Intuition.. people who made you go cold

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Right so I'll preface this with it's my night off I can't sleep so I thought I would listen to 'let's not meet' do not listen to this podcast when alone at night! and god the stories have creeped me the fuck out.

My own story is that I once met a coworker on his first day. Something about him just made my blood run cold, I didn't want to be around him and I absolutely didn't want to work late alone with him.

6 years later he was in the news for being a serial rapist.

Mega creep.

Share your 'no this person is bad I cannot be near them' stories

Also my dog is an amazing judge of character if he doesn't like something or someone there's a reason

I've read about something called 'duping delight'. It's when people are happy at having got away with a lie and happy at having pulled the wool over everyone's eyes. E.g. in appeals for missing people, it is sometimes the person making the appeal who actually murdered them. Police often take note of the 'microexpressions' after statements. *E.g. please come home! followed by a tiny smile lasting a fraction of a second and different from nervous laughter.

Maybe you will be recognizing things like that. So when someone says "you'll be perfectly safe with me!" You don't consciously recognise the "duping delight" or even the fact that an unsolicited statement of "you're safe with me" is actually worrying. You just get the feeling 'creepy!' and nope out of there.

Our old neighbours when I was little about 7 had a son and a daughter, the daughter who was about 16/17 used to babysit us regularly and sometimes the brother(late 20s) came in.
He used to always try and bath us and thank god we was little bastards we'd run out the house and just refuse to come back in and run wild until our parents got back.
We hated them looking after us we thought they was weird and he would knock on the door and ask to come in and play barbies with us , my dad told him to fuck right off and they never babysat us again.
Couple months later whole road is sealed off there was a little girl in the next masionette block to us and he'd raped her she was 6. He went to prison for not that long came out and now has kids haven't seen him in about 15 years and don't want to ever again.

Gosh some of these are terrifying!!

My brother met a woman a few years ago and everyone thought she was wonderful. Tall, thin, beautiful, the whole thing. Worked for a charity that helped disabled children.
I couldn't stand to be near her because she gave me a nasty feeling but I was told I was jealous (I'm fat and not beautiful)
Turned out she wasn't working for the charity, it was community service for beating up her previous boyfriend. We only found out because she was arrested for hitting my brother with a rock at a BBQ. She's also banned from keeping animals.

Years ago I had a temp job working for a manufacturers. I was office based but had quite a bit of contact with the guys who worked on the factory floor. There was one bloke in particular called Steve who always gave off a strange vibe; he was very quiet and would always hold your gaze for an uncomfortably long time when you were talking to him. I caught him staring at me a couple of times and as i found it creepy as I was only 19 and he was much older. I didn’t think much of it at the time and left the job after about two months.

I was absolutely horrified when the next time I saw this bloke was on the news and he was the ‘Suffolk Strangler’ (Steve Wright). Still freaks me out.

@QuarantinaTurner that's horrendous!!

@Loofar

Oh I do remember one of mine!
I was in a new primary school, in year 3, lovely teacher, during my first assembly I met eyes with the yr4 teacher and felt sick. He made my skin crawl. All the kids loved him. I refused to be in his class and left that school and came back the year after. Friends told me stories of how funny he was and how great that year was. I maintained that I couldn't stand him and there was something wrong with him. Years and years later. His stepson killed himself and left a note that he'd been abusing him. He'd also been abusing his niece. That's all I remember, there could have been more, he could be already out now. Cant quite remember his name now to find out. It was a C of E school.

Something to remember is that obvious monsters can rarely get close to people, especially to children, but seemingly nice people can and do.

I had this very strange feeling about 10 years ago when I was living in Germany. I used to catch the train every morning to go into the city centre for work (I lived in a small village on the outskirts) and as usual the train was packed so quite often I was standing up with lots of other people. I had about 6 stops to go before I had to get off and I remember one sunny morning this middle aged man got on about half way through my journey wearing a distinctive looking cream wide brimmed hat and he gave me the total creeps. Everything about him was odd and he stood right behind me. I couldn't move easily as there were so many people but I felt very uncomfortable. I cannot explain what it was. Then he suddenly got off at the next stop.
I used to look at my phone and not normally notice anyone but this guy really freaked me out!! Such weird vibes.

When I was 13 I had a phone the (massive rubber brick type) one night I got a txt message saying good night sweet heart. I replied saying who is this etc as you do, he explained it was for his girlfriend wrong number.

He started texting me loads and I loved the attention!! remember it was in the 1990s and we didn’t have what we have now to communicate. I remember the txts being sexual but I laughed it off didn’t understand for eg he would say soap your tits. I even rang him and spoke to him loads he was 38 from Yorkshire he said he wanted to meet me etc. I gave him my home address and he sent me some pictures of himself he was ugly so I ripped them up and deleted his number.

24 years later I was reading the daily mail at work and I was flicking through and omg there he was much older of course he had been jailed for indecent images and raping a 12 year old my heart sank. I was a foolish young girl and really didn’t have a clue about the danger I was in.

I have another one. When I was 17 I got a full time job I loved it but every now and then the area manager would come and she hated me (youth perhaps) she was late 40s. She was so nasty to me I decided to leave when I had my exit interview I was so angry and said she made my life a misery I wouldn’t spit on her if she was on fire and she would get what was coming to her. Karma etc.

