Intuition.. people who made you go cold

[hollybollyy]

Right so I'll preface this with it's my night off I can't sleep so I thought I would listen to 'let's not meet' do not listen to this podcast when alone at night! and god the stories have creeped me the fuck out.

My own story is that I once met a coworker on his first day. Something about him just made my blood run cold, I didn't want to be around him and I absolutely didn't want to work late alone with him.

6 years later he was in the news for being a serial rapist.

Mega creep.

Share your 'no this person is bad I cannot be near them' stories

Also my dog is an amazing judge of character if he doesn't like something or someone there's a reason

My friend's brother gives me the creeps to the point I've stopped seeing her as much. He's domineering, has a horrible attitude towards women and I just flat out don't like him.

We were out having drinks a few years ago and he grabbed the bar maid's arm to look at her tattoos and wouldn't let go until the bouncer made him. I told him exactly what I thought of that and he called me a cunt. Horrible experience.

A man I knew from my teenage part time job, where I worked with my dad, is the one that comes to mind. He made my skin crawl, he would always put his hand on my arse or down my top "as a joke" (I was 15) and he was one of the coach drivers my school used for transport to our offsite playing fields, every time I got in the bus he would squeeze my arse or try and hug me. I was too scared to say anything in case i was accused of leading him on, and I sort of thought it was just banter as I wad the only student with a proper grown up "job" and thought this was what happened at work. If I had told my dad he would have gone barmy, I know that now, but i thought he would blame me too.

It was only when i met DH and told him about it, he told me he knew the bloke, they lived next door to him growing up and he was well known as s neighbourhood creep. He was really angry that it had happened to me. I still haven't told anyone else. The bloke was on telly a few years ago, that Eddie Stobart programme - he is one of the enthusiasts who goes along to their depot to photograph the trucks. I felt sick seeing him.

On a less sinister note, I have a very good intuition when it comes to general dickheads.

It's particularly sharp at weddings, where my husband is likely to make friends in his own little sociable way, whereas I find it easy to pick up on subtle indications that his new BFF is actually an arsehole. Always proved right by the end of the night!

My relationships hit list is pretty damn accurate too - I've been able to say which relationships will or won't last with great accuracy, based on very subtle indications. I only share this with my husband though, because naturally as soon as you say it in person, people want to know what you think of theirs...

Mine was a flat mate. Something about him made me very wary.

I said to my friend I thought he had either been in a mental hospital or prison because the sense of humour was off.

He was a gardener with my other flat mate. When it rained they both didn't work. I'd come home and they would have been drinking.

One day I came back from work and he threw a phone book at me because I wouldn't make him dinner.

I moved out instantly.

3 years later I was watching a 60 mins programme and he featured on it. Had murdered a man, convicted, escaped from prison and been re captured years later! 😳

Just remembered another one - DHs friend. They were best friends at school, they took very different paths in life but still stayed in touch and met up occasionally.

I only met him a few times but just didn’t like the guy at all and couldn’t understand why DH, who is lovely, was friends with him. DH likes to see the best in people and I think just felt some loyalty because they’d been so close at school. I told DH I thought he was capable of doing something awful one day. DH thought I was being dramatic

A few months later this guy went totally off the radar and we later found out that he had been imprisoned for grooming and raping a 14 year old boy. This was over 5 years ago and DH is still in shock about it.

@FudgeBrownie2019

Wow. Children are so intuitive aren’t they. You’re awesome for listening to him and acting in the way you did!

There's a guy at my work who delivers cleaning supplies to our building. I find him incredibly creepy, he's always trying to talk to me and if I ever have to let him in and give him the key to the cleaners cupobard he tries to hold my hand or touch my arm

The other girls in the office thought I was being silly, but they started to notice how he'd linger at the reception window trying to catch my eye, he'll sometimes just stand there waving till I look up then he'll make a point of waving and saying goodbye. It's just fucking creepy.

