Am I in the wrong here regarding slapping?

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Prepared to be told I am.
I was getting ready today and my partner doesn't have work today so is lying in bed. I have been enjoying just wearing comfy leggings while home (unsure if this is remotely relevant). As I am talking to him he takes it upon himself to smack me on the ass. I know some people like this, but I actually really hate it, I've never found it sexy or appealing and it stung. So I turned round and slapped him on the arm. He looked so taken aback. And I said why should you be able to just hit me with no reaction?
He is now in an absolute upset strop. I'm so sick of slapping on the ass being seen as absolutely acceptable hitting but anything else is despicable.

My dh loves it when I wear leggings (I only wear them in the house or at the gym) and always grabs my bum/ smacks it (not hard though !) doesn’t bother me but if you don’t like it and he still does it then yanbu .

If my DH smacked me on the arse, he'd be picking his teeth out the front garden. He knows that. He knows that without me ever having had to state it.

What would you have to do to him for you to think it would be reasonable for him to describe having hit you so hard that you were picking your teeth out of the front garden?

I imagine it's a damn sight more than a slap on the bum.

Figure of speech KnockDownNinja.

I am ferocious on my personal boundaries and the protection of them for very good reasons. Luckily DH knows that and respects that - and me.

Equally, I am ferociously respectful of his personal boundaries and equally respectful of his.

OP, you do NOT have to justify yourself.

His behaviour is appalling.

This isn't a conversation you should have with someone more than once.

I realise on MN the relationship bar is VERY low...I have again never heard of this type of behaviour.

Giving him the total benefit of the doubt...you should not have to have this conversation a second time.

He's a complete twat...move on..it stung...ffs....I would feel assaulted....but then I haven't lived my life being slapped by men...for their amusement or otherwise....this is not normal, respectful behaviour...despite MN's.....really low bar....🙄

OP didn't hit him because she was "irritated" or "annoyed", she has repeatedly told him to stop hitting her, he has repeatedly ignored her, he hit her again and she reciprocated in kind to stop him from doing it again.

@KnockDownNinja it's very odd how you're so insistent that OP has set some dreadful precedent that it's ok for her to hit him, but you're completely unconcerned about the precedent that was in place up til now - that he could randomly hit her at any time he wanted, despite her clear statements that she didn't want him to do it, and she could not do anything.

It's not hard to customise so the OPs thread are in a colour and then you don't have to come to with the fake response that it was hard to see their posts to try and justify your stupid responses.