Friend saying her (huge) bum is small

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AIBU to be getting irritated with this and be baffled? She is always saying this to me even though it's HUGE and mine is definitely smaller as she can see... and people always tell her it's big so surely she knows? But she will talk about how it's not big and she needs to start growing it etc (weight training) even though she literally gets comments on it on a regular basis. On one hand maybe she literally can't see how big it is, a lot of women are very critical of their bodies... but to actually say it's small and not big even though she's constantly getting comments on it?!
By the way this isn't a jealousy issue, it just baffles me why she is always saying this to me even though people always say it's big... also the fact mine is definitely smaller but she calls hers small and not big directly to me

If this is all you have to worry about you are a lucky lady! And plenty of time on your hands to be over thinking the size of someone's bum 🙄

@PhoneLock What do you think is the current standard for what's considered most attractive for womens bodies in the mainstream then? It has been this way for a while...

Can we have a new beauty standard of Venus of Willendorf, please?

I've got that one nailed.

aposter me too.

I agree, if she's fishing for compliments, OP, it gets wearing, doesn't it?

I'm still not sure whether she wants to have a big bottom or not though, if she does have a bigger bottom or if that's a good thing. But if she's getting on your nerves with it, either tell her or avoid her.

Tbh unless you are in primary school YABVU not to be able to deal with this situation.

What do you think is the current standard for what's considered most attractive for womens bodies in the mainstream then? It has been this way for a while...

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I'm genuinely confused about why I'm being called immature, shallow and all of these things,

The fact that you are 'confused' enough this question proves the point.

But I'm not the one who brings to the topic, the other person mentioned in my post is... how is it shallow to be irritated by it?

But I'm not the one who brings to the topic, the other person mentioned in my post is... how is it shallow to be irritated by it?

1. Because the size of your bum, your friend's bum or anyone else's bum is utterly irrelevant. Today and everyday, forever and all time. 2)... that's all I've got.

I think it's shallow to start a thread about it at a time when over 900 people are dying every day from COVID-19.

Of course your friend is shallow and YANBU to be irritated. What else is there to say?

But I'm not irritated by the size... I'm irritated by her saying these things on a regular basis

When I read your posts OP, I can hear a real whiny voice.

I'm irritated by her saying these things on a regular basis

Just tell her to shut up then.

I'm not at all sure which of you is the most irritating

Oh ffs so she's a fattyboombatty, why do you care? Is she FaceTiming you waving her massive Arse at you? Or posting it all over social media as struggling to see how you e had any recent footage of it being in lock down. And I think this may be where your issue lies...lockdown boredom so you are obsessing over your friends giant arse.

No she isn't fat... Also we work in the same place so I do still see her but I also talk to her over messages out of work where she also brings this topic up

LMFAO 😂 who knew a giant ass was all the rage right now. Hallelujah! I need not worry about my constant eating whilst in lockdown. Loving it. OP. Maybe your friend feels sorry for you and your small ass, and is trying to make you feel better by playing down the size of her collosal ass.

She isn't fat and I haven't and wouldn't imply she is...

Let's hope people are able to get back to work/school soon, eh?

OP, you're not unreasonable to be irritated - nothing worse than someone who conforms to a current standard of beauty whining that they dont. However, you need to work on not letting it grow beyond irritation, because at the end of the day, it really doesnt matter, its quite a childish thing for her to go on about, and once again IT DOESNT MATTER. If she was my friend, i'd just call her Kim to wind her up.

Try this one:
"If I wanted to listen to people wittering on about bums all day I'd get a job in a primary school. Shut up."

What the fucking actual fuck have I just read?!

How are we nearly at 300 posts discussion whether someone’s bum is big or not?

How are we nearly at 300 posts discussion whether someone’s bum is big or not?

Lol. Especially as we don't know either the OP or her friend.

I STILL NEED TO KNOW WTF ARSE CLAPPING IS.
The rest of it is utter bollocks, obv. Nobody cares. Next time she mentions her arse just say ‘omg stfu how shallow are you? No one cares about your butt’. And do give hers or yours another single thought.
But clapping butts?
Say what now?
Look when I was in my very early twenties (nearly 30 years ago)and working in an extremely male dominated environment (2 women. About four hundred men.) I was privy to a lot of blokes lusting after the J-Lo-esque booty of the other gal. It was pretty constant. And more than a little boring. There’s only so much listening to blokes going on about women’s body parts that is tolerable, and it’s fairly close to none. I ran marathons. She was also the one that joined in the belly-dancing display with the professionals that were brought in to entertain the menfolk. I declined. And inwardly questioned whether such a mysogynistic environment could actually be possible). She thrived on it. I can’t think of anything worse than deliberately trying to cultivate something to draw the male gaze (and commentary). Shallow as fuck.
But clapping, now.
Whut?