Are we too old for another child ?

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Got one DD 1 year old , absolute little beauty and I would love another baby
I'm 35 , DH is 55. DH very hands on with DD not your typical 55 year old fit and active and young at heart always laughing and playing with DD
Are we too old for another ? I don't want an only child although ideally would love another baby
Dh days he doent crave another child but in his words 'if you really want another of course I would '

Seeing as you’ve got a one yr old already, I don’t think it’s bad.
Youre quite young and your dc will have each other too. (Although no guarantees in life)

@TreacherousPissFlap Yes, the rapid aging, suddenly. Fielding the friction. The sadness of DH trying to look at relevant things online to discuss and failing.

It gets grim. Not to mention the constant worry about health.

DH is about as 'fit and healthy' as it gets. But he is still 67 and I am still 49.

I think you’re getting too old and your OH certainly is, but that didn’t stop you for the last one and not sure what a years difference makes?

I would do it. If it was your first I’d say no, but for the sake of your dd it makes a tough situation better.

It’s hard work having older parents. It’s doubly hard having older parents and being an only child.

They haven't conceived yet...

Add on another year, at best!

Go for it as long as you’re not coming back on here posting threads about how your DH isn’t helping as much as you thought in a few years or whatever. It sounds like he’s having children for your benefit.

You are 35 so go for it. It matters not that he fathered a child a year ago till now. Life is what you make of it - it matters not that he will have a toddler as he nears 60 if he can handle it.

You're not, he is.

Could you afford to pay for two DC when they are at uni and your DH is mid 70’s?

Go for it. My XH was that sort of age when we had our DC2. His age wasn't the reason we split up.

Only you both can decide as a couple.
I wouldn’t do it not because of your age but because of your husband’s age. He is just too old. Ageing is not a linear process, you will notice a much quicker rate of ageing after 60 or even before. All men think they are fitter and more youthful than their peers. Mostly they are not.

Your not.
Your dh might struggle physically if he's not in peak physical fitness? 🤷🏼‍♀️

im 35 in three days.... Hell young!!!!!

Unreasonable question.... Still young, have your baby my dear...

My ex seriously struggles to keep up with DS aged 10 - ex is 53 physically the kid is beyound him (and mentally too lol)

Being 'young at heart' doesn't really reverse the aging process though does it? Your husband is still 55.

He may be older but you won't be. Go for it. My Dsis is in a similar situation there is a 15 year age gap he is 51. I know she'd love a 2nd.

You’re not But your husband is sorry

If Bernie Ecclestone can do it....and has a daughter in her 60's.

Just out of interest DP is 45, would you say he is too old for another?

You obviously thought through all the pros& cons when you had your First not so long ago. My dp is 53& I’m 31 weeks pregnant . He still works 6 days a week digging up roads and is a lot fitter than I am 😂. He’s the one who rolls on the floor playing with the 3 year old & runs round playing footy. If you can afford to & he’s on board I say go for it !

I can relate to what @BillieEilish says. I was in a relationship with a guy 18 years older than me for a couple of years until recently. DC were never on the cards as neither of us wanted any more and he had the snip while we were together.

I adored him, he was my perfect man in almost every way, but all of a sudden (age 56) he just seemed to age. He developed various health problems and I went from not thinking of the age gap to being very aware of it. I did the maths and worked out that just as my DC were leaving home, he’d be a pensioner with nothing behind him and I’d be responsible for him, and possibly end up being his carer in his old age. I’d go seamlessly from looking after DC all my adult life to looking after him. I ended the relationship because the idea of this freaked me out.

Sorry OP, bit of a derail there as your question was about DC, and as you already have one I guess another one close in age isn’t really going to make a lot of difference.

If Bernie Ecclestone can do it.

Is Op's partner a billionaire? Bernie might very well not need to change a nappy, run in the park with his kid, teach his kid, anything really...

You, at 35/36/37 are absolutely NOT too old.

It is your DH that is. This will only become apparent in 10 years, when it really becomes a problem.

I fear for your marriage at this point. You will be on totally different pages. 54 for the fist versus 56/57 (minimum) for the second.

Please do consider sticking to the one perfect DD you have.

My dad was 56 when I was born and I didn’t like having an old dad whilst growing up at all. He passed away of “old age” before I’d even made it to 30. This makes me think YABU, but realistically it’s not up to us is it?

x post @MayDayHelp.

Yes, true. Exactly.