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Neighbour isn't a key worker

351 replies

TrulyOutrageousJem · 03/04/2020 12:36

Since working from home I have moved my desk into the bay window. It's nice to see cars and occasionally people and to not be staring at a blank wall. I'm new to the street and only moved in two months ago so I'm not on chatting terms with anybody yet just a polite hello.

As I'm in the window I have noticed that my neighbour facing gets up each day, takes her small baby (younger than one) to the nursery and her kids to school then comes back home. She isn't working outside of the home as far as I can see and both her and her partner are there all day. She drops the smallest off at 8am and picks up at 5:30pm Monday - Friday so not even a reduced time. I like to keep to myself but it's driving me insane that she is playing the system while I have my small children, yes driving me insane, while trying to work and homeschool but that is just the way it is.

Today it looks like they are doing a spot of DIY because they are childless for the day/week?!?!!!

I desperately want to say something.

OP posts:
TheRealShatParp · 03/04/2020 12:38

This would really piss me off, too.

sufferingsandra · 03/04/2020 12:39

I am a key worker who works from home...we do exist.

That being said, I am keeping my children with me.

Do you know what their jobs are?

Trooperslaneagain · 03/04/2020 12:39

Mind your own business.

ViciousJackdaw · 03/04/2020 12:41

I'm not on chatting terms with anybody yet just a polite hello

So you don't actually know what they do, do you?

PawPawNoodle · 03/04/2020 12:41

Maybe you should put your desk back where it was and get on with some work.

oohnicevase · 03/04/2020 12:41

They may be vulnerable , someone I know has to take her kids to school because the dad is a danger .. fuck knows why the dad didn't get booted out at the first sigh of it but the social workers insist he is out the house. !

Whiskersandtwitch · 03/04/2020 12:41

Close your curtains.

LaurieFairyCake · 03/04/2020 12:41

Loads of key workers work from home Confused

Like every teacher right now who is working a total system in school and out of school

My GP is an online one, there are HUNDREDS of them working from home online using video for patients

Mia1415 · 03/04/2020 12:41

I'm a key worker and I'm working from home. My son was in school last week, but due to his asthma I've decided to keep him at home with me, but I absolutely could send him in if I needed to and I may well need to at some points.

monkeysox · 03/04/2020 12:42

Maybe they have ehcp or a social worker

ilovesooty · 03/04/2020 12:42

I don't understand this investment in the daily life of someone you don't even know.

HoffiCoffi13 · 03/04/2020 12:42

Do you know what her job is? DH is a key worker who works from home. My children are at home and I’m a SAHM but unless you know their exact circumstances it’s hard to comment.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 03/04/2020 12:42

Bloody hell. Do your job instead of worrying about your neighbour.

I've just been watching my neighbour taking pictures of cars that have parked. Mental.

Frankiecandle · 03/04/2020 12:43

Maybe you should stop tracking what your neighbours are doing and get on with your work.

HoffiCoffi13 · 03/04/2020 12:43

Maybe their children have additional needs, or are considered vulnerable in some way? Maybe they are under social care?

langkaw · 03/04/2020 12:43

The child could very well have an ehcp or be classed as vulnerable and therefore better off in school.

TheRealShatParp · 03/04/2020 12:44

What are these responses?! Mind your own business?
How does this not bother other people?!
If they’re home then their kids should be to. Who can argue that?

Legoandloldolls · 03/04/2020 12:44

Two of my kids have ehcps so might be going back to school for respite / some normality/ therapy in some form after Easter. I might decide it's not worth the risk bu then. But I'm not a key worker. It's not the only sanario

DisinfectantDoris · 03/04/2020 12:44

It's not just key worker kids. If social services are involved or there's an HCP or other vulnerable category they are to go in.

binkyblinky · 03/04/2020 12:44

That's fairly judgmental - I am not a key worker however I have two children with special needs who are classed as vulnerable (NOT because of my care but because they both have echp plans at school)

I could send them to school if I wanted, however I have decided against it for their safety.

There could be several more reasons why the children are going to school still!

TheRealShatParp · 03/04/2020 12:44

@HoffiCoffi13 good point, the children may be vulnerable.

HoffiCoffi13 · 03/04/2020 12:45

TheRealShatParp I am a chair of governors. Our school has some children still attending despite both parents being at home as they are deemed to be safer at school.

welldonejean · 03/04/2020 12:45

Do you WANT your kids to go to school? I don't, I feel they are safer with me than mixing with children of NHS workers or supermarket workers.
I suggest you mind your own business.

HoffiCoffi13 · 03/04/2020 12:45

X post!

Dishwashersaurous · 03/04/2020 12:46

You can’t just send your kids to school because you want to. There has to be a reason

If it’s not because you are a key worker then the most likely explanation is that the children are under a social worker care plan. And the social worker has decided that the children must go to school, even if the parents don’t want to send them

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