his personal hygiene, but complains you haven't shaved you legs? I bet you're legs are clean!

He would be out just on the personal hygiene alone, never mind the rest of it. Ugh.

He sounds like a catch...

Well if this thread is real you need to get rid of him today. He can go back to his parents despite lockdown.
He cheats.
He deals coke.
He hardly ever sees his own children.
He stinks.
He doesn't do his fair share of the work around the house.
Therefore,
he pisses off back to his Mum. Today.

Every update you post make him sound even more gross than ever.

They say that love is blind, but this really takes the biscuit.

I'm sad that you are so desperate to have a boyfriend that you are prepared to stoop as low as this to accept this Neanderthal.

Well if this thread is real you need to get rid of him today. totally agree sounds a bit odd to me.

I've done it. Via text which is prob the wimps way, but told him we are over. Explained I need more help if hes going to be here and I cant deal with the hygiene issues and especially the drug stuff. Thank you all.for making me realise it all isnt ok x

Well done OP, its hard, but you've done the right thing.

Head up, and move on.

Well done OP keep strong and follow through. Get his stuff together and put it outside don't let him in.

Treat yourself and your daughter tonight

Well done

If this is real, then you need to grow up for you and your dd sake.
Stop dating losers.
Learn to drive.

Did you text tell him it was over? Or did it tell him it’s over if he doesn’t step up?

Well done for dumping him. Now you need to do some thinking about why you allowed yourself to accept this loser as your boyfriend, and how you'll avoid picking another loser next time. Also, stop moving your boyfriends in with your children until you know them MUCH better.

What @Ellisandra says

Your daughter will get over it.
Unless you actually WANT her to get early training in “how to love an arsehole”? Is this what you want for her life too?

Don't let him back in

What! Why on earth would you dump him? He sounds WONDERFUL!

Sounds like you're with my ex husband.

Don't put up with this behaviour from anyone, it wore me down for years

I bet he’s back in your life making promises to help out in the next 24 hours

He sounds frankly quite grim. Not brushing his teeth and wearing the same socks all week is absolutely vile. Not sure why you’re with him.

Is he prone to depression ?

well done! Did he respond to text?

If they aren't walking out by themselves, parcel up any left over belongings of his. Shove parcel where it won't contaminate anything else, and let yukky know how long you're prepared to keep it before he comes to collect; if he lets you know the day you can put it outside.
Wash your hands afterwards.

Didn't see the update. Kick him out and keep him away from your kid.