2 years later a colleague who I used to work with cane up to me and said have you Hurd about such and such??? the area manger had been murdered by her husband as he found out she’s been having an affair.

I've had this feeling a couple of times; once a couple stopped to ask me directions to the road parallel to the one we were on and I immediately had that ice cold feeling of fear. They were adamant about me getting in the car to take them even though it was just round the corner. All my spidey senses were tingling and I stepped back just as the woman reached out the window as if to grab my arm. I was so scared I never even got the reg number. (It wasn't Fred & Rose!)

I read a really good book about this intuition called The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. He's a violence prevention expert that has worked for the police in America and advised the US government. Highly recommend it!

Had a friend, DH’s “friend”. This was in Latin America. The wife was lovely, the husband was born there, German parents so he grew up in a very German area. He bullied his wife, all the usual abuse. I didn’t like him but everyone else thought he was a great person. Then his parents visited for a weekend. He told us how his father had brought his yacht from Germany in the 1940’s, they had a good amount of money, expensive furniture, art, jewels etc. All of this was transported to Latin America where they built a large house.

When I saw his father sitting outside, this was a weekend -holiday place, I walked around the seating area, tables and sun loungers. About 10 metres from him. There was a clear path to our room but without thinking I went out of my way to avoid him. He had an air of aggression and the expression on his face was terrifying. I told DH and he said- yes, he’s obviously one of the high ranking Nazi’s.

I've had a few of these moments over the years. I always trust my instincts now that I'm older and wiser.

I remember an aquaintance of mine when I was a teenager, a friend of a friend really, she had an older uncle who would sometimes hang out with us and I detested him. I don't even remember his name. We had a houseparty at our flatshare one night and he came in to my bedroom and sat on my bed talking to me and I was terrified. I remember him calling me a stuck up prude, goading me. Urggh.
He tried to murder his own niece with a homemade parcel bomb a few years later.

Q

I also agree with the other posters about Sir Patrick.

When I was 16 I was a trainee hairdresser in a salon and one of the clients was a man who came across as a bit of a loner, he was early 40s and lived with his mother and he just seemed a bit off. Couldn’t put my finger on what it was but something wasn’t right and I never felt comfortable when he was in the salon and had a feeling of dread whenever I saw his name in the appointment book.
I didn’t live locally so caught the 7.15 bus to work and he must’ve picked up on the chat in the salon about this and I noticed him drive past the bus stop and then back in the other direction on a few occasions, one time he stopped and told me to get in and he’d give me a lift, I said that I was meeting a friend on the bus (this was before mobiles so he couldn’t use the counter-argument that I could call this non-existent friend and change my non-existent plans) and he said “But this is a Porsche. Don’t you want a ride in a Porsche??!”
Nope, and he never came in the salon again.

A couple of years ago I was walking along a road and an elderly man was walking towards me. I immediately felt uncomfortable but the road was too busy to cross so I had no choice but to walk right past him. As I did so he looked at me and I can only describe it as an evil look. I sped up as I walked, no idea why because he looked to be in his 80s and wouldn’t have caught me. I looked back several times and he was standing watching me until I couldn’t see him any more. I walked back a different way, it took me an extra 30 minutes but I was terrified of seeing him again.

@Poppybeaumydarlinggirl In your story the woman who gave you the creeps was the victim not the perpetrator. Do you think you were picking up on her abusive marriage?

Theres only 1 i can think of.He really put my heckles up.I was waiting on a lift,he came and stood beside me.My hairs stood up.I have never experienced it before or since.He never said anything but i felt very nervous getting in to that lift.I made sure he was behind me,and luckily i was only going up one floor.

I wouldnt be able to recognise him again.

@BlingLoving never thought about it that way but perhaps I was. She was so nasty to me I never understood why

Many years ago I was on holiday in Thailand with my adult daughter. We went into a quiet bar where there was only one other customer. He was about my age and German, and was very creepy. He wanted to buy me a drink and I very politely refused, at which point he got extremely nasty, so much so that my daughter and I made a hasty exit. He was so coldly chilling that It left us both a bit shaken.
I did see him again some years later when he was on the news for imprisoning his daughter in a cellar for 25 years. It was Josef Fritzl.

@rayoflightboy Your story gives me the shivers because in the book I mentioned (The Gift of Fear) there is an example of a woman who got in a lift with a guy she got the creeps from and he viciously attacked her. The author talks about how as mammals we are the only animal who would willingly get into a closed metal box with someone against our instinct so as not to appear rude. It's something I did many times myself but after reading that book I have never got in a lift with anyone who made me feel uneasy again!

@SerBrienneOfHouseTarth shit I've never thought about it like that before !

On a long haul flight with my then 6 year old dd, I moved her from her aisle seat to sit between dh and I as the man on the other side of the aisle just kept eyeing her up, couldn’t stop looking at her. He was late 20s, ordinary looking but the way he looked at dd gave me the utter creeps. When we got to our destination in a major city, I insisted on holding dd in my arms while we got our luggage and trolleys etc. saw him in the baggage terminal on a pay phone and he kept looking back over at us. I was convinced he was calling a contact about dd and preparing to nab her! Dh said I was hysterical but I was convinced he wanted dd, have never ever felt that way before or since.