Intuition.. people who made you go cold

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Right so I'll preface this with it's my night off I can't sleep so I thought I would listen to 'let's not meet' do not listen to this podcast when alone at night! and god the stories have creeped me the fuck out.

My own story is that I once met a coworker on his first day. Something about him just made my blood run cold, I didn't want to be around him and I absolutely didn't want to work late alone with him.

6 years later he was in the news for being a serial rapist.

Mega creep.

Share your 'no this person is bad I cannot be near them' stories

Also my dog is an amazing judge of character if he doesn't like something or someone there's a reason

When I was a (way too young) teenager me and friend hung out with a group of slightly older guys.
One night we ended up confessing to each other having a deep terrible fear of one of the guys, completely normal seeming, no different to the others. Both said the same thing - wouldn’t walk through the woods alone with him.
Yet another one who turned out to be a rapist years later 😳
Always trust the instinct

Please, always trust that instinct. Psychologists would say we're reacting to things we've observed unconsciously. Trust that feeling and keep away from these creeps. Stay safe.

I had a boss years ago who I always felt uncomfortable around. He wanted to dance with me at a staff dance once and I just refused . Couldn’t say why, I didn’t want to touch him. It turned out he was a Paedophile and ended up in jail years later.
We moved to a new village and there was a man there who used to give my husband lifts to work so I could have the car. He and his wife came round once for coffee and he offered to babysit my young sons. I didn’t take him up in it, felt uneasy. He turned out to be abusing his stepson and a friend of his stepson also. He ended up in jail too eventually.

When I was young, about 14, it was a big thing to be a model. I was over my local fields looking after my younger sisters and a man approached us. Said he was a photographer, very charming and wanted to take pictures of us. Tried to persuade us, very flattering and personable. I didn’t get any evil vibes, or worry he wasn’t a photographer. I just had a funny feeling. I told him we lived over the road and said we wanted to change into nicer clothes, but we ran home and hid.
He was in the paper a few years later (he had a really unique jacket description and a clear description of him and his behaviour). He was arrested for having a studio full of indecent images of young girls.

Also my horrible creepy classmate who tried to touch girls grew into exactly the same kind of adult, being jailed for sexual attacks in his early 20s.

also DH used to work with ex offenders - said those who had been serious Domestic Violence crimes always creeped him out as there was something about how effectively they would charm/manipulate others that was terrifying

Ugh, I've met quite a few as a child and an adult I wouldn't be surprised to see on the front page of a newspaper but have never been quite that spectacularly vindicated!

One in particular was the boyfriend of a family member. Sleazy-creepy vibe rather than violent-dangerous. All I know is that it turned out he'd been cheating on her repeatedly and widely for god knows how long but I would never have left my child with him. Couldn't precisely say why. Relieved when that ended and I didn't have to come up with excuses for not letting them babysit.

I think I have a reputation for being a bit judgemental but I don't care. I believe in trusting your instincts, especially where your children are concerned. It doesn't mean you'll spot everyone (as PP have pointed out) but it's a useful filter.

Worked with a small company years ago, they took on a bookkeeper who seemed fine to them and I was regularly told off for not accepting him and being off with him. But I just knew he was a wrong-un.

Money went missing but they wouldn’t accept it was him. Much later it transpired he’d stolen the company chequebook and was spending company funds.

I've only read half a dozen posts but I think this is a thread where I'll read a couple then leave it for a while. Awful awful posts. I hope you are all okay.

I've name changed for this....

My father in law gives me that feeling. Right from the first time I met him. He lives 5 hours drive away so I don't have to see him often. He's a very dominant man and first time I met him he asked me questions for hours. My now DH took me to the living room for a break to watch some tv. He followed us and continued to keep asking questions. He then put on the tv and flicked to the preview of the porn channels and asked me if I watched those channels.
My H doesn't have a good relationship with him so we don't go often but we do have a dd now who I will never leave alone with him.

Had a meeting with someone about a school I was thinking about... from the minute he walked in the room and shook hands I couldn't wait to get out.. in fact told my mum later when she asked.... less than a week later he was arrested and subsequently charged with child abuse..
I'd had bad vibes before but nothing as visceral....

Twice. With no proof I was right.

Once in my twenties I was waiting for my boyfriend to pick me up in his car, I was outside a busy nightclub and across the road I felt someone glaring at me. He was stalking me for about 15 minutes till my lift arrived and I remember feeling terrified, and he knew. I can't describe it, he was just glaring at me and matching my steps on the other side of the road, barely blinking.

