Friend saying her (huge) bum is small

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AIBU to be getting irritated with this and be baffled? She is always saying this to me even though it's HUGE and mine is definitely smaller as she can see... and people always tell her it's big so surely she knows? But she will talk about how it's not big and she needs to start growing it etc (weight training) even though she literally gets comments on it on a regular basis. On one hand maybe she literally can't see how big it is, a lot of women are very critical of their bodies... but to actually say it's small and not big even though she's constantly getting comments on it?!
By the way this isn't a jealousy issue, it just baffles me why she is always saying this to me even though people always say it's big... also the fact mine is definitely smaller but she calls hers small and not big directly to me

@PhoneLock No, it has been considered attractive in the mainstream for a while now, among white people too...

I'm genuinely confused about why I'm being called immature, shallow and all of these things, I'm not the one bringing the topic of bum size up with this friend, I'm also not trying to compete (I am the loser in that competition anyway!). Also regarding not spending time with men who comment on those things, you really can't help it! I know it isn't a new thing for men to say these things whether you're shopping, at work or walking down the street, it's wrong but it still happens even during the lockdown.

My arse isn't all that. Don't worry about it.

I'm genuinely confused about why I'm being called immature, shallow and all of these things

I think it’s the fact that you care enough about it to post about it.

I know it isn't a new thing for men to say these things whether you're shopping, at work or walking down the street, it's wrong but it still happens even during the lockdown

Doesn’t happen in my village

I guess the UK lock down is really starting to get to people.

Maybe order some books from Amazon? Or take up knitting?

The sheer fact that you are posting about this meaningless, teenage, petty, pointless, shallow nonsense is enough for everyone to see instantly that you are indeed 'immature, shallow and all of these things'.

Have you not noticed there are slightly bigger things going on in the world right now than worrying about this shit?

Perhaps take some time in lockdown to consider what's really important in life, and maybe try and grow up a little.

@PhoneLock No, it has been considered attractive in the mainstream for a while now, among white people too...

Actually, most of you just look like idiots. You're too caught up in your own world to realise many people make fun of the girls with the big bubble butts.

'Attractive' comes in all shapes and sizes. Don't artificially pump your bum up with hundreds of squats and protein powder.

Fuck, I’m old.

It's not that I care about her bum size, it's that she's always saying this to me even knowing mine is smaller so it seems kind of like unless your perception in the mirror is EXTREMELY warped and you can't hear everyone saying it's big, it seems like basic decency to not do that. I know I wouldn't... Also we are both still working full time in a place where probably 80%+ of the workers are male, the day I posted this she had been going on about it, to be honest it used to make me feel kind of bad about my own but it doesn't anymore but she doesn't KNOW if it does or doesn't. I thought it was common courtesy among women to not do this to be honest. I know most don't.

Tell her you are sick to death of discussing her arse. If she won't stop then every time she mentions it say "but what does it SMELL like? That's what really matters". Or make other annoying juvenile arse related comments. Or blow a raspberry. Anything that makes it as tiresome for her as it is for you.

@Aus84 surely it's wrong for someone to make fun of someone with a big bum... if it's surgically enhanced then yeah I believe it's not so wrong to talk about how strange the results can look but to actually make fun of a woman just for naturally having a big bubble butt? I havent heard that before...

I can't believe you said that friend your arse is like the side of a truck

Your arse is deffo huge I've seen one of your shits that could never have come from a tiny arse

Oh no, now thinking this is a reverse? Don't normally fall for them.

Oh just stop obsessing about bums. What the heck does it matter whether your friend' has a bigger or smaller bum than you. Just tell her she's being juvenile be bothered about it.

You say you're not bothered and yet you're the one who has posted a thread about it.

And also, what's the point of asking us? We don't know either of you. But it doesn't sound as if she's really a friend.

The same reason anyone else posts on AIBU about a friend? The aibu was aibu to be getting irritated by it. If she's fishing for compliments I have probably made it worse myself because I tell her how blessed she is, how great she looks etc because I know a lot of women are insecure about their looks but it's the fact she knows I have heard/witnessed her being complimented on it many times plus the fact she knows mine is smaller and doesn't know if it makes me feel insecure or not and hasn't seemed to have even thought of that but surely it's kind of an unwritten rule... like if someone with E cup breasts was telling an A cup woman how very flat chested she is and she needs a boob job...or a skinny woman telling a larger woman how she's so fat and NEEDS to lose weight...

@Aus84 surely it's wrong for someone to make fun of someone with a big bum... if it's surgically enhanced then yeah I believe it's not so wrong to talk about how strange the results can look but to actually make fun of a woman just for naturally having a big bubble butt? I havent heard that before...

Firstly- these bubble butts are not natural. A naturally 'big butt' like Scarlett Johanssan's is stunningly beautiful and in proportion to the rest of her. The trend at the moment is to increase the size through weight training and muscle gain.
Secondly, nearly every post of yours is saying that big bums are what is attractive to most people at the moment which is implying that everyone who does not have one, is not as desirable.

Pull - your - head - in.

Some women do naturally have bigger bums, my friend definitely hasn't had surgery and doesn't weight train so I'm not sure what you're actually saying. No I'm sayimg the current standard of what's CONSIDERED attractive in the mainstream is a bigger bum (plus small waist, big hips etc) not that I think women without big bums are unattractive

Your friend thinks she can grow a bum? She's too involved with the Kardishishits.

You are really giving this far too much headspace. If you think she's a shit friend - and it sounds like you do - I'd give her a wide berth ().

Personally I'd ditch her anyway. I've no truck with anyone who places so much value on the size of their arse.

Op i dunno why people are so rude, especially when they are so far removed from modern trends but thats the internet for you.

Its not you. Its your friend. Just tell her to stop going on or my personal favourite just say "ok" everytime she bangs on. So "oh my bum is so small i hate it" and you just say "ok". She will get bored of having no compliments back.

No I'm sayimg the current standard of what's CONSIDERED attractive in the mainstream is a bigger bum

Yes dear. Just because you keep repeating it, doesn't make it true.

Although if anyone is interested mine is truck-like in size. Unfortunately it appears to be hurtling South down the M1 at great speeds. It'll be chafing the backs of my knees at this rate.

So. Think on. Be careful what you wish for.

Luckily, I do not care. I do not see it often.

Thanks OP, I've now got the song Baby got Back stuck in my head. I like big butts and I cannot lie 🤣