Aibu to think spending £13 a month on this is fine?

[QueenOfHell669]

Hi,
To explain the situation a bit,
My mother was/is quite abusive and I helped my younger sister (16 at the time) move out of home into a flat. I paid for a lot of things for her but also helped her into part time work and some study, she has flourished. 4 nearly 5yrs on I barely have any financial involvement with her, she stands on her own.

Never asks to borrow or have money from me and is very independent. The last tie so to speak is her phone. It’s now sim only as the 2yr contract lapsed and costs me just £13 a month. She had mentioned maybe getting her own contract in a few months to boost her credit file at which point of course I will cancel the contract but the phone itself is paid off now so she can keep that irrespective.

My partner thinks I am babying her and insulting her to continue to pay this £13, he has gone a little far with this in my eyes even suggesting I am being taken for a “mug” I’d appreciate some insights on this. He feels very strongly about this and I don’t get it hence wanting to canvass opinion.

My stance is that I can more than afford it, she’ll buy herself a new phone/contract when she’s ready and it’s only £13 a month added onto a phone bill I already pay (my own). I don’t even see the point in considering creating an awkward situation where my sister may feel bad or like she owes me something when I’m very happy to help her. Who’s being unreasonable?

As long as you can afford it and aren't in debt / struggling financially yourself its fine.

You are a fabulous big sister, your partner is being petty, if it is only £13 a month that you can easily afford why does it matter?

Ask him what he has earmarked your money for, that he thinks you should spend it on instead.

Oh tell him to fuck off. Sisters before misters!

My sister pays my nephews TV licence (she's his Aunt too,not his mum) he has a live in partner and earns more than my sister,but she wants to do it,it's her money,she doesn't have kids herself so why not.

It's absolutely fine and a nice thing to do. Assuming you work and earn money, it's none of your partner's business and I'd be telling him to keep his nose out.

It's 50p a day. It's one less thing currently for your sister to worry about. You are truly kind and loving to your sister. Your DP on the other hand......

Its nothing to do with him.

It's none of his business, my partner pays for some odd things for his mid 20s, full time working children, I don't comment because it's nothing to do with me.

Your partner sounds like a dick.

You're a brilliant big sister, if you don't need the £13 it's absolutely fine. I know a way you could easily cut out a couple of hundred pounds of the lb variety if you'd like some relationship advice

He's an arse

If you can afford it, of course it's absolutely fine! You sound like a lovely sister!

My dad still pays my phone bill, from when I was a teen. I offer to pay it all the time and everytine the contract finishes I try to insist on taking it over but he just likes doing it. My husband keeps up a magazine subscription he gave his mum years ago.

I wouldn't consider any of us mugs.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. If you can easily afford it then who cares? It seems.odd your DH has such strong feelings on this.

I don’t get what his problem is. You’re happy to pay, your sister wants her own contract soon anyway.

I'd be way more worried that your partner is a tosser

I pay for stuff for my kids, my sisters and my mum, they do the same for me, isn’t that the basic point of family, that you look after each other?

Given you must have been paying for so much more over the last few years why does he focus on the last £13.

So she's only 20 or 21? That's an age when many young adults are still financially dependant on their parents while studying. Young adults under 21 are also at a financial disadvantage because of the low minimum wage for 18 to 20 year olds. Well done on her, and you for helping her to become independent at what is a young age these days. YANBU to pay £13 a month to help her out a bit.

I think more than the actual £13 it’s a gesture that makes her feel like she has someone who is there for her.
You sound lovely and your sister is very lucky to have you. She doesn’t sound like she is taking you for a mug at all.

I’d be ditching the partner. I earn my salary, no one gets to tell me how I spend it.

As long as you can meet your half of the bills how you spend the rest is upto you.

It’s a lovely thing to do.

What does he think you should be spending your money on??

Red flags from a partner who is this concerned about what you spend a small amount of money on. Red flags galore.

I know a way you could easily cut out a couple of hundred pounds of the lb variety if you'd like some relationship advice
^ This

You've been a great sister. Your DH is an arse.

Your partner is a wanker. Tell him to fuck off. It's none of his business.