Intuition.. people who made you go cold

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Right so I'll preface this with it's my night off I can't sleep so I thought I would listen to 'let's not meet' do not listen to this podcast when alone at night! and god the stories have creeped me the fuck out.

My own story is that I once met a coworker on his first day. Something about him just made my blood run cold, I didn't want to be around him and I absolutely didn't want to work late alone with him.

6 years later he was in the news for being a serial rapist.

Mega creep.

Share your 'no this person is bad I cannot be near them' stories

Also my dog is an amazing judge of character if he doesn't like something or someone there's a reason

I live in a very central location with mostly commercial properties and very few residential, and have gotten to know the local community of rough sleepers pretty well. When the virus hit they all vanished, I understand they have been provided shelter in some of the empty hotels around the city. A new group of 3 guys and a girl moved into the area about a week ago and one of them sets off my flight instinct to panic levels. He hasn't said anything out of the ordinary to me and there isn't anything about his appearance that gives a clue as to why but my intuition burns whenever I see him on the same street as me.

Mine was a friend of my dad's. He would always force us to sit on his lap and wanted to take us out places when we were young but my mum said no as she thought he was a creep too. We used to hide from him when he came over to the house.

A few years ago he went to jail for raping and supplying young girls drugs in exchange for sex back in the 80s and 90s. He was a social worker.

Mine is a man who is at the bus stop outside my house at 9pm every night.

It's a small village so always say hi since that's what people do here but he terrifies me, everytime I see him I get a surge of fear. I've tried to analyse what it is about him that does that but can't put my finger on it, he seems like a normal guy and I have never had a full conversation with him.

I've decided to trust my gut instinct and also warned my daughter, sister and niece to stay away from him.

It's insane how your mind and body just go 'nope' don't do it don't be near that person

I’ve told this one on here before - I worked in a garage when I was still at school. Did one after school and the weekend.

My one after school stint coincided with the day that someone from the nearest prison came in on a day release scheme and did bits and pieces in the workshop. They generally came for 12 weeks to get them into a work situation and often, if they were hard working and good, my boss managed to set them up interviews with other garages nearby.

Normally there was no issue, but when I was 17 there was one who gave me the creeps. I avoided him, and he avoided me as well. I went on holiday and when I got back I was summoned into a meeting with my boss, the big boss, two police officers, someone from the prison and someone from the scheme. They’d also called my Nana (my Nana and grandad brought me up) and asked her to come in.

I got barraged with questions about him and how much contact if had with him, had he asked questions about me or where I lived. After a while the female police officer kicked everyone else out and asked me the same questions privately.

It turns out that the scheme people were unaware that there was any female staff under 18 employed there. All the apprentices were male. It was just by chance they’d mentioned one of the other female staff being young looking (she was 19) and she mentioned me being 17, but looking 15 as a joke.

The garage left the scheme. I had another interview with officers and I got driven to and from work for weeks and weeks by the mechanics taking turns.

The wouldn’t tell me what he’d done as the police officer said I’d never sleep again, but given the reaction I can imagine.

Years ago I was asked out on a date by someone who made my hair stand on end but I couldn't tell you why. I said no. A couple of years later I read he had been arrested for the murder of a girlfriend. He is doing 20 years in prison now.

I live close to the area where they hold the West Indian Carnival every year. A couple of years ago it was carnival time and it was drawing in big groups as it was the anniversary. I was driving round the back streets to get to my house but I had to stop on a street because a car had just parked in the road. A guy was leaning on the car. He turned round to look at me and all my hair just stood on end. He just oozed pure evil. I edged my car past theirs as he continued to stare and I got out of there as quickly as possible.

My best friends mum had a boyfriend who gave off mega creepy vibes. He never actually did or said anything that put up red flags, there was just something about him that made my skin crawl. My best friend felt the same.

He's currently in prison for raping a 14 year old girl.

My ex next door neighbour. Gave me years of abuse and harassment for literally no reason. We were model neighbours, very clean and quiet. I just presumed he was probably envious of me in some way. He had insane levels of security for living in a safe, low crime area. It got so bad towards the end he would come out and shout abuse at us for no reason. Also had crazy booby traps all along the boundary fences as if he was scared we would trespass. Knew there was something up with him.

