To ask if as an adult you still get an allowance of some sort from your parents/caregivers?

[Lalala89]

Hi all,

I was listening to the radio station the other day and they had asked the above question of anyone over the age of 25.

Absolutely not meant in a negative way, but I was so surprised by the calls that came in, everything from parent's paying phone bill's to power, mortgages to lump sums yearly/monthly.

Parents paying for cars/ insurances, the caller that stuck with me was a lady who recieved $1200 a week from her mother into her children's accounts (so it wasn't taxed) as her mother wanted her grandchildren to have the best life possible.

Just interested if anyone has any stories along these lines because lockdown has me curious 😁

No. I think alot of grand parents pay for private school fees if the child goes anyways. (Mine dont)

25-30 is still relatively young in the States (where I assume you are) as that is when most college students graduate isn’t it

I'm almost 40 and although I don't get an allowance I've had a lot of help over the years, and my sister has received the same...money towards cars, holidays, in fact my dm put £100 each into our accounts to help with food costs over the lockdown. It's never taken for granted and always appreciated, my dm is very kind and generous and would never see us struggle. I will do the same for my dc if and when they need it

I know people who have some or all of the the following (all in late 30s)

• cars bought for them

-holidays paid for

• private health insurance paid for
• private education paid for

I also know loads that have had houses bought outright for them or huge deposits given to them

It'a one is the (many) reasons why I just don't pay attention to people's wealth (or lack of). All kinds of factors play a part.

I’m sure they can find a few to put on a radio programme but I can’t think it’s widespread as most don’t have the money. Yet another lifestyle piece to make people feel hard done by..

I was supported through uni, at least with respect to my fees and accommodation. I worked alongside to earn my spending money.

Not since then, although they did pay for my wedding. DH and I were fully prepared to pay our own, but my parents are very traditional in that regard and had had money saved for all their daughters' weddings from long before.

They contribute £10 a month in a JISA to each of their DGC, but otherwise we are all self supporting.

I don't get handouts and had no help with buying a house but we do have family with holiday homes we can use for a nominal amount, and when I left my abusive ex my parents did step in and help a lot

Never got a penny since I left home at 18 for uni. Never needed it though I wouldn't have got it anyway.

Like a pp mentioned, the great-grandparents used to put money into a kids savings account for their inheritance as it avoided inheritance tax. Not a problem for the rest of my family though.

When I was 17 (and studying for A Levels - planning on going to university) I was told that I had six months and then all financial support was being removed. I could remain in the family home but rent was to be paid. I had to give up school and get a job.

Fortunately I did rather well for myself and was able to buy a house with my now husband when I was 19. Half the mortgage payment was less than the rent I was paying my parents (I subsequently discovered that my Dad had no idea how much I’d been paying...).

Nothing but token birthday and Christmas gifts since...

DD is nearly 22 and currently studying for a masters... we pay her rent at the moment.

Yes, my mum has helped out, even when I don't really need it for my whole life. She helped me get out of debt, I paid that back though. She buys food when she comes over, clothes for the children, if I try to pay her back she's not interested. She's extremely generous. I don't actually need the money now, but I don't stop her buying a pair of shoes or a nice coat for her grandchildren. I know she'd always lend me money in a crisis as well, even large sums. I have had a house deposit, which I repaid on sale, but my current house has my own deposit.

To her, it's what families do if they can, and I intend to do the same with my children, not if they are taking the mickey, but if they are hard-working and sensible, then I'll always want to treat them or give them a hand in life.

We get £3k per annum from inlaws

Those who get it, how do you feel about receiving support, don't you feel obligated ?

We get a twice yearly “bonus” from the in-laws of a couple of thousand to save on inheritance tax later on down the line.

My grandparents gave me a one off gift of £1000 to help set me up when I left home for uni at 18. But I stopped getting an allowance from my mum when I got my first job at 16. She has on occasion lent me money as a student when I would mismanage my bills and be short for rent, but I always paid her back ASAP. Im 32 now and don't know anyone who gets money from their parents as a regular thing. My grandparents used to pay my mums national trust membership when we were kids, but she was a single mum on a very low wage.

Myself, brother, sister and cousin all get £5 a week pocket money from our grandparents. We have asked them to stop but they just enjoy giving it to us. Mine goes into savings.

No, DH and I have been supporting our parents for most of our adult lives. They had minimum-wage jobs and tiny state pensions.

I don’t get an allowance I think that is really fucking weird.

My mum pays for us both to go on a skiing holiday once a year, we split everything once we are there like food/drinks etc. However if she said she would stop doing that I would not be the least bit put out. I’d just have to start skiing in Bulgaria not Austria

Nope nothing since I was 16/17. If anything I now help support my dad who isn't great with money and on pensions.
I'm massively independent and would never of expected anything. My family wouldn't have afford it to anyway! I have friends that are still very much supported by family. Eg food shops or bills paid.

Mine pay for kids swimming lesson and sometimes have paid for joint holidays. I don't think it's ridiculous or spoilt for families to help each other as long as it's offered freely and with no expectation and no strings on either side.

No, but then i didn't even get pocket money

No nothing since I left university.

Wtf?? No! My pocket money help stopped when I was 8 and my parents got divorced.

My parents gift us annually the maximum tax free gift allowance. It's very generous of them but it's not something that we expect.

We get nothing from MIL, but would never expect to get anything. She isn't in the same position to gift away that sort of money (but even if she was we still wouldn't expect to get anything - it's still her money).

If I can afford to help my DC as adults I will. If I have DGC I'd like to put 20 euro a month into an account or pay for an activity they enjoy. Life is hard enough.