To ask if as an adult you still get an allowance of some sort from your parents/caregivers?

[Lalala89]

Hi all,

I was listening to the radio station the other day and they had asked the above question of anyone over the age of 25.

Absolutely not meant in a negative way, but I was so surprised by the calls that came in, everything from parent's paying phone bill's to power, mortgages to lump sums yearly/monthly.

Parents paying for cars/ insurances, the caller that stuck with me was a lady who recieved $1200 a week from her mother into her children's accounts (so it wasn't taxed) as her mother wanted her grandchildren to have the best life possible.

Just interested if anyone has any stories along these lines because lockdown has me curious 😁

No they do take us on holiday sometimes.

I agree @TalkinAboutManetManet I used to have a boyfriend (we were both early 20s) and his parents very much controlled his money. If he got a bonus from work he’d send it to them to put into savings for him and his dad would regularly send him long emails essentially telling him what he should be doing, which broadband provider to go with etc. etc
He said he was happy as his parents obviously knew much more than he did but I found it incredibly unattractive

Not an allowance but my dad will help me with anything i need, it is a battle to let me pay him back for things

We have recently moved from temporary housing to permenant housing and didn't have the essentials, my dad bought us all of our beds/mattresses/washer/fridge etc and offered them as gifts but I wouldn't feel right letting him buy them outright for us, we pay him back £100 a month

I really appreciate my dad, he's always helped us out

Definitely not, have always been independent since moving out at 18.
I never ask my parents for money or any other kind of financial help. Although I am the youngest, I am the only one of my siblings that isn't asking or just getting help from them and hasn't for years. Which is why I think they tend to get me quite pricey Christmas presents in comparison (I never ask for these either).

My parents pay the odd thing for me because they want to (I use the same mechanic as my dad and every time I have anything done to my car the bill is either paid or the amount it cost appears in my account). I think they do this to feel better about the amount they help my sister (DH & I are now financially stable while sister and partner earn very little and have 3dc).
I'm pretty sure if they could afford to give me £££ towards a deposit or something they would, they just don't have the money.

FIL would happily give DH an allowance but he's refused it, as has SIL2. I think SIL1 has refused the allowance but asks for financial help a lot.

For a long time I couldn't work out how some of our friends had better lifestyles than us when we all have very similar jobs. I've now found out they get thousands for birthdays / Christmas, have had significant help with house deposits, one has car finance, insurance and phone bill paid by parents, another books her family holiday and her parents pay for it. Another was given a mortgage free house when she turned 21 and her parents put £500 each per month into a savings account for her 2dc.

I think the gifts are fine, most parents would help if they could but having your parents pay some of your bills or give you an allowance feels weird to me.

I know a few people who get a staggering amount of financial support from their parents.

One acquaintance has a husband and four children. Her wealthy parents bought their house for them and pay all bills, as well as paying for their car, holidays and private school for the DC. Both her and her husband work for her parents' company so earn well from that too.

Another acquaintance with a husband and two children has had her house bought for her by her parents. Her parents pay for holidays and give her and her husband a monthly allowance. Her parents are also very generous with gifts for them all; most recently she got given a 1k Gucci changing bag, and her parents bought Burberry coats for her kids.

Nothing regular and guaranteed from in laws. They have bought beds and moses baskets and things over the years but they were moving/baby gifts. They gave us £5,000 about 8 years ago as sil needed a new car and couldn't afford it so they wanted us the same then £5,000 towards this house as we hadn't got as much from the sale of last house as we hoped.

I did work with someone years ago whose mum topped up his phone every week 'why shouldn't she? Its her I use it to phone!'

I also used to work with someone who had wealthy parents and I was told was paid a very healthy allowance every month - ie enough that she didn't 'have' to work (she now doesn't)

Each to their own, personally I wouldn't want to rely on that money in case it stoped or wr fell out of they felt you owed them.