He's apparently married with kids, according to our lovely office cleaner lady.... I dread him coming each week, and I've actually hidden in the toilets when I've heard his trolley approaching. Which is pathetic cos I'm 6ft and quite a large lady I could probably snap him in half but there's just something about him. I'd hate to be in the building alone with him

I've only had massively creepy vibes the once and I have no idea if he was an evil person or not.
I was walking to pick my eldest child up from school with my youngest in his buggy. This man appears going in the opposite direction to me on the other side of the road.
Something inside me was immediately creeped out and I realised as I passed him he hadn't stopped staring on my direction the whole time.
It occurs to me now that he was probably more interested in my toddler son than me. I've no idea if he was just a bit odd or genuinely evil, but he sure was creepy.

Some crazy stories!

I don't have any of these instincts. And in fact, if I like someone at first I'll later discover they're not that nice or vice versa. But what i AM good at is as I get to know someone, I'm good at picking up subtle clues about them in a general sense. So eg extended family member who I don't know well but see at the odd family gathering etc. No creepiness but I've always sensed something a bit off about him. To me he always seemed weirdly vague and secretive.

As it turns out, he's been in and out of jail - nothing too sinister but car theft/stolen car dealing, cannabis dealing etc. I think I just picked up that he had "secrets" and that he wasn't being truthful when he mentioned things like work or living arrangements.

There've been a few like that over the years. Nothing major. Things like the DP of a friend who talks a big game but who I'm suspicious of and sure enough, is subsequently fired or can't find a job. just an ability to tell when people are bullshitting I guess.

A man my mother was "friendly" with, he groomed her to get to me no doubt. I used to hate her having "boyfriends" because every one she had during my life time (only three of them) they were fucking creeps.

I'm from a single parent family and my mum is extremely naive and not very smart, she didn't pick up on the red flags and when he offered to buy (13 year old me) a phone she thought he was just being kind.

He invited me round to pick up my present and tried to abuse me.

I told her from day 1 I didn't like him and didn't want her "going out" with him.

I was on the DLR in London going to work...this was about 20 years ago. I was sitting at the end of a carriage facing the back of the train and facing, across the gap between the carriages, the person forward facing in the next carriage.

Perfectly ordinary looking chap, not looking at me at all, just staring out of the window. I have never felt terror like it (and I have had some very terrifying experiences). The train was crowded and I had to stop myself from climbing over people to get away.

I got off at the next stop and let 2 trains go until the fear subsided. I couldn’t remember what he looked like...dark hair and an overcoat would be the nearest I could manage...I know nothing about him and have never felt that level of primal terror since but I’ll never forget it.

Some of these are so creepy. Definitely never ignore your instincts.

I worked for legal aid so dealt with so many dangerous prisoners, but always felt comfortable and respected, even face to face, one on one.
Except on one occasion. My phone rung on my lunch break and as it rung I really shuddered. It was the police, they'd arrested someone who needs immediate legal advice before they question him. Thinking I must be shivering from the air conditioning, I took the call. Worst call of my life and one I wish I never answered, from a man who raped, murdered and mutilated a child I vaguely knew. I couldn't / wouldn't help him and that call was a catalyst that made me decide to become a full time parent. It's like my body knew what events were about to unfold.

I've name changed for this just incase.

I definitely get this about people. Thought it about two men, partners to people I knew. Both men went on to hit both women. Thought a local neighbour was creepy too, he's been to prison for having indecent images of children. Why his wife stayed with him I'll never know..

Unfortunately I get the same feeling about a cousin of mine. I hope I'll be proven wrong, but the way he is going in life I doubt I will be.

I used to work in an extremely busy motor related business, and around 70% of the customers were men. I was front of house.

I am experienced enough to know how to shutdown/ignore/smile and nod masculine 'banter' as appropriate, the variety of life would come in. A few were were known criminals who had done their time. And of them, all bar the online groomer, come across as 'normal' people. The others I would never have realised.