Searched the database and he had been done for having indecent images of children a fair few years back. Explained why they barely left the house and never had any visitors. His house also got pelted with stones by teens a few times. So glad I’ll never have to see him again. Most vile and nasty man I’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting! I now know his aggressive behaviour was probably due to me having a small child and it riled his ‘urges’. I was also quite young, small and baby faced. Disgusting

Ooh great thread. Will be following with interest.

I have genuinely never experienced this. I'm not sure if this makes me lucky or vulnerable!

My BIL ... there's just something 'bad' about him.

My boss took a man on when I was on holiday, first morning back I walk in and my blood just ran cold. I sort of talked myself out of it like you do, mentally gave my head a wobble and got on with training him etc. Two weeks later he just didn’t show for work, didn’t ring in sick and only deigned to answer his phone 2 days later and didn’t give a shit so I let him go. He then spent 2 weeks texting me vile abuse including graphic descriptions of how he was going to murder me and exactly what he would do to my body. He only stopped because the police had a word, I’ve never been so glad to hear he moved away as I was petrified for months going to work in case he was there.

Years ago there was a slightly odd couple, friends of my parents that used to socialise together.
The father was always a bit strange and the mother went through a tough time as she suddenly developed epilepsy and we looked after their daughter for a time.
The daughter when nearing the end of her stay would do all manner of things to delay her return, my mum thought it was her scared to return home and witness her mum fitting again. Anyway she "accidentally" fell down the stairs, she would use roll on deodorant on her skin to make it look like a skin issue, talk about headaches, say she felt ill after putting a hot flannel on her head to try and make herself seem hot etc all the time, we were about 9 or 10 I think, anyway her dad came round to pick her up and said something off key to my mum I was supposed to be going to their house for a sleepover to give my parents a break and for my friend to not feel so worried in her own house.
My mum suddenly stopped the sleepover idea said the daughter could stay with us and then called social services, this is the 70s and they didn't pay particular mind to my mums concerns that the daughter was being abused by her dad not just stressed by her mums illness. she had to go back to her house but social services assures my parents they would keep an eye on things, two years later my mum was late picking me up from school her dad offered to drop me had me in the car quickly I felt scared but hadn't been at 9 understanding what had gone on exactly previously however once I was in the car I felt sick and scared and worried and just cold with fear, I told him I'd forgotten my Pe kit and launched myself out the car before he could really react and went inside, my mum turned up and was beyond apoplectic when I told her I'd got in his car. He had no kids to pick up that day and my mum reported him to the police, an investigation about his odd behavior began and lots of stuff previously brushed off was pulled together and his younger son disclosed he was being abused by the father then the daughter did too. It was shocking and horrid and I know my mum felt guilty for so long that she hadn't pushed social services the police etc harder when the friend was staying with us.

Many years ago a new person joined my work. I instantly took an extremely strong dislike to him...there was something about him that seemed very very wrong, to the point that I couldn't be in the same room as him.

Within months of him joining the Paddington rail crash happened, in which the sick basted faked his own death and allowed his family to mourn him... it turned out he wasn't the person he claimed he was and was using a dead person's identity

I always thought I was a good judge of character and would be able to spot a wrongun a mile off before I started to work in a prison. I regularly speak to a sizeable of murderers, rapists and paedophiles who come across as perfectly pleasant and give off no dodgy vibes whatsoever even when I know exactly what they've done. I do believe in trusting your instinct though and you should never dismiss feeling uncomfortable with someone but don't assume you'll feel something with every dangerous person.

Anyway, my example is a relative of DH's. He was in prison a long time ago but nobody knows what for. He just sets my radar off and I can't stand to be in the same room as him. DD is not allowed anywhere near him and does not attend family gatherings if we find out he is going. Found out recently that DH's cousin stopped using him and his wife as a babysitter as something happened. Don't know what and they haven't reported it - wish they would but it's up to them.

Changing a couple of details as could be outing but.

In laws had a new friend/associate. New to the village, we went to stay with them for a long weekend and all went to a restaurant,he was already there.

Instantly I knew he was bad. The whole revulsion, skin crawling thing. I got through the meal and we made excuses and left. I said to DH, I never want to see him again, the thought of being alone with him was terrifying. DH said he agreed he was weird.

