Is lockdown making anyone a bad mum?

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I use the tem bad mum lightly, but it's making me shouty and snappy. It's lowering my usually quite high tolerance level. I feel like I'm drowning!

They are 5 (next month) and 6.5.

They're getting under each other also which isn't helping.

We are lucky enough to have a garden which helps for a while, weather permitting!

Anyone else?

Also, I'm a single mum with 3 kids, and normally I work full-time. I usually pride myself on having a tidy, clean home but at the minute it feels minging! I'm lazier now than I've ever been, even though I've got shitloads of time.
Is anyone else finding this?

Thank you for this thread
Any attempts to teach my 4yo to read/phonics have gone to shit. How do teachers do it?!
The 2yo is rampaging everywhere - she is so spoilt
There is much wine happening
Also I've become sooooooo much stricter with them! 2yo feeding herself and 4yo dressing herself. Enough is enough!

More tv
Less shouting
Bring shouty and stressed wont help to get thru it
They will reflect back your behaviour
You shout they will shout
Take some time out
Do jo wicks with them
Think about how to stop shouting
If it means more screen time so be it

www.unicef.org/coronavirus/6-ways-parents-can-support-their-kids-through-coronavirus-covid-19

I lost my temper and screamed a lot today, and its not even their fault really, I have too many and the schools have sent so so so much work and I feel like my head will explode.... While they just want to play minecraft. I honestly can't remember ever feeling so overwhelmed. My DD is at a grammar school and I'm scared she'll go back behind, another is doing (or not) GCSEs... Am really feeling the pressure and am ashamed to say its not bringing out the best in me... Oh added to which due to illness four of us have actually not left the house in three weeks and two days (not that I'm counting...) there honestly isn't enough alcohol in this house for these circumstances...

Sti tomorrow is another day right. I'll do better then

. Monitor your own behaviour

“Parents of course are anxious too and our kids will take emotional cues from us,” explains Dr. Damour. “I would ask parents to do what they can to manage their anxiety in their own time and to not overshare their fears with their children. That may mean containing emotions, which may be hard at times, especially if they’re feeling those emotions pretty intensely.”

Children rely on their parents to provide a sense of safety and security. “[It’s important that] we remember that they are the passengers in this and we are driving the car. And so even if we’re feeling anxious, we can’t let that get in the way of them feeling like safe passengers.”

Tomorrow another day
Stop breathe and think how you want this to be. You are in control of how you deal with your stress.

Hahaha! I just clicked on YANBU- 102% of voters agree with me I’ve never seen that before!
Has lockdown made me a worse mother? No probably not, I always felt like I was woefully failing my poor dc before. Now it’s just in different ways.

@CarolineIngalls
My DH does the same
Why is his job 5 days a week and mine 24:7? He's planning his fucking lie in and relaxing gardening and afternoon nap time for the weekend the bastard - he has another think coming

@Embracelife

You are on the wrong thread. People are here to support each other and make themselves feel better, not to have someone preach at them about how shouting is damaging their children and they need to do better.

We are all doing our best ffs.

My DD is at a grammar school and I'm scared she'll go back behind, another is doing (or not) GCSEs

And so what?
Many will fall behind in maths or french

But if they can get thru this positively the resiliency will count.
If it takes longer to get top grades it wont matter in the grand scheme
What will count in the long run is how they come thru this emotionally not their french grade.

If you are shouting today then tomorrow is another day to find ways to manage better
I agree let it go...what s done is done. but dc will pick up from parents .
Look up the advice
Look after yourselves
Take 10 breaths.

Hell yes. I have suffered terrible PND in the past and being "trapped" with the kids brings it all back.
They are amazing kids but need me all the time. Have all the toys they could want, telly, a garden but always want me to play. I try to join in for a little while but I'm also trying to teach P1 online, write reports and engage in CPD. I feel so guilty and that they'll think mummy never wanted to play with them.

My 3 kids spent the afternoon "tattooing" eachother with felt tips and eating their way through a dry box of cookie cereal and half a block of cheese, while I cracked open the gin and binge watched don't tell the bride. So yep, I'm with you!

3 year old who is desperately missing his grandparents/ friends? and a 2 year old who went and got me the car keys earlier because she wants to go OUT (not just for walks) here. It's bloody hard. Red wine helps.

My DD is only 10 months old and I've had little baby bum on A LOT whilst shes sat playing with her toys. I've been beating myself up about this for ages so this thread is making me feel slightly better....

I think it depends who you ask....

If you ask my kids, I'm amazing!
They have been bought a switch, the Xbox's have been given ultimate game pass, youtube has been loaded onto the firestick, free run of the garden through the day and tonight we played blackjack with pennies for gambling.

If you ask my work they'd probably wonder what work I actually did this week

If you ask me, I'm tearing my hair out with the lack of constructive activity anyone has actually done - we did build an entirely inaccurate Lego coliseum though

www.edp24.co.uk/news/education/headteacher-common-sense-tips-for-stressed-out-parents-1-6582545

Thank god I found this thread! I only have 1 child but WFH with a 5 year old and a lazy husband who doesn’t do any housework is gradually driving me insane. Feel like a terrible mum, short, snappy, preoccupied with work and then feeling guilty for not doing enough homeschooling

We had one week of home school with worksheets on paper and that was fine. Quite nice actually and made a break from remote schooling (or attempting to) my sixth formers. But this week has been wall to wall video instructions, upload this, paint that, sing this song in Spanish (wtf) log in for online PE and now my own school has decided video lessons are the way forward cries I can't make the mic work and I look hideous... it's so distracting!

I noticed these two weeks that DH appears to be the only dad involved in any way with any of the home learning (and yes he does have a job to do too). Interesting, isn't it?

Oh and I have to do online register apparently with year 12 after Easter early doors. They are not going to be up are they?

You are a good mum just going by the fact that you’ve chosen to keep your kids safe at home - I’ve seen mums and dads taking babies and young children to the supermarkets this week!

But yes I am also a shit mum - 2 year old at home and heavily pregnant so I’m not going to lie we’ve spent a lot of time sat on the sofa and I’ve also become quite shouty, it seems in place of nursery she finds extra things in the house to mess up and I can barely get off the sofa let alone do double house work.

Also another one who’s DH has stepped up a lot! Mine is self employed in construction so is home with us - things that have been broken for months and months are suddenly all being fixed, it’s lovely as I’ll have everything done before I have my baby.

Cbeebies is absolutely educational and has been on almost constantly for the past week.

Im lying on the sofa feeling like shit. I've been extra snappy today and near punched dp when he commented i was being a bit sharp. We've been home for two weeks and i finally managed to persuade dc4 to work on his reading and writing yesterday after arguing for about half an hour. What makes it worse is dp had them doing it right away this morning no arguments and when i said something i got don't distract him ffs i started this work. Then dance practise... Omg we're working away together and dp keeps sticking hia nose in. Urgh. Just feels like nothing is going right and poor dc is getting the brunt of it. Just feels like i can't do anything right at the moment

I'm a single parent. My dd aged 7 is still going to her dads so I at least get two days from five to wfh properly.
But we've done hardly any schooling. Her spelling is coming on amazingly thanks to unlimited roblox on the iPad and chatting to people 🙄. And I got a text from her iPad telling me just how much usage it's had. I've also been shouty and cross. It's hard.
None of us are bad parents. It's just overwhelming right now.

for everyone.