Of the great unknown, there were two occasions I felt like 'prey' as someone up thread put it absolutely perfectly.

One young man who asked odd personal questions. His behaviour was unusual. And I got the feeling he was manipulating me and he knew his behaviour was unnerving me, but continued for kicks.
The other was an older man who made inappropriate comments. On both occasions I went to the workshop and got a male mechanic to take over. Never saw either of them again.

Realistically though, I probably dealt with abusers of various sorts, unaware, every day.

Place marking

I think sometimes what people pick up is someone sizing you up as prey. That is why sometimes you might pick it up and your DH does not, he is not the prey. Or your child might pick it up but you don't

This gave me chills. I think there’s definitely something in this idea.

A colleague of my dad's (military). I couldnt't stand him. He'd always hold me just that little bit too close when kissing me goodbye or stroke my hair. When I told my mum, she pointed out that he outranked dad and to "be nice". The worst memory I have of him is him play wrestling me on my bedroom floor. At the time I thought that was "normal" behaviour, it was only when I had children of my own I realised there is no way I'd let one of dh's colleagues go into their bedroom with them alone, let alone roll about on the floor on top of them. When my dad died, he sent me and my mum individual letters of condolence, even reading it made me uncomfortable and brought back a lot of nasty memories.

On the other hand though, I had no such concerns about my rapist until he grabbed me by the throat so...my intuition is clearly shit.

Many years ago, a colleague and I assessed a homeless 16-year old. Although he was perfectly pleasant, I felt uneasy about him and told my colleague so.

She agreed and said that something about him didn't "smell right".

He'd mentioned that he had a youth offending team worker, so I rang the team. Their records didn't show him as a risk or anything, but I asked his worker to call me back.

The YOT worker said that although he only had one conviction for violence, and that was a very minor one, he also said that the boy made him feel uneasy, too.

We declined the referral on grounds of risk. Three years later, he and another young man were convicted of beating a man to death outside a parade of shops in Eastbourne.

I'd like to say that this is evidence of my superb intuition, but it isn't. I once visited a client at his home for several months, before going on a secondment and handing his case over to a colleague. About 3 months later, after she'd closed his case, she rang me and said "Have you seen the local paper?"

His picture was on the front page because he'd been sentenced to 15 years for raping two young women, in his flat. Neither of us had got the slightest whiff of anything untoward about him. He seemed perfectly pleasant, and not in that smarmy way that can creep you out.

@lowlandLucky
She did get away from him in the end and started to make a new life for herself.
He couldn't accept this and brutally murdered her nearly 5 yrs ago.
I didn't think it was possible to hate someone as much as I hate that evil bastard.

Loving this thread OP for the creepy distraction.

When I was at primary school there was a local 'celebrated' children's author who used to do the rounds of the local schools reading his stories to all us children. Even aged about 8/9 I didn't like him one bit and got a totally creepy vibe from him. Yep, years later he was convicted of being a paedophile.....

Totally agree with all those people saying trust your gut!

@ParkheadParadise I am so sorry. What an evil cunt.

As a dc my BFF was a boy. His df was creepy. We hung out together all the time but made I sure I was never alone with him. Under 11 I felt a sick feeling in his company but didn't want to not see my BFF.
As an adult I found out he was remarried and had abused his new dw's dd's.
She never reported him and he continued to work as a caretaker at a primary school..
Wish I had told my dm he made me feel odd..

My cousins boyfriend. I hated him from the moment I met him. I found him creepy and weird, and she blamed it on his culture and religion differences.

He has since been arrested for raping and beating his secret wife to death back in his own country. And we found out the reason my cousin always wore the same black cardigan even in summer was because he beat and burned her.

My dh got a weird vibe from our dc’s headteacher.

Couple of months later, he was “taking time off for personal reasons” Straight away dh said “I bet he’s been found to be guilty of being a paedo or something”

It then emerged he was a paedophile and had been soliciting 14 year old boys