To find it rude that people just don’t acknowledge texts?

[Ladyks]

Basically that. Been trying to organize something (don’t want to say in case it’s outing) and have been messaging a lot of friends and some just flat out don’t respond? If you don’t want to participate, then fine, but why ignore the message full stop? It’s WhatsApp so I know these “friends” have read it. Some initially responded, and when I sent a reminder message (one reminder as they hadn’t participated yet, & the day before I needed it— & they knew about it for over a week from the original message), they just ignored it? I’m just frustrated & find it incredibly annoying, and no, it’s nothing that asked for money or anything complicated. Also seems to be my British friends more so than my American friends that just don’t ever respond. Is it cultural perhaps?? Just having a rant really, it’s hard to organize things. Thanks for making it this far.

Why don’t you just ring them if you want an answer?

I’m probably like your friends. Maybe I’ll glance at a text whilst at work, cooking etc, and think I’ll reply when I have more time. Then it slips out of my mind.

My phone is for my conveience. Definitely not yours. BTW I'm an American

It's a real annoyance of mine. So rude. My DSis won't answer her phone if she doesn't want to. Not if she's too busy (understandable), just that she doesn't feel like answering. To me that's akin to walking past a friend in the street saying hello to you. She's the same with texts. Doesn't bother to reply even when it's requiring an answer.

A lot of people will say on here that a person doesn't owe you a reply, just like a person shouldn't have to come to the door when you knock. I however think it's bad manners to ignore a person wanting or needing to speak to you.

Hi yes annoying. If I get it in work I reply later on. My friend says she forgets. Its annoying if you waiting on info though.

Like PP, I’ll glance at my phone, read something and think ah yes, I’ll reply later.

Later is about 3 days.

Yeah I'm sorry but I agree with Leaannb. They don't have to respond to your timetable. If that means they miss out on the event, so be it.

If they've ignored it they're not interested. Take that as your answer, from one who finds it really hard to think of a way to say just that without offending!

I also don't answer the phone or the door if I don't want to. I don't see why I should have to! If I'm expecting someone that's obviously different.

OP, if you're trying to organise something, just leave out the ones who don't want to take 20 seconds to reply to you. If they miss out then it's on them.

Yes it’s the needing a response messages that get ignored that frustrate me. I understand general chit chat can wait. It’s not even an “event” it was for someone else & it was their friends that couldn’t be arsed to respond (or initially respond yes then subsequently not bother to respond again) I get that they don’t have to, but it’s just rude.

& it would’ve taken less than 20 seconds for them to do if they’d wanted to.

I agree, Ladyks. Just a thumbs up would be polite.

Social anxiety

Interesting that people think IABU, maybe everyone is fine not getting responses from others?

Agree ladyks. We all busy. A quick yes or no. Im on reception I was told v bad manners calls not returned (construction). I agree.

Thank you @Mary46 & @TheReluctantCountess

Depends what it is you're asking. Maybe they're uncomfortable in saying no to you

If something is urgent, ring them. If its not then dont get upset about replies. Today's culture is all about wanting things right now. Choose your battles. You may thing its rude not to reply, you may think its rude to intrude on someones life ant time you please

I have actually gasped and quickly went to reply to some messages from yesterday when I saw your thread😂 Not joking. They came in when I was doing something and I just slid the notifications to the side.
Cheers!

You’re being unreasonable in making a jab by saying ‘oh seems to be British people don’t reply.’ It’s got nothing to do with nationality, some are good at replying others are not.
Also if it were a friend of a friend contacting me about something to do with someone else, or if I had already sent an earlier response, I wouldn’t feel I needed to reply to them. Maybe I’ve misunderstood. It’s hard to tell what type of messages you were sending.

Is there a reason why you haven't phoned them?

Friends of my husband. Well over a week in advance asking for a birthday message sent to me to surprise him with on the day as we’re all in lockdown and can’t have a party, simply asked for them to get it to me by the day before. They’re his “good” friends & I’ve met all of them.

I am one of those that replies straight away and likes a quick reply back

What like a video message? god no

It’s your right to ignore people and it’s my right to think you’re rude.