To think how dare she! I haven’t done anything wrong have I?

[Deedee9]

So, a friend of mine took it upon herself to tell me off last night. Why? Because I ordered some birthday cards online for my family including my ds who is 16 in a few weeks and my mum who’s 60 a few days later. Now it’s rare I order anything online as usually I like to go into shops, but considering card shops are shut and Tesco and Asda in my area are running low on cards I thought I’d order some online.

She told me it’s people like me adding to the crisis ordering non essential stuff and I’m not thinking of the delivery people risking heir lives. To be honest at first it upset me as she’s supposed to be my friend but then I got really angry. When I thought about it I’ve come to realise just how bloody judgemental she is. It was my dd’s birthday the first week of lockdown and my friend messaged me whilst I was waiting in the queue at Asda. I had gone for some essential food items but also to get my dd some balloons and banners. I hadn’t gone solely for the balloons and banners etc yet my friend called me irresponsible. My Facebook news feed is full of people ordering bbq’s, swimming pools play equipment, clothes etc but I haven’t commented because one it’s not my place to tell people what to buy and two it’s none of my fooking business. AIBU?

Oh I forgot to add she works as a courier. So I completely get why she’s annoyed having to deliver lots of parcels everyday

Well everyone could stop ordering things then she'd be out of a job, would that make her happy?

It reminds me of when I was berated by a ‘friend’ for getting the same degree level as him despite him having worked harder than me. He seemed to want to think I was responsible for his misfortune. Maybe it helped him in a situation in which he felt powerless.

Your friend feels powerless to protect herself right now and needs someone to put some blame on.

Honestly there is no need to be jealous. My life is far from perfect. As a family we’ve been through a lot (won’t bore you with details) the last few years and have been close to breaking point. I’m not saying her life is perfect because it’s probably not but you can chose how to behave and treat people regardless.

I had an email from Funky Pigeon saying they are providing a full service, lots of people working from home and please still order to keep them in business! So definitely fine especially if you believe they are behaving responsibly to their staff and are reliant on people still buying.

I get that but maybe she could take it out on her DH instead of me. He’d probably take it less personally, I know my husband would just shrug it off.

Fucker her off you have done nothing wrong . I get the point but 4 of my friend are working in retail doing online order only shop empty and they can do the 2m apart.
I wish companies would do order now and give an option for defer delivery to after lockdown ends. I think it's important to keep businesses going
I'm key worker and berghagus offerd 50% off placed quite a big order and got email saying it will be a few months perfect and complete the way to go .

Tell her to fuck off. It's up to you what you buy.

We are buying what we want online, it's keeping people in work and at least contributing a tiny amount to a screwed economy. Whats non-essential to one person, my not be to us, we just don't tell anyone.

It's time people kept their noses out of everything that others are doing, but also it's time people stopped telling others what they are doing so that they don't give ammunition to them to have a go.

Tell her to bam bam off.

We are following the rules strongly but I’ve been ordering online as there is no rule or advice to say not too. Plus we need the economy to survive so people need to shop for things other than food.

I’d just cut her some slack as lots of people are stressed and anxious given the circumstances.

To be fair I didn’t think telling a friend that I’d ordered birthday cards for my own family would be a problem.

I bought something on eBay as the seller was fundraising for her post brain op recovery.
It was less than £10, but I thought if I had her Paypal details I could donate more in future.
People need money and businesses need money to pay their staff.
Your friend is being ridiculous.

If this is a friend I wonder what your enemies are like..

BadLad

Tell her to bam bam off.

😂😂😂😂

There has to be balance in all things.

I can’t help but think buying the odd thing online is fine if you need it or it cheers you up (or as a gift for someone for the same reason).

However sone of us need to balance that with being a little less selfish. Buying £20 worth of tat (as some do) a day to ‘cheer myself up’ type thing is too much. That’s selfish.

We buy too much plastic as it is!

Better to keep the purchase of things to whatever we need as opposed to what we want. . If someone wants to buy stuff online why not donate the money to charity online instead? You’ll still get the buzz and it’ll go to someone who needs it.

Ignore her.
I bought cards,gifts and ballons for two of my DCs birthdays recently , they were 21 and 13. You need to celebrate their birthdays.

If she is so offended by people ordering stuff online she is in the wrong job and should quit. She’s a fucking hypocrite. Most delivery drivers are paid per delivery and would rather have the work than not. She sounds bitter and nasty. Tell her to fuck off, only tell her in a card.

And if everyone stopped buying things online and people only ever bought from designated supermarkets once a week whilst doing their essential shop then there really will be no businesses left!

Send her a card

Please do this!

She's twat. Carry on ordering. We are. Our delivery people want people to!

I'm ordering things online. Clothes,plants and also my favourite mouthwash which I haven't seen in the shops for nearly two years. I have also ordered some liquid soap as that seems to have disappeared from the supermarket. The delivery people just put the parcels in the porch. They wave from a distance if they see me so we are a lot more than two metres apart. I don't like people who inflict their problems on other people so just ignore your friend OP.

She'd fucking hate me. You should see some of the crap I get delivered 🤦‍♀️ I'm bored and when I'm bored I online shop.

Completely over the top. I mostly do my shopping on line anyway so nothing has changed for me. The world still goes on but just differently. You are allowed to have a birthday at home.

Send her a link to this thread @Deedee9 👍🏻

So she's cross with someone doing something that actually keeps her in a job?!

She is being ridiculous.

It's actually important for the long term economic health of the country - and therefore people's jobs and wellbeing - to keep spending money in businesses which are able to trade without breaking the lockdown restrictions.

As PP said, online orders are helping to keep the economy going.

And it’s hard to make birthdays feel special at the moment, so I hope you manage it - the recipients will appreciate it I’m sure.