Is lockdown making anyone a bad mum?

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I use the tem bad mum lightly, but it's making me shouty and snappy. It's lowering my usually quite high tolerance level. I feel like I'm drowning!

They are 5 (next month) and 6.5.

They're getting under each other also which isn't helping.

We are lucky enough to have a garden which helps for a while, weather permitting!

Anyone else?

Does drinking wine in the afternoon count as bad mum?
Unlimited screen time?
Abandoning bedtimes ?
Letting them make their own food (obviously not babies)?

If so then yes, I am.

Although I have reinvented the ‘Tidying Olympics’. Gold, silver and bronze medals awarded for the tidiest bedroom.

You have no idea how much better that made me feel

My 2 year old has far too much tv right now, especially as I am heavily pregnant at the moment. Twice today. Mr tumble is educational right? 😄

What day is it? Who knows! Is it Easter yet? Why not! Easter eggs for lunch everybody!

Diarrhoea by 3pm

Bad mum, bad tum

Not a bad mum so much as highlighting how lazy I am as a mother.

@ComeOnEileen11

I feel you!

Is anyone else just 1000 x more tired as well?

@ComeOnEileen11 I know you're being flippant, but with 2 speech disordered children who learned to sign watching him, I can promise you Mr Tumble genuinely is educational you can't go too far wrong with a lot of the Cbeebies stuff, imo

This week I have mostly been a shouty mum.

Yep 100% feel like nothing is getting my best at the moment. I've got 3 here and I'm also supposed to be doing what I can to work from home. DP is out every day at work still. Mine are just turned 2, 5 and 10 and we are in a flat with no garden or outside space. We are all on top of each other and I feel like I'm failing. The middle one is missing school hugely and the older one is going to miss out on everything that you usually get in your last year at primary. The youngest is so physical and needs wearing out which I just can't do in the space we have which means he is a demon and destroys everything the other two try and do and isn't sleeping well because he's not being worn out. If this goes on much longer the mental effects on us all will be significant I think.

Yes, it turns out my dh can work from home AND home educate ds9 whereas I am a shouty, stressed, miserable and terribly unhappy mum who can’t get her child to do a damn thing and isn’t working either.

He’s like super dad, and I am shitty mum so now it feels like a competition that I am losing.

14 yo has done approx 3 hours school work in 2 weeks and sleeps until 1pm most days - he goes to bed at 9pm so I'm guessing he needs it!
I cba to home school a nearly 15 year old who's brighter than me, he'll be fine, probably.

I'm a teacher.

I too am a shit mum. I've got three at home but my mental health has gone to shit. I'm just pleased if we all get through the day. The exciting and fun things that all these super parents are doing can wait.

On the contrary, I’m an absolute splendid mum, what with the unlimited Xbox and tv time

I have some days where I wake up and I'm determined to be amazing, I'll get my work done, get the house clean and do loads of crafty fun with the kids to keep them entertained.

By 2pm, I'm exhausted snappy and there is paint and glue everywhere and glitter in every orifice you can imagine.

Pass me the wine.

Yes, snappy, impatient and irritable. Not shouty luckily. I suffered with PND/anxiety after DC2's birth last year and it turned me into a horrible mum to DC1 who was only 3 at the time (very challenging at times). I've been on Sertraline since last year and it changed me, I still get worried/irritable but nothing like I was.

I've hated feeling the snappiness creeping back in, but it's hard, and I'm being kind to myself. As my DC are 4 and 1 and full on!

What does pp mean their child has had tv on twice? Id say maybe mines been switched off twice while we go in the garden but we had a nice couple of hours watching Peter rabbit all together mine spend more time watching tv then they do anything else. I can't cope with occupying two bored 3 year olds for days on end otherwise. They're happy.

@ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal my tv is on all the time too 😳

It’s driving me nuts tbh, I’d had enough of kids tv before this pandemic. Dh has got them Disney plus or whatever it’s called and we just seem to be watching the incredibles on loop. I need silence, not toot toot, Disney, screeching and getting laughed at by two miniature two year old versions of myself!

I’m definitely a crap mum. Ds (14) has just come down stairs with bright red eyes. Just realised he’s been playing on his computer for 6 hours solid! Other than school work, a daily dog walk and the occasional bit of baking I’m really struggling to occupy a grumpy 14 year old boy and pre-pubescent 12 year old girl.

@Burgerandchipvan

That’s ok - this week I have been mostly a shouty wife! 😁 my husband loves to say “I didn’t grow up in a shouty house” - I’m always like ”you’re in one now, buddy!”

I'm an ex teacher (now an educational consultant) and the FudgeBrownie world has gone to shit - the DC do whatever the fuck they want, mostly, while I try not to cry on webinars and stab the dogs who insist on barking if a pigeon farts within a 17 mile radius of the house.

Currently hiding from my responsibilities in the bath....

Yep, bad mum here too. Mine had chocolate for breakfast...