STBXH thinks I am unreasonable for the following odd reasons.

[TravellingSpoon]

So last night my STBXH sent me a very long email, brought about by me pissing him off by suggesting he could call DD if he doesnt want to come over and see her, as she is very upset about the lockdown and not going to school etc. So the email is deflection from that. He lists some of my 'unreasonable behaviour' during out nearly 20 years together. These include:

• regularly going out with a friend for dinner and not inviting our family. Apparently this is weird behaviour.
• starting DS on a dietician recommended vitamin programme without consulting him.
• using family money to but a magazine subscription for DD for her birthday when I should have used my own money because he hadn't agreed to it.
• not helping more when we moved house 13 years ago
• buying an ugly painting and hanging it in the hallway.
• taking DS1 ( his stepchild) to university open days without consulting him and filling his head with fanciful ideas.
• when I was studying for my NVQ 3 at work I didnt listen to his advice (despite the fact he n is nothing about Health and Social Care).

He does this often, goes on long rants about odd stuff to deflect, but this is the best it's ever been. Some of these things must have been eating at him for years.

But it certainly cheered me up a little. Anyone else have little gems of behaviour like this?

Oh what a terrible wife you were!

Who could have predicted the pleasure that painting would bring you when you bought it all that time ago?

This is the BEST thread

My father's ex-wife put "he complained that I wore too much perfume" in her divorce petition. I can't decide which of them is worse.

Should I divorce DH because he did barely anything the day we moved house? (I was a SAHM then and he couldn't get the day off work).

He sounds like he's having a unhelpful rant and I expect he was very hard to live with. There were some things in your list that I wouldn't do though as they all, in our house, into the joint decision - the vitamins, the painting, spending joint money. It's not that I wouldn't have done any of these things, but it's something we would have decided together. And TBH I'd probably be a little miffed with my OH if he did any of these things without discussing. It's unusual to bring up such small things so much later than the event and irrelevant to the discussion at hand, but I think maybe what he is suggesting is that he thought maybe you were making decisions without consultation. So perhaps he's in some way thinking that's what's happening now too?

This thread is cracking me up. Utterly bereft I missed owl watch back in the day too.

Yes I'd like to see the picture too.

@Windyatthebeach that's appalling.

I think I'd reply just to see if I got another list. The entertainment potential is huge.

Oh shutup @73Sunglasslover your relationships must be deeply codependent.
Noone needs permission from their husband to buy vitamins or a child painting fgs.

I so want to see the painting.

My ex announced he was going to sue me, for adultery.

1. We were never married.
2. We’d be split up for two years when I met said “adultery” partner.

When pointed out the above, he rolled out his gotcha. “Ah ha, but we were engaged, you’d forgotten that hadn’t you, I never called it off” complete with smug smirk.

The thick twat genuinely thought he could sue me for a fortune for getting a new boyfriend years after we’d split without his permission.

He said he was going to call the police about it. I’d have paid good money to listen in on that call.

I'd be tempted to send him a picture of you in front of the painting smiling with a thumbs up!

... While also holding a magazine from the subscription, your NVQ certificate and a bottle of vitamins!

@CrazyTimesAreOccurring I WOULD DO THAT!
Brilliant idea.

What an absolute bellend!

I too, would use the ugly painting as my Whatsapp photo too!

What a tit! I can see why he’s STBXH!!

I'd be getting Kids to FaceTime him in front of the painting

I bet you are having a little dance to yourself that you are no longer with this nut job.

@notapizzaeater

I must say, I'd be tempted to thank him for giving me such a good laugh.

What a little weirdo!

My ex told our kids that he can no longer afford to give them 5 pounds a week spend. Even though that same day he had bought an expensive, wanky light and sound system for his living room for 1000 pounds. His turdishness never fails to surprise me!

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily that actually made me laugh out loud! Very rare on here!!

Was this the Painting?

He has control issues. I would ignore.

I was thinking FaceTiming in front of the picture...but using it as your picture/avatar is brilliant

I'd use that picture to make every birthday/xmas card/father's day card for the rest of my life.

And rename the picture, "The reason for my divorce."

This thread is gold. I’m sure you’re regretting letting him go. 😂😂 what a catch...

I was going to say “I that picture is ugly, I only put it up so you didn’t get an inferiority complex”. But I see you ds did it. So this is just the nastinest dig he can find. I take it he’s not your ds’s father.

Oops “I know...”