Is lockdown making anyone a bad mum?

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I use the tem bad mum lightly, but it's making me shouty and snappy. It's lowering my usually quite high tolerance level. I feel like I'm drowning!

They are 5 (next month) and 6.5.

They're getting under each other also which isn't helping.

We are lucky enough to have a garden which helps for a while, weather permitting!

Anyone else?

I’ve actually had the opposite happen. I’m a terrible mum every other day of the year but at the minute we’re all just sitting in our pants eating and having a good old time

Bad mum! I
Was shit go start with, Now I am appalling!

Loving this thread! Feels great to know I'm not the only one fucking up on a daily basis...my toddler is now demanding the "mote" if whatever is on TV isn't to his taste

My 15 and 19yos are up at noon, bed at no-bloody idea and doing stuff I don't understand so couldn't help them with it if they asked.
I'm setting work for my year 6s, hiding in the summer house when the weather allows and doing bugger all.
The kids are happy.
I'm bored solid and miss my class and routine.

Whenever I try to do something with my toddler that isn't TV or throwing the toys everywhere, it normally ends in me being super shouty mum: don't eat it, stop, listen to me, don't touch the walls with paint hands, don't paint yourself, don't draw on the table. I hate it and think why do I bother? I'm not even convinced he enjoys painting any more than watching blippi.

I’m really struggling today. We haven’t done any school work And I ordered Pizza Hut for tea. I feel awful. My husband is coping so much better and I feel I’m failing every where. I did a tiny tiny bit of work online for my job and that’s it. I can’t carry on like this 😭. I have been trying- I really have, but I’m not good enough. They’re 7 and 5 and need reassurance everything’s going to be ok- but today I just can’t.

Yes much more shouty mum than I ever was - all my friends seem the same though

How on earth did people manage before birth control, tv, internet and nursery 😮 iv been wondering how my granny coped and she had 8! Iv got 3 but one is 18. Even he is being difficult. But my SEN 7 year old and NT 8 year old are hell on earth when not occupied. And the youngest can never be left unattended- I really am starting to appreciate teachers and the minders who run the after school club!

Yes. I have a couple of mental health issues including attachment issues from my own distinctly dodgy childhood and this is hard. I'm terrified I'm going to become my parents if this continues much longer. The only way I can get any mental health help is if I go to A&E...which essentially means there isn't any. GP won't prescribe me anything and my Psychiatrist has been reassigned.

All my friends are posting pictures of their craft activities and their picnics and their baking and I'm drowning. They are currently bouncing on the furniture pretending to be Waffle the Wonder dog (21 months and 5 years) and I'm wondering if I can open a bottle of wine yet.

Way too much tv and Xbox happening here

i'm doing brilliantly - working full time, doing some school work with my youngest two, cleaning and cooking every day. yes my dcs have screens, and chocolate, and have seen me losing my shit once or twice. One of them hasn't had a shower for a week. But on balance, I'm amazing.

I bet you lot are too!

(I'm pretty sure very few dads are beating themselves up like this).

None of which you’ve said makes you a “bad mum” a stressed and anxious mum certainly but defo. It a bad mum.

We all have over moments never mind having a moment in a pandemic lockdown.

And and helps

Yep, Ds10 has done no school work today, he has stropped and all he’s eaten is crisps and Dominoes. I feel that I should be making healthy meals as I theoretically have more time. But I cannot deal with even the possibility that they might not eat it, it will be something else to get cross about. I wish I could be like parents on Facebook who do all this exciting stuff but have never been very good at having fun at home, I work partly from home which both helps and hinders

It's not only making me a shit mum.
it's also making me hyperaware of my shitness because my whole world has shrunk to these four walls and the people in it.

Blippi is probably the best parent in our house

My 19 month old has learned her first song! Not twinkle twinkle no...the theme tune to Waffle Doggy

TV dinners with tablet are more regular than I would like

Working from home on telephone all day a 5 year old who fights with her sister aged 10 I get 30 min break lunch so up at 7 to do school work (not 2day) for 5 yr old then its disney and youngest makes crafts shes made a cat bed lol. However I'm shouting a lot for silence and no fighting

There are some outrageous mums on this thread - who the fuck is eating Easter eggs already? —I didn’t know we could do that—

Behavioural psychologist. I am professionally patient.

I have become a bad and snappy mum. It would help if husband didn't keep making up chores to avoid childcare, and then acting all outraged when I complain. He genuinely thinks "we haven't cleaned that out in years. It needed doing" is a legitimate argument to avoid playing with the kids.

I’m really struggling to keep up with everything, 1 million emails and instructions from work and what feels like 10 emails per child (3dcs) from schools with various log ins and study hub instructions, google classrooms log ins, student email log ins and so on and so forth, who’s meant to be doing what work and if they’re actually doing it correctly or at all!. I feel like I’m spinning 1000 plates and they’re crashing down around me! I don’t know how other parents are coping-feel like an utter failure of a mum. I have a 3 year old to entertain and 2 oldest (one gcse year) to keep focused and doing what they should and my work is slipping too I’ve never felt pressure like it! How are people coping with it all because I’m not.

Thank you all. Thank you. Feeling much better that I am not the only appalling mother that hasn’t done an elaborate craft and taught her 3 year old preschooler to read Tolstoy today...
Andy Day should be fucking Knighted

@SybilWrites I agree, and DH tells me to not put myself under so pressure but I'm a SAHM do it is my job to look after DS. DH more than pulls his weight at home which I'm lucky about, no random chore excuses like @CarolineIngalls

I have found my people! But today is over- kids in bed and wine in hand

I'm pretty patient and laidback. I cook, clean, tidy, talk to them, support them, help with home learning every day.
BUT their screen time is through the fucking roof
I don't always make them go outside every day - even though I know I should - and it's late to bed and late to get up. I was always shit with routine anyway