Discussed him that evening at home with In laws and they were all oh no he's really lovely , he's do anything for you etc and thought I was just being daft!

He moved away after a while and then a few years later in laws say oh btw Squirrel. You were right about that guy. Turned out he was wanted for all sorts of terrible stuff in his own country and that was the reason he'd moved. Also he wasn't who he said he was , used a fake name and the profession he said he was in, well he wasn't that either. He examined people and advised people ! Thankfully not my in laws!

Another less dramatic one. New guy at a company , I knew he was bad news and everyone really liked him, except me. He must have known I could "see" him and he was really off with me straight away. Low and behold he was a thief. Money and possessions started to go missing and yes it was him. I always go with my gut about people.

Years ago I was asked out on a date by someone who made my hair stand on end but I couldn't tell you why. I said no. A couple of years later I read he had been arrested for the murder of a girlfriend. He is doing 20 years in prison now

That's a belter. I think you win! Lucky you. You could have been slaughtered by the wierdo

A new coworker, gave me this creepy grin when I walked past his desk. Has just been convicted of murdering a British backpacker in NZ.

Fascinating thread. Can’t think of anyone I’ve come across like this (thankfully) though my MIL used to foster kids. Apparently there was one kid who was really odd and gave them all the creeps. Not that long ago he murdered his sister. Scares the shit out of me as he could’ve murdered DH or one of his siblings when he was there. MIL now wants to take people who’ve nowhere to go in for the night. We’ve talked her out of it, for her own safety and that of our DC who she looks after a fair bit.

Twice I’ve had that gut instinct about someone I would be sharing a flat with. Both times I ignored it. Both times I went through hell living with them before moving out. I would never ignore that feeling again.

It's only really happened to me once, I was 14 waiting at a bus stop in my city to go home, a young ish bloke fairly attractive sat down next to make and instantly I felt off he started to talk to me asking if I'd been at work or school. Then he said his car was round the corner and was trying to pressure me into a lift. He was insistent that I walk with him to his car he only stopped when he realised someone sitting at a bench near by was looking over at us. He just got up and left still gives me chills when I think about it. I never saw him again though.

Not me, but DS14. He went to play at a friends house (who we'd known for all his life, but who also had a new DP) about 7 years ago and came home sort of wound up and angry. I put him in the bath, read him a story and just as he was about to go to sleep he asked if it was ok not to like an adult. I said absolutely and asked for more details - he said the new DP made his tummy feel funny but couldn't explain why. He was certain they'd been polite and kind and nothing untoward had happened, but that he just didn't like them because they gave him a weird feeling in his tummy.

We listened and pulled away from the friendship a little - DS hadn't ever behaved like that before and he didn't play at their house again so the friendship sort of drifted away. Around 18 months ago we popped into our local shop for after school treats and on the front page of our local paper was the DP of his mate's Mum who had been imprisoned for sexual offences against many, many children.

I have never been more convinced that you should trust gut instincts. DH and I had both met the DP and never picked up on a thing.

tulippa I work with ex offenders and agree many dangerous men do not give off any alarming vibes. The are not over charming or creepy they just appear normal Joe Bloggs nice guys. Some absolutely would set alarm bells off but they tend to have had very dysfunctional upbringings and struggle with interactions.

But if they are feeling angry or threatened or paranoid even without any obvious hostility or change in presentation you can feel it and it can be terrifying.

A friend when I was at high school with I never liked her dad something was off about him I knew not to be in a room alone with him. There was nothing obvious. She was very troubled. I often wonder what happened to her and what went on in that family

DH's father has always given me the creeps, as far as I can tell apart from bring a dead beat dad and making some misogynistic and sexually inapprppriate comments, there's little else for me to base it on. I get such a cold reaction from him I won't be alone in a room with him.
DH understands and when our baby is here he won't be visiting.

Oh fantastic thread and thank you for the podcast recommendation.
My friends dad.. used to spend a lot of time with her growing up and even as an eight-year-old there was something I didn't like.
He once called my mum to 'congratulate' her on raising "such a young, pretty girl". She'd never let me sleepover there if her dad was home (he used to live separately to the mum) and stay over their house on weekends etc. When I've asked her as an adult she said she got a "creepy vibe" from him too.
Nothing ever happened, but I still get the creeps when I see him now.