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AIBU?

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..to think that parents should not send their children to nursery in pyjamas and expect staff to dress them?????

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 09:32

Well am I?

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ScottishMummy · 12/09/2007 11:19

indeedy i agree

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 11:24

No they probably should not have discussed it with me, still not right though in my opinion.

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mummytojess · 12/09/2007 11:28

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islandofsodor · 12/09/2007 11:55

Do you mean daycare nursery?

The nursery dd would have gone to if we hadn't moved house which took children from birth -5 said that they preferred us to send babies/toddlers in PJ's/sleepsuit if it meant they were not rushed in the morning. She said they had a few children who had to wolf down their breakfast so fast to get there on time they were sick.

islandofsodor · 12/09/2007 11:58

In fact before dd started school nursery I used to drop her off at my mums at 8.30am on the way to work having literally just got her out of bed so still in her nappy and PJ's.

islandofsodor · 12/09/2007 11:59

Twentypence.
The reason the mums were immaculate is probably becasue the children were still in bed whislt mum was getting ready.

I never wear make-up, I prefer the extra 10 minutes asleep!!!

kslatts · 12/09/2007 12:21

My mum is a childminder and is happy for children to arrive in their PJ's if that's what the parent's want. She looked after my children before they started school and on a couple of occasions I took them in their PJ's, usually if they had been awake during the night. By having breakfast and getting dressed at mum's they could have an extra 30 minutes in bed and didn't have to rush around getting ready. One child my mum now minds comes in PJ's nearly everyday.

AnnieBesant · 12/09/2007 12:31

Well, I took ds along the road to nursery half dressed sometimes (he had a bit of a thing about puttinghis clothes on). Nursery were fine about it. Of course they might have been gossiping about me behind my back to other parents but they were always very nice to me and ds.

Twinkie1 · 12/09/2007 12:34

I have done it with DS - if you can tell me how to dress him in his day clothes whilst he thrashing around like a bag of mad cats I will gladly do it.

Nursery are very laid back and don't mind and if any of the other parents are get stuffed, what business is it of theirs!

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 12:37

Yes but I could so, whilst your child is being dressed and fed and whatever else, my child and the rest of them are being ignored, what would happen if we all decided to leave the staff to do that??

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3andnomore · 12/09/2007 12:39

well...I doubt that will generally happen..I mean that everyone decides to do that...highly unlikely I would think!

Also, if you want constant one-to-one for your child, Nursery is the wrong place....

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 12:43

Sorry, maybe I am being unreasonable in my belief, but it feels as if the nursery system is a basis for some parents to shirk from their parental responsibilities.

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CitizenColditz · 12/09/2007 12:49

I think you're being a bit petty, to be honest. If you feel your child is genuinely missing out on attention because other children are wearing Pjs, perhaps you could send you child in Pjs too?

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Jazzicatz · 12/09/2007 12:52

They are a brilliant nursery, and I don't think they are or would neglect any child. I just felt really sorry for the little boy as the teachers implied that the parents just don't really care and dump the boy off in all sorts of conditions and leave him for the staff to deal with. I feel really sad for the little boy, who seemed very sweet, and felt that it is so unfair for him to be dumped like that! I know it was unethical for them to talk to me in this way, but I cannot help how I feel about it!

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ChorusLine · 12/09/2007 12:55

I have taken DS in PJ's on the odd occasion (with clean nappy) due to having a bad morning!

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 12:58

Jazzi, it might really be that...it is possible...but sometimes it's diffult to know what's going on in other people's houses and the why and all that....maybe that mother is suffering from severe depression and is finding morning difficult, maybe the mom has an illness, that isn't obvious that makes it hard for her some mornings, maybe the child has some behavioural problems..or maye the child is just more determined and stubborn about what they want to wear as other Kids....there are so many maybe's....do you really care so much...do you feel your child is missing out...!
Just remmebring that, when I only had es and was working in a hospital, with very early starts to the shift, I sometimes took my son to teh childminder in pj's and he would have breakfast there and then get dressed...because, unless he woke up by himself, I found it cruel to wake him so early or rush him (shifts started at 7 something am...and usually if you have an early you had a late the night before, which meant my ds may well have been wiht the childminder until I came from work, which would be 9pm...
Honestly everyones situation is different, and you don't know the reasons behind it...

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 13:03

x-posted there...so Jazzi, the issues you actually have is that you think, or have been told that this boy is suffering some form of neglect...which, actually makes it even more outragous and reach of confidentiality as I origianlly thought- but that is a issue with the nursery itself and not your fault. That is obviously more seriously then...but like I said in my previous post there are possibly other isssues...not that that is fair on that poor little boy,of course...

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 13:04

breech not reach...

Emprexia · 12/09/2007 13:10

I dont see the problem, the nursery i worked at used to dress at least 4 or 5 kids regularly everyday.

If they dont want to do it, they need to make it clear to mom thats its not acceptable, otherwise MYOB

Just because you can get up, get yourself and your kids dressed and breakfasted before going out, doesn't mean everyone is that organised.

Anna8888 · 12/09/2007 13:18

It depends on the nursery and what it offers/what its rules are.

I don't think parents should send children to nursery in PJs if the nursery doesn't offer an "early morning" washing and dressing service. But some nurseries do. I know a nursery here in Paris where children are dropped off in PJs in the morning and are bathed, fed and in PJs when their parents pick them up in the evening.

nappyaddict · 12/09/2007 13:20

most childminders i know do this and manage to cope fine and they often have a higher ratio of children to look after than in nursery so i can't really see why it is a problem.

however arriving late for breakfast and expecting them to bath the child aswell is unreasonable.

MadamePlatypus · 12/09/2007 14:50

To be honest, I would probably feel grateful to the mum for making me feel so organised. Hey, he may still have toothpaste on his face, but look he is in proper clothes - yey me!

3andnomore · 12/09/2007 15:13

lol Madame....

pyjamagirl · 12/09/2007 15:15

If I took my DD to nursury in Pj's the scary teacher would probably make me stand in a corner with a dunces hat on so yanbu

PillockOfTheCommunity · 12/09/2007 15:21

I will admit to taking the boys in to nursery in pj's occasionally. if they have slept late, or I have, and dressing them will make me late for work.

Nursery are fine with it

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