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to be fed up of seeing what a great time my SIL is having in lockdown?

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TwiggetyTwig · 11/04/2020 22:32

SIL (DP's sister) is a single parent with 3 DC and lives in a sort of hippy commune in the countryside. She has a job she can do from home and is able to set her own hours (self employed). Her DC are home educated. She's a bit chaotic and has been a source of endless worry to the PIL over the years for one reason or another.

Since lockdown, she's been posting daily updates about how fanfuckingtastic it all is. Every day they've been out doing shit like paddling in the stream, or going for bike rides in the woods, or cooking dinner on a fire with her DC and the other DC who live with them, while I'm stuck in a house with a hanky sized garden trying to work set hours including being in video meetings whilst entertaining 3 bored children who usually are off to school every weekday! They just have so much freedom! Even for the difficult stuff like shopping, the adults are sharing the workload and pooling resources.

They are having pizza nights and camping out in fields and making water slides in the garden and to them it's just a holiday. Every evening she is hanging out with the other commune members and playing games or drinking wine or singing round a fire. She's not lonely like I am Sad Daily she is posting updates about how lucky she feels to have this lifestyle and it's just starting to feel a bit...galling. I mean I don't expect them to live in miserable silence but I'm tempted to unfollow her on Facebook as it's just frustrating seeing how her slightly bizarre lifestyle choice has ended up being a real bonus in this situation! I probably sound like a jealous cow and overall I'm not, I wouldn't want to live her life (not sure I could handle it tbh) but it is making me think I've missed a trick right now!

OP posts:
Rabblemum · 15/04/2020 10:57

This is a pandemic you sister didn’t cause, none of us did. Yes, respect the fact people are dying but her kids didn’t cause this so why not make the best of things?

Please have some empathy, it sounds like her nearest and dearest have worried over this woman for years an now the rules have changed she’s on top, imagine how good this feels.

You need to look at your priorities and have a positive midlife crisis. Look at how you want your life to be different. From my experience of running a work club putting too much emphasis on work is a disaster on a personal level, companies drop people all the time. Use any spare time to “find yourself “ again and also get your partner to do more, now is the time for team work.

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