The other time was when an acquaintance held my baby. Really nice man, he was the life and soul of the party we were at but as I passed my son over fear gripped my body and my chest went cold. I had to make an excuse and get my baby back off him. Fucking hell I'll never forget that till the day I die.

I've been with horrible people, spent time with a predator, been in difficult positions with bad men but never have I fucking noped out of a meeting as when that man held my baby.

Sorry neither of those end with "and they were in the news 3 weeks later for dismemberming their wife" but the fear was real, even if the proof wasnt.

Went to uni with a guy who I really disliked, he was always super polite and nice to everyone but had no friends, there was something about him which made you unconsciously move to the other side of the corridor if you passed him. It’s like he was surrounded by a negative force field. Couple of years after we left he was in court for brutally murdering his elderly neighbour.

Last person I felt like this about was my boss. Well now my ex boss - all nice and sweet and “I’m everyone’s friend” - my mind screamed “evil bitch from hell” - I left.

Always go with your gut instincts on people.

I currently work with a man about same age as me late 30s. I cannot pinpoint what it is but he makes the hairs on my arm stand up, I will do anything but be alone with him. He makes me uneasy.

There was one guy who used to freak me out, I used to call him the werewolf because he was really hairy. Whenever I saw him, I'd avoid him like the plague but he was always trying to engage me in conversation, I must have been about 5-6 years old. My dsis told me years later that whenever she was at the same youth club as him he used to ask her to set him up on a date with me. He must have been about 13-14 years old at the time. She said it was never said jokingly. About 4 years ago he said the wrong thing to the wrong person and his car was burned out with the warning that his house would be next.

@Casino218 in Leeds? I used to live near the park where it's held, I had similar experiences regularly there :-(

As a church organist for many years, I worked with a lot of different ministers. One guy who covered when the minister was on holiday I really didn't like. He was a teacher at the DC's high school, although they didn't have his class. He always singled me out to speak to at the after-service coffee and I always made excuses to get away from him. He was ultra-boring, but just made my skin crawl. He was convicted a few years later of child pornography offences and sent to prison.

I was in a class at uni with a guy who gave me these vibes. Very creepy, stared a lot. He offered to take me on a weekend trip away (and had the money to do so). I declined.
A few years later he was all over the papers for murdering a young woman who lived next door to him. He's currently in Broadmoor.

My dad had a friend that really gave me the creeps when I was growing up. I used to run upstairs when he visited.
He got sent to a secure prison for mentally ill people when I was 10. I was never told what for but have some memories of him grooming me and my sister that would really ring alarm bells now.

Cant think of any for me but my dog also has a great sense of people. We were waiting in our car for someone and there was a man stood on the street. And she started full on going mental at him, barking growling, absolutely ready to attack. She barks when someone comes to our door but not like this. She's a massive dog and you'd have heard her at the other end of the street.
Scared him and his pal who ran out of someone's dark garden, it turned out they were trying to break into a house!

I was about seven or eight and my mother kept trying to push me into a friendship with a boy the same age whose parents she really liked. I was very lonely and friendless but I couldn't bear being anywhere near him but couldn't explain why. On the face of it he was perfectly ordinary.

He eventually became a vicar then spent nine years in prison for child sex offences.

I’ve not, but lovely soppy 15 year old dog has twice had that feeling. We were walking past a man sat on a bench, and she cowered low down and growled, and another time a good 5 years later we were out hill walking when a man was coming up as were going down, I thought him strange as he was wearing just some normal trainers and jeans not ideal for walking in the hills, and she did it again cowered and growled at him.

Guy used to run playschemes in summer, i never liked going as he set me on edge bear in mind i was a young girl so 10ish. Found out last month he has been in court for historical sexual abuse 🙈🙈

My ex had a friend that I had a massive aversion too. I would cry when my ex let him in the house. (My ex was an abuser so I was left to think it was in my head) anyway a murder happened and I became absolutely certain this guy had a murder weapon in the bags he left at ours. I was almost hysterical with the thought and I ended up calling the police but I was confused while I did it due to the amount of abuse I was in a muddle. Anyway it wasnt a murder weapon itself but it was class a drugs that were linked to the murder. Honestly feel sick to my stomach writing it and the danger he put me and my children in. At least it made me finally leave.

Recently it's been sir and Patrick valance and jenny harries.

I was horrified by the first press conferences, I am not scientific but something about what they said and how they said it left me utter shell shocked and panicked.

As the weeks have gone on I feel justified. They led us down the